Still not convinced I am having a baby girl?

[Shootingstar2289]

I had my anomaly scan a few weeks ago and she asked if we wanted to know the sex and we said yes - I didn't find out with my first born - a little boy.

During all the checks, she just said 'I think that's a girl' and 'there's nothing to suggest otherwise'. No definitely or 100% a girl. Just 'I think' then carried on with the checks.

We asked at the end, if we were definitely having a girl and she said 'I think so' and 'no testicles suggests a girl'. She didn't tell us not to buy anything pink so that must be a good sign. A few weeks ago a friend of mine had her scan and she was told 'I think it might be a girl but I cannot be sure so either wait or pay for a private scan' so at least she didn't say this to us.

She didn't convince me at all. I would of been delighted either way and I already had a feeling it was a girl but her words did not convince me at all.

She was very blunt and straight to the point, so maybe this is why she was like this?

Has anyone else had this happen to them? My scan photo was not very clear either.

I need to start shopping!

Yeah and I had a boy. Go for a sexing scan or stay neutral, that's my plan this time anyway!

They are never 100% sure, and they never claim to be. There are no guarantees about the sex predictions, even if your sonographer was sure, they wouldn't tell you they were. I think you can be confident, if she saw that there weren't testicles then you seem to have a pretty solid answer right there. Congratulations on your baby daughter :)

I know when the sonographer said DD was a girl at the 20w scan, it was clear as day - a lovely close-up of what she called "a burger in a bun" But she was 100% that it was definitely a girl.

From how she's said it to you, that sounds less clear i.e. she didn't see any testicles, but she also didn't see a vagina.

I'd go for a private sexing scan if you really want to know beforehand, otherwise just buy lots of yellow!

Apparently girls can be more difficult to spot than boys.

She was probably non committal as it was a bad angle and her main job was to do the anomaly checks, sometimes you can't see sex at all at these scans. They will rarely 100% commit to any gender descion. With DS she said she was fairly certain of boy bits but you never know...

Your best bet would be a private scan as they would focus on the, ahem, area and spend more time checking. There's not 100% guarantees though.

Just buy gender neutral for now!

They aren't allowed to say for definite either way in our hospital. It's not an exact science and maybe she's been wrong in the past.

AFAIU it is more difficult to be certain an unborn baby is a girl than a boy - if you see male genitals it's pretty certain it's a boy. But no genitals in view could mean a girl OR a modest boy who is keeping his bits hidden from view…..

If you really need to start shopping, just get some plain white stuff for the first week or so.... that's what I did. Did not know sex of either of my babies beforehand, I didn't see the need to know.

First time round the sonographer tried for a while to find out (he was a friend and we were his last appointment of the day so he had some time). You just couldn't tell. He saw no testicles but said that was no guarantee and he just couldn't be sure. It was a girl as it turns out.

With dc2, you could see the testicles and penis and the sonographer also pointed out his bladder emptying and the fluid moving out of the penis in 'bubbles'. It was 100% a boy.

Oh and I never bought a single sex specific item of clothing. DS wore all of his sister's old clothes. Some were blue, some pink, some green, some yellow, some red and on and on and on. They were just clothes.

Why can't you shop?

They will never, ever say they're 100% sure (think of the law suits that could follow!).
We were told a girl with DD. Still bought pretty neutral stuff just in case. She was a girl.
Have been told girl again this time. Not really buying anything new as we still have it all, and it doesn't matter if they're wrong as our newborn stuff is all gender neutral anyway!

What is it you want to start shopping for? We only really bought vests and sleepsuits before she was born, and everything else (Moses baskets, prams etc) are generally pretty neutral anyway!

Oh and they tend to me fairly abrupt and to the point at the anomaly scan as obviously the purpose isn't to find out the sex. If you have a private scan (we did) they will be more chatty and show you what they're looking it and why they think it is what it is!

I was told 100%. Her exact words were "there's absolutely no doubt".

Boy or girl showy? I think they usually say they can tell a boy without doubt but it's harder with a girl.

I know you'll tell me girl now .

With DD we were actually pretty sure as she showed us the 3 white lines, and same again this time, however that was at the private scans. Our anomaly ones have been much more on the 'I think it's a girl' lines.

My hospital bag will be packed with white babygros and sleepsuits that I had for my first born nearly eight years ago. I have all items up the loft. It stops any anxiety about what sex the baby will be, we'll just find out at the birth.