Ahhh

[Aley009]

Please don't judge me, I just need some kinda advice.
Basically I had a beautiful baby boy in December, I am 26 ( turned in feb) and my partner is 40 ( turned in jan) to try and cut a long story short, we've had sex a few times and amongst those times once using a condom which split. He has said several times about having another child but I took it more as he ment in a while as our boy is 3 months. Anyway! There would be a few issues I am worried sick of if I was pregnant. One I lost a lot of blood during my section and suffered with high BP towards the end of pregnancy.
Two I think my family would take it badly , he seems to think his family would be really happy for us as "he isn't getting any younger "
And three I am meant to be maid of honour at my coisens wedding in September , she already bought my dress ... I know she will also take it bad I'm most scared of her reaction! .... I love my boyfriend very much we have been together 8 years and I couldn't imagine a better father, I think the main issue for me is my coisens wedding, have any of you everrrr been in a similar situation?

Not exactly, but I was 37 weeks exactly on my sister's wedding day and had the same nerves about telling her/ having to alter dresses, going into labour as she started walking down the aisle etc.

With regards to your cousin, don't worry, she will hopefully be happy for you and understanding that you didn't plan for it to affect her wedding.

Offer to be as flexible as she needs and say you are happy to be maid of honour still but understand if she wishes to choose someone else as you may not be physically up to it.

Try to decide exactly what you want to do and don't worry about what anyone else wants. Ultimately it's your choice.

My DS was 12 months when I fell pregnant with number 2 so not as little as yours but I know how terrifyingly the notion of two so little can be. They will be so close in age and hopefully be the best of friends though.

Good luck

I would be more worried about whether I was fully healed from my section tbh with you. I had a c-section in December too and the thought of being pregnant again three months later is petrifying. There are good reasons they tell you to try and leave it a year before getting pregnant again.

Assuming you're not pregnant, I'd look into getting a more reliable form of contraception sorted out.

There is that too but I have looked it up and read a lot of success stories even as little as a month after a section totally fine pregnancies but you are right it is petrifying!

Thanks for the replies