telling people?

[pennygirl26]

how did u tell people ? how quickly? were you nervous? im nervous

I was really nervous as it was a surprise to both of us! I was especially nervous telling my parents as they live in a different country and had to pluck up the courage to call them separately as they are divorced. DP was also really nervous telling his parents and chose to tell them without me present. He said "I've something to tell you" and his mum chimed in "I know!!!". It was her birthday the day before and we were all out and she was very drunk. Apparently when she got home (she was drunk/asleep in the cab) she told DP dad that she could tell by the colour of my face that I was pregnant! Weird!!!

My partner and I have just finished having this discussion. I think we are going to tell our families in 2 weeks as I'll be 7 weeks then I think I'll wait to tell everyone else apart from maybe my 2 best mates. I really don't know though! I'm excited to tell people.

I told everyone last time, even strangers! Hated having to tell people I had miscarried. This time, just told a couple of people, stuck to the rule of 'only tell people good news if you want them to know bad news as well'. I'm dreading telling a couple of people, last time they were supportive but suggested I should wait a good while before having kids after the mc.

ive only told one cousin. im about 7 or 8 weeks. im worried about telling people i have 2 cousins who are pregnant at the moment. one of them hasnt gone down well. she has been pregnant 11 times losing 9 babies and these have been with a number of different men so my situation is different. its just made me worried to tell people.

We are doing it in stages. Parents and siblings got told straight away and told to keep it quiet. After we'd seen a heart beat I told my best friend and we told a couple of very close friends.
Everyone else will get told after we've had the first trimester testing out of the way.

I kind of thought of it that if I lost the baby, who would I want to know?

The person I'm really worried about telling is my boss... :)

I've told my mum, my best friend and my sister, I only found out on Sunday Morning :)

We've told our parents already. My grandma has since the day I got married been including "When will I see my first great grandchild?" in every conversation about me, apparently she did it again shortly after I told my dad and he just broke down and told her. All are sworn to secrecy.

Have our first OB appointment and scan on Friday, if all goes well we will tell our siblings. Everyone else after 12 weeks.

I told my boss at 12 weeks (because of health & safety and possible sickness absence/time off for appointments).

We told our parents and close family at 14 weeks.

Everyone else will get told after the 20 week scan next week.

I'm a bit weird and hate people making a fuss of me or being the centre of attention; if I had my way I wouldn't tell anyone apart from DH and we'd just cocoon away for 9 months!

I told my mum straight away. We told the rest of our close family at the weekend after the dating scan. We'll tell our friends in the next couple of weeks when we have the blood test result back from the Downs etc testing (parents & siblings sworn to secrecy in the meantime). Wider world will be after 20 week scan. Work as late as I can get away with it...

I told my mum, brother and his wife pretty much straight away. I wish I had given myself and DP more time to enjoy our news as my bro and SIL were struggling with fertility issues (I did not know this)

The first few weeks were tough due to the above and the fallout from it so I really wish I could've enjoyed them more.

I suppose I was a bit naive in thinking that everyone would be jumping for joy like I was and jumped in feet first in telling everyone.

We told no one until 12 weeks with ds. With this pregnancy I told people as I saw then from around 9 weeks (bf, cousin, sister and parents first though) as it was Christmas and I just knew I wouldn't get away with a completely dry one. Had it not been Christmas I'd have just told bf, cousin and sister I think. With ds it was nice having the secret for a few weeks but i was bursting by the time we got to tell people. With this one I was too knackered and sick to be very excited really. I'm much more excited now (24 weeks).

We told nobody until after my 12 week scan. As it was Christmas the following week, we told people then. First parents and siblings, then friends.

My DH unfortunately has verbal diarrhoea so although I am only 9 weeks everyone he knows, also knows about me

He told his parents and sister when I was 4+1!!!

I told my parents and 4 close female friends.

My concern is what if I miscarry? Or there is another problem? I don't want the additional attention if I need time to privately grieve.

Obviously I hope and feel everything will be fine but I think everyone at some point has a niggle of 'what if' worry.

I think close friends and family is fine just now but all others after 12 week scan

xx

I was really nervous telling people as nobody expected us to want kids. We're very private people and whenever anyone asked me about kids I would say 'I'm happy as I am' so when we told everyone they were all shocked, I sent my sister a pic of the scan and she replied asking if one of my cats was pregnant!! Ha ha!! It was a 7 week scan so not much to see. Xxx

Itsnotmeitsyou, sorry for your loss. I did exactly the same last year, told people - family especially, as discovered I was pregnant 23rd Dec 2013 (was already over 5 weeks at this point), couldn't drink etc at Xmas & New Year - then had mmc when baby passed at 7 weeks and told work colleagues was pregnant as realised something up 5th Jan 2014, had to go docs first week back at work & had to book scan for 10th Jan. Then had to tell everyone when confirmed mmc on 10th Jan, so was bit of a mistake. Was off 2.5 weeks in end as it was drawn out and horrid, but luckily managed to get new job near home so left end Feb. Found out was pregnant again 20th July 2014, told only a few people til 12 weeks (family at around 7-9 weeks as my sister was pregnant too), much more sensible & am now 38 weeks - baby boy due 1st April :-) Will work out in the end.

hough , I'm glad to hear things worked out for you the following time, but it does put a dampner of the excitement of the first few weeks. Last time I wanted to tell everybody, this time I think opening my mouth is a jinx. Anyway, I have my 12 week scan Thursday, hopefully I can get properly excited after