Calling in sick with possible spd?

[Doodlekitty]

I've been in agony all weekend. Last night I could barely walk, today slightly better. Midwife told me a few weeks ago there is nothing they can do yet (23 weeks) and just to take paracetamol, but it's so much worse. I have an office job but a fair amount of walking between meetings Tec but essentially a desk job. Will I look pathetic if I call in sick and call my midwife again?

Just to reiterate what 2015 and others have said, just because you don't feel pain doesn't mean you can carry on as normal. Mine flared up at 10 weeks but it took until I was 20 weeks for me to realise that I needed to sit down to put socks and shoes on every single time or risk setting things off again.

Re physio appointment. It is worth punshing to see a specialist. I saw a normal physio first and he was pretty clueless about PGP, he referred me to a women's health physio who is fabulous. i thibk treatment for PGP can be a bit hit and miss and you may need to fight a little for the right care but it's worth doing as there are lots of things that can be done to help.

There's always one...
Pregnancy=disabled? No
Pregnancy + SPD= disabled? Yes. It's a debilitating condition that can seriously impact on a persons ability to carry out basic activities of daily living without asjustments.
It was this very attitude that meant I felt incredibly guilty (and still do) about having to only do desk based work from 22 weeks leaving my colleagues to do all the physical clinical work. On more than one occasion, I'd go and help them out because they were frantically busy and always ended the day in agony because my body physically couldn't do it. It's hard enough accepting I need to adjust without feeling others are judging me for overplaying the pregnancy card.

Sherbet, I'm glad you managed ok,but some people have actual diastais of the pubic symphysis. It can disable you and leave you in a wheelchair for weeks. I have one colleague who is still on crutches months after giving birth. She's a real 'just get on with it' type and an (ex now) marathon runner. Definitely not a moaner or a hypochondriac.
Spd comes in varying severities and it can be really nasty. An employer would also leave themselves open to legal action if they didn't allow for reasonable adjustment for an employee.

Diastasis, bloody autocorrect!

So, i feel like a bit of a fake now. Been off all week and im pretty much pain free. Speaking to the physio this afternoon and dont know what to say

just because you are pain free doesn't mean it wont flare up again. Sometimes I have very little pain but the minute I go without my crutches or dont use support of some kind and im in agony again

Thanks guys. I fought the urge to go back to work today because of the advice on here, but im going to increase my activity to see how it goes. Im going to make some notes for call with physio to ensure I cover everything.

How did people get by before mumsnet?

I didn't really! in my last pregnancy I had absolutely no idea what spd was or how to deal with it. this time I'm a bit more clued uo but had to join mn for some support as I don't have much in rl.
don't know what I did before. a good idea to take notes for physio. just remember to stop anything that causes even the slightest twinge. im in agony today, can barely move because I put the clothes away (think it was all the bending and standing for too long) luckily its the exes day with the DCs so dont have to do anything!

I got SPD at 19 weeks and some days were worse than others. I managed to struggle to work on all but my worst days, despite my GP and midwife telling me to get signed off sick. I really wish that I hadn't, the anxiety that I experienced from being in constant pain really wasn't worth it and I should have been kinder to myself.

Just got off the phone. Being fit with a support belt tomorrow and shown some exercises. Fingers crossed for improvement