Cannot stop worrying!

[Kir01535]

Hi everyone, I'm 17 weeks pregnant exactly and I just cannot stop worrying about everything! I have no real reason to worry, I've had no bleeding, no cramps (apart from round ligament pain) I think I can feel the baby move sometimes but I'm not too sure. I have my midwife appointment next week and I think she will listen for the heartbeat. I'm just so worried there isn't going to be one. Is this normal? I really just want to know they're okay! I've read a lot of stuff about still births and deaths in the womb that have given the mother no indication, im just so worried I'm going to lose the baby

Yes, I think it is normal. A certain amount if anxiety is normal in such a new situation. In a few weeks you'll be able to feel your baby fairly regularly and in 3 weeks you'll have your 20 week scan. You'll probably find that really reassuring (I know I did!) as they look at your baby in amazing detail. Can you do some positive things, like a pregnancy diary maybe?
Your mw might want to listen to the heartbeat (mine did at this stage) but they don't always for the very reason that if they can't find one it doesn't mean one isn't there- it's just hard to find.
Please don't read up on deaths in the womb, it really can only increase your anxiety and achieves very little.
Please try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy

Thank you, I just want my scan now so I know my baby is okay. I do need to relax a little more, I'm a worrier by nature so that doesn't help. I can't wait to start a kick counter so I can see patterns for my peace of mind. I read things from the net which makes me really anxious, I need facts and figures to put my mind at ease but can never find anything relavent. It's the feeling of helplessness which is getting to me x

I'm already finding out that no 2 pregnancies are the same with regard to kicks. I'm 23 weeks with my second (a baby girl ) and her movements are very different to ds- she's a constant wriggler whereas he had long periods of quiet. They really don't seem to form a pattern as such until nearer 28 weeks. Feeling them is reassuring but not if you get stressed
about that too!!
If all was well at your 12 week scan and you've had no bleeding/pain/cramps then you're fine. I know it's hard but don't borrow worries from tomorrow!

I think it's normal to worry, this is my 3rd and I paid for private scan at 16 weeks to check he was ok as I couldnt feel him or had any symptoms. Have my 20 week scan tomorrow (am 22 weeks) and im so nervous even though I now get more regular kicks,
It's reassuring to know your ds went through periods of being quiet Nicky as I've said mines just not as active as my 2 girls were, must be a lazy boy thing. X

He used to go quiet at night and let me sleep! Madam seems to think 3am is party time in there!

Awww both my girls were like that. This baby only really kicks when im at work and in bath. Might just start telling myself I'm having one of the few considerate males

Aww that's really reassuring. I just think I need constant reassurance, my 12 week scan was fine, I've had no morning sickness and the only side effect I have is sore boobs, which I still have now. I'm finding comfort in the fact they are still sore. I think I can feel the baby at night time, never through the day. Mostly when I'm relaxed. But it's not strong enough to know for definite and I pass them as muscle twitches or gas bubbles lol thanks so much for your responses. I really appreciate them x x

I must add, this is my first pregnancy so I'm not sure what to expect really.

Awww I'm sure he/she is fine. The odds of anything being wrong are so very slim after 12 weeks. Baby will get stronger and soon you'll be wondering how they get so high in your rib cage xxx

Haha, I'm looking forward to having them here so I can look after them and know they are okay! Although, I reckon the anxiety will be through the roof even more lol. It's amazing how much you love and care for them already. It's overwhelming, I'll be a wreck at the birth x x

It really is amazing and your right when they are here, we find more things to worry over but at least we can see them, comfort them and know them properly, once they form the routine of kicking the anxiety eases a little (or it did with my other 2, so hoping it will again) x

Good luck!