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20 week scan...terrified of bad news.

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Mamabear14 · 11/03/2015 19:45

Is it normal to be this worried about my 20wk scan tomorrow? My 12 week was ok and my downs test came back 1:19500 but I'm more scared this time than I was for the 12 week one. What are the chances of them finding something wrong with baby?

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ApplesTheHare · 11/03/2015 19:53

Didn't want to read and run... obviously I can't promise you everything will be fine but the odds are good having got this far Smile I was terrified throughout pregnancy and it heightened around each test, but my gorgeous dd is now a happy 6-month-old! Pregnancy is a funny thing, and to worry is to care. Good luck Thanks

Lovethebubbles · 11/03/2015 19:56

I had mine 2 weeks ago (second child) and I was petrified, as I was the first time round. I asked the sonographer if it was normal to feel really nervous and she said most people are and that it would be strange if you weren't! I was on the loo all morning Blush. Good luck for yours... I'm sure it will be fine. Flowers. Anomalies being found, I'm sure are less common than everything being fine.

mindalina · 11/03/2015 19:57

are you normally a bit of an anxious person? if so then yes I think it's pretty normal! I cried waiting for my twelve week scan I was so worried there would be nothing there, and I'd not had any fertility problems or anything, I'm just a worrier.

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Mamabear14 · 11/03/2015 20:10

I am naturally a massive worrier, which doesn't help! I just keep having the nightmare that I've got this far and bonded and it's all going to go horrible. I know my fear is probably irrational! I have been on the loo all day too, certainly haven't needed the lactulose today!

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 11/03/2015 20:13

Pregnancy is such a worrying time. I'm sure it will be ok (the odds are in your favour)
Best of luck

youlemming · 11/03/2015 20:17

I know it's difficult not to worry but try and think of it as another chance to see your lovely little baby rather than for checking to see if there is anything wrong.
Hope it ends up being a great experience for you Grin

HazleNutt · 11/03/2015 20:29

totally normal, I've been preparing myself for bad news each time. But remember that while you can of course read a lot of sad stories on MN, vast majority of women are told at their 20 week scan that everything is perfectly fine.

MissTwister · 11/03/2015 20:33

Hi Mamabear, mine is tomorrow too! I am a bundle of nerves but I read something on hear that cheered me up the other week. A sonographer said that in her 6 years she'd never come across no heartbeat at a 20 week scan. It kind of put my fears into perspective a bit. But I know what you mean, just the phrase anomaly scan isn't reassuring.. .

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 11/03/2015 20:40

The 20 week scan is nerve wracking: I think it's pretty normal to be worried something is wrong! I've been petrified both times. This time my scan was the same day as I was due to get my blood test results to tell me whether id contracted slapped cheek syndrome or not, so I was doubly anxious! I think the chances of something being found to be seriously wrong at this stage is something like 1% which hopefully reassures you a little. And if there is anything wrong it's far better to know now. Best of luck!

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Mamabear14 · 11/03/2015 20:58

Thank you all, the 1% is reassuring, as is the heartbeat thing. I hope everything goes well for your scan too MissTwister good luck!

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MissTwister · 11/03/2015 21:00

You too!

S2b16 · 11/03/2015 21:04

I'm the same, this is my 3rd and I can't sleep over it, dp is so laid back it annoys me. I worry over everything but there's nothing that can be changed through worrying (if only I followed my own advise). Good luck, I hope your little one is 100% healthy and happy x

Sparrowlegs248 · 11/03/2015 22:08

I've been really worried too. Had mine today. Baby was in an helpful position so they couldn't do all the checks - i have to go back for another go to check heart spine and kidneys. Everything else was fine so feeling a bit reassured. Apparently what happened today is quite common so don't worry if it happens to you too.

wildpoppy · 11/03/2015 22:17

Just so you know they can find something wrong that isn't a disaster. My dd has a very common anomaly - a kidney problem that was corrected at 10 weeks old with an operation and she is fine now. It was horrible finding out at the scan and the language barrier meant I didn't know whether the baby was even viable after they found the problem (the german monographer had great technical english and terrible emotional/nuanced english). But it was all ok. So there might be a problem but it might not be too bad.

geekymommy · 12/03/2015 13:12

I'm always scared any time I go to the OB or the doctor, that they're going to find something Seriously Wrong. I don't have much advice on what to do, but I want you to know you're not alone.

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Mamabear14 · 12/03/2015 16:32

Thank you all, the scan went ok. I have an anterior placenta which explains my not feeling much, and after 2 boys I am expecting a girl! Good day all round Smile

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IceLemonGin · 12/03/2015 16:43

Glad to hear it Mamabear. A little girl, congratulations!

I have my 20 week scan next week and I am incredibly scared. It's reassuring that I'm not alone in feeling like this though

birchwoods · 12/03/2015 16:57

I feel exactly the same, I have my 20 week scan a week tomorrow and I'm terrified! I am a worrier by nature though. Fingers crossed for all of us.

geekymommy · 12/03/2015 17:21

That's great! I had an anterior placenta with DD, too, so I didn't feel a lot of movement. She's now 2.5.

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