advice/help please?!

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I am expecting my 3rd child in May, this waa completely not planned and I am now 29weeks and I found out about 5 weeks pregnant. I am quite young I am only 23. I still haven't really 'announced' I am pregnant although I have a bump now and I feel a bit shy to get my bump out there I am always wearing my coat and scarf (giving the weather also) I just cant bring myself to 'accept' I am and to wear what I want, I feel the need to hide it? , I haven't really spoken to anyone about how I feel and I think im becoming worse as I get bigger? I am ok to mention it to my sons DS1 nearly 5 and DS2 nearly 2 and my partner somtimes but I dont really mention it to be honest. ( and me and my partner dont talk about it that much to be honest) I cant help but feel so unattractive and I feel like there is no way id even look o.k and I feel so fed up in this 2 bed when we need a bigger place but cant afford one right now. My boys are so good, well behaved, so loving and I am so grateful for them and they make me so happy , but I am worried if a 3rd child will affect this or how I will cope? I have been so busy working or being with the boys that I do hardly anything for myself or with ny partner as a couple. I often get jealous of seeing my friends or others doing things id love to or seeing couples enjoying themselves on holiday or breake away or looking happy when they have kids aswell. I am not sure what I can do? or if its 'normal' to feel like this with a unplanned pregnancy. I also had quite long labours DS1 I had retained placenta and in and out after birth with it and blood transfusions and DS2 3rd degree tear and needed IV iron as my iron levels were so low. I have elected for a section this time but I feel everything's going way to fast and I am not ready yet?

sorry for the long post just lookong for advice really

Bless you, it sounds like you haven't come to terms with your pregnancy. Perhaps you discuss your feelings with MW, you may have PND, which can happen 3years after last pregnancy. Being that you sound like a loving, attentive and brilliant mum I suspect when your newborn arrives you will love the child as much as you do your others.
I had an unplanned twin pregnancy, MASSIVE shock! My older DC's were 17 & 19!!! It took a while for me to get my head round! I love my twins to bits!!! you will be fine

Posted too soon! Also your bad birth experiences have had a big impact on you.ELS will hopefully alleviate some of this worry. Please speak to someone in RL. All the best, I hope you post again for support.

im 23 and on baby number 3 aswell. im single so got to do it on my own so know exactly how you feel. baby was not planned, but I fell pregnant when my DD was 10 months old. DD wasnt planned either but I cant imagine my life without her. im sure things will be completely different once baby is here. my pregnancy seems to have gone too quickly this time, I think its because I am so busy looking after the other two, we dont really have time to let it sink in. good luck and if you want you are welcome to inbox me x

ps, I had a shitty time of labour with both and am dreading having to do it all again. im already on crutches for the rest of my pregnancy so things really arent that great but got to keep smiling. happy mothers day

for you to fattymcfatfat, you sound a very strong person, all the best.

thank you. but im only strong because I have to be. Sometimes I wish I could cry and cry but I have the older two to care for and they need me.

cunningcat - Wow! twins how lovely though! Glad your alright thanks for replying I was thinking I may have prenatal depression slightly.

fattymcfatfat - Wow. you sound amazing! must be hard but rewarding knowing you have done such a good job yourself! Yes feel free to inbox me also Thanks xxx