Need a hug and some reassurance!

[Lilwelshyrs]

Hi all,

I'm finally pregnant, yay! We've been trying for almost 4 years. I have PCOS and have been on the metformin since September and it's worked a treat. My BFP came as a complete surprise last Friday (my Birthday haha). I've worked out that I'm 5 weeks and 6 days pregnant.

Yesterday I had a bit of a panic and a quick emergency trip to the docs. Basically I've had some bleeding - I think you can call it spotting. It's really light red and mucus-y and I'm not in any pain (except for being a bit constipated ).
I've tried to keep practical head on but I can't help but feel totally emotional right now...

I've done the obvious "looking it up on the internet" which has it's positives and negatives. So I'm desperate to find out other people's experience of spotting in the early weeks.
I feel very helpless right now - if it is a miscarriage the doc said I probably wouldn't feel it because the baby is the size of a peppercorn right now...
Should I take another pregnancy test?
Has anyone else experienced this and been fine?

Thanks :)

I had some spotting with both my pg (one MC and one ok so far - 19 weeks) so it really means nothing at this stage.

There is no point taking another test at the moment. As it would likely be positive whatever the outcome.

Overall the odds are in your favour right now. The first 10 weeks (at least) are pre-written there is nothing you can do but wait and hope, which I know sucks!

Step away from Dr Google and the pregnancy tests and here's an internet hug. Go and make yourself a cup of decaf tea xxxxx

So many of us have been where you are xxxxxx

big hug from me too - i prescribe a bar of chocolate and whatever tv programme takes your mind off things x

Whilst bleeding in pregnancy is not normal it is not unusual either. There are lots of reasons for spotting and it doesn't necessary mean the worst. Try and remain positive, you can't infkuebce the outcome so just have to wait. Fingers crossed for you.

Hi hugs congratulations

Don't take another pregnancy test. You've had a positive, so step away from them and Google now!
I have mixed stories.
I've had 2 miscarriages, one being a missed miscarriage. Both were very early on with bleeding. Like your doctor has said, you won't feel anything with the actual bleeding coming away, but you may have mild cramps like period pains.
However, I found out I was pregnant last year when I was around 6 weeks. I started to get bleeding which alternated between red, pink and brown. I went to the doctors and got referred for an early scan due to previous miscarriages, and was 7 weeks something at the scan. They told me it was a small haematoma which was described to me as a blood blister. I was told not to have sex until at least a few weeks after the bleeding had stopped as to not aggravate the blood blister. I carried on bleeding for a couple of weeks before it eventually absorbed itself, and then it was never mentioned at my 12 week scan.

So basically I'm saying as you know it could go either way but I really hope it's just harmless bleeding for you. It can also be 'implantation bleeding' which happens early on and is very normal.
If you're worried book another appointment with your doctor for in a couple of weeks time and hopefully you can get referred for an early scan.

Good luck

Hi OP, I've had bleeding in both pregnancies - one sad story, and one happy one. The first, I started bleeding at 10.5 weeks, and a scan found that the pregnancy had stopped developing some time before. This time I had much heavier bleeding, plus really horrible cramps at about 6 weeks, was taken for a scan (in an ambulance after ALSO having a really nasty bicycle accident - worst day ever), and they saw a perfectly normal embryo and a heartbeat. Four more perfectly healthy scans later, I'm now nearly 20 weeks.

Practical stuff: you can test positive some time after a miscarriage, so step away from the tests, they won't tell you anything. If the bleeding gets lighter and stops, test again - if it's still positive then, see if your doctor can send you for a scan. I found this page informative and it helped me to maintain some positivity after healthy scans this time around. It has lots of stats and information which I really like when going through stress. If you prefer to just not go into too much detail it may not help you! www.baby2see.com/medical/miscarriage.html

Hi guys,

Thank you for your replies. I'm feeling much more positive from reading your successes and your successes after the sad stories too.
I didn't know I could feel so emotional over something that has been an idea for nearly 4 years...

I spoke to a midwife to book in my first appointment and she wasn't all doom and gloom either (and like yourselves!) has told me to get off of Dr Google.

What will be will be I guess. I can just keep my fingers and toes crossed (although don't they cancel each other out if you cross too many - I seem to remember as a kid ).

Omg sian. You must have been terrified! I'm a horse rider and am being super careful. No more show jumping for me - even at home!!

Glad that it seems as though you have a lovely understanding midwife! It's exactly what you need when you're feeling how you are.
My doctors and midwives have also been very reassuring and helpful and make me feel a lot better.

Keep us updated if it helps to make you feel better! Good luck

Yes she was lovely.

I have another question now!
So when I first got my BFP I had the most incredible butterflies all day. Then the following day I felt nauseous in the morning when I hadn't eaten straight away.
Now I don't have any of that... I don't have morning sickness, I don't have tender boobs, im actually feeling less constipated and I don't feel like I need to pee all the time...
Is this normal?! Perhaps my early symptoms were more of an excitement reaction?

My symptoms stopped completely several times in each pregnancy, and I've never had morning sickness. They come and go, with no rhyme or reason!

Phew... Ok that's good to know :) I know some mums don't get any morning sickness or anything... I kinda want SOMETHING just so that I know the little one is still there!

If it's any reassurance, I did have the sickness and nausea 24/7 for around the first 17/18 weeks, but it seemed as though everyone I spoke to said the same thing to me, 'oh, I never really had any of that!' Which didn't make me feel better! But it might do for you!
I know a couple of people who didn't know they were pregnant for a good few months, so obviously had no symptoms either!

I was DESPERATE for something to reassure me, too. The bump is at least proof positive that there's something in there, but I still feel like I crave reassurance. Friends tell me to get used to it because this is how the whole rest of motherhood is!

My symptoms changed and evolved constantly. weeks 4-6 I was a bit tired with a slightly reduced appetite. Then weeks 6-8 I hated ALL FOOD! apart from toast and hated anything that smelled strongly. THEN I got itchy boobs about weeks 7-11, then they got super sore, then week 10 I felt better/awful depending on the day. Now at 19 weeks I occasionally forget I am pregnant for a micro second at a time.

It is hard to not read into symptoms but they really are unique to your current pregnancy and cannot be compared to anything else.

Good luck!

Oh and, sianihedgehog's post has just reminded me, that although I had the reminder of pregnancy through my nausea and sickness, I actually didn't develop a bump for ages. I would say that in the past 10 weeks is when I've been showing (I'm 35 weeks now). So there is always something to worry about, symptoms or no symptoms!

?? Thank you everyone ??
I'm feeling so so much better than when I first posted. Still a bit emotional but I'm fine. I'm actually utterly exhausted today... I'm not usually this tired this early on. Quick work power nap for me I think!
And I love what sian said about needing reassurance as a parent - this is only the beginning!
Thank you everyone. It's been so so helpful asking for advice :)
Xxx