Hi Mumsnet, I hope some of you can advise me what to do.
I'm 39 and I've just found out I'm pregnant. My boyfriend already has three children and two grandchildren (he's 44) from a previous relationship. We are from quite different backgrounds, he's working class and doesn't own his own property; I've got degree and own house etc.
I just don't know whether to go ahead or not as, aged 39, time is running out. He's a lovely guy and works hard as a plumber, is good company and we get on very well. I don't like his family as half of them are on benefits/have tattoos/go to the bingo. Having said that, they are nice people and having seen some horror in-law situations, I don't envisage any major arguments.
He is being neutral about the whole thing. He said whatever I decide will be ok. He said he's not going to tell me what to do as doesn't want to get blamed for any decision I might regret.
I'm swinging almost hourly from keeping the baby to getting a termination. I don't know what to do.
He is quite limited on his interests in life (football, tennis, at a push going to Bluewater). I've often asked him to come to the park/go for a cycle ride/drive to a pub in the country; he just doesn't want to do that. On the flip side, he's kind, caring and as loyal as they come.
I should probably have split up with him and tried to find someone with a bit less baggage and someone who's a bit more suitable, but we got together when I was feeling quite lonely and he just ended up staying over every night and 18 months on, this happens.
It wasn't planned and when I told him he went pretty quiet for a while. I don't know what to think.
Advice please?