Hiding a pregnancy

[mariam101]

I have recently found out I'm pregnant I not sure what I gna do hubby doesn't know but I know he don't want anymre I really scared I just wanna know if anyone has had to 'hide the pregnancy and for how long for' I wanna keep the bby but I know family will ask me to get rid if in the time gap to be able to do so do u think there is any chance of hiding the pregnancy for almost this length of time. Wishful thinking I know plz help

It's no one's choice but yours whether to keep baby or not. Don't let others influence you, there's worse things than babies. Don't keep it a secret too long especially from your husband, when your ready to tell people you just say I'm pregnant and I'm keeping it and I'd love your support. Be firm that abortion isn't an option. Your family may have their reservations for whatever reason but I'm sure in time they'll come round and support you and will adore your baby when it arrives. My Mum was not happy at all about my 3rd pregnancy but I gave her time to get used to the idea and she's since been a huge support and is besotted with the baby.

I agree with the pp. It's your choice. As for how to hide it, you talk as if you have other children so you may find you start to show earlier. Easy to cover with floaty clothes but harder to hide if your husband is being intimate especially given he'll know your body well and may spot the physical changes he has seen when you've been pregnant before. Maybe have a think about telling him earlier than everyone else otherwise you might get him thinking all sorts if you start to avoid letting him touch you.
Good luck

Ur r right I have 4 other children which is y everyone wudnt like it if I had another one I showed quick in 2 of the 4 pregnancies plus I not exactly slim I about 10 lbs overweight all my over children are 5 n under which is another reason y everyone would b disappointed if I keep it I just don't know what to do

everyone wudnt like it if I had another one

What's it got to do with everyone else? It's your body, your baby and your choice and you should never have to feel threatened.

It must be chaotic in your house already having 4 children under 5 would 1 more really make that much of a difference? ?? Yes it will be hard but probably no harder than it already is. Is there any other reasons your dh and family might suggest you have an abortion other than you've already got 4 little ones?

I would struggle to hide a pregnancy, I am already the size of a house and not even half way there...

You cannot hide it forever, and it's best to come clean about it. You will feel better if you let your DH know straightaway. It will be like a bit weight lifted off your shoulders.

First off - drop 'everyone' this concerns YOU and DH.
If it's extended family who will be disappointed then tell them to do one. It's none of their business.

Second - this mostly just concerns you more then dh tbh

Third - how did pregnancy occur? Failed contraception or lack of contraception?

Fourth - do you want the baby? Is dh likely to make an ultimatum of him or the baby? If he does you need to question your marriage seriously.

I would talk to dh but make him promise to keep it private til you reach a conclusion.

Good luck 4 under 5 must be exhausting!

OP. You should not have to hide your pregnancy. End of.

Your DP and you need to discuss the fact you are pregnant and you need to be clear that although you understand that he didn't want another baby, it has happened and you are not going to bullied into an abortion. As a compromise I think you should also have a serious discussion on whether this will be your last child and if so, what precautions you will take as a couple to prevent a further pregnancy.

It is nobody's business but you and your husband. You should tell him and ask for his support.

Hiding the pregnancy just adds a lie and deceit to an already fragile and volatile situation

Be strong and use us if you need to.

Congratulations

Thanks to all of it advice I have been really good at taking my pill continuously at the right time each and every day I was on the mini pill so there is no break I just take it continuously. With all four pregnancies I was in the pull n again took it religiously but still managed to get pregnant each time after fourth I decidedbto try the implant but wasn't right for me and hubby didn't want a vesectomy so wen I went on the pill AGEN we knew there was a chance it could happen but was hoping it wouldn't. My third child has a mild cerebral palsy which makes it much harder in itself. I just don't want family to judge me I guess and with them knowing I pregnant again they will think I done it purposely.

Was on the pill** stupid phones

Keep us updated what happens, definitely tell dh sooner rather than later

You need to talk to your dh. If you've already conceived multiple times whilst on the pill then he can't abdicate responsibility for it. Either he needs to take responsibility for contraception too or you'll end up with this dilemma again.

To hide a pregnancy until termination is no longer a possibility would mean concealing it until 24 weeks wouldn't it?

If you tend to show early I would think that unlikely.

It is better to be honest. Both about your pregnancy & about your intentions to keep the baby. I am absolutely not against termination, far from it, but you must not have one if you do not want one.

Yes, your DH is entitled to his opinion, but the ultimate choice has to be yours.

No other person gets a say IMHO, not even close family members.

I've just noticed that your DH "didn't want" a vasectomy - but you are pretty sure he would want you to terminate your pregnancy.

What a charmer!

Yea he sed if I was to ever get pregnant AGEN I wud have to keep it quiet n have abortion wiv out anyone knowing Cuz he don't want anymre at the moment he hasn't figured anything out yet I'm still questioning what to do eiva I hide it as long as I can or I come clean and tell the truth I'm just stuck and confused