Feeling low at 14 weeks

[Bogal]

Hi,

After 2 MC's I'm pregnant again and am nearly 15 weeks gone. I'm struggling to feel positive at the moment and am finding myself very teary and reluctant to tell anyone about it, despite having had 2 scans so far and them both being fine.

After the first 2 MC's around 12 weeks I was convinced this one would go the same way - I went through my first appointment with the midwife so that I would 'be in the system' and have all the right numbers to call when something went wrong. I threw away everything she gave me except my green notes, inc. the forms for a free prescription card and bounty pack.

I want to be able to enjoy it, but it feels like a bad omen to tell people and to feel like this pregnancy is going to be ok. Every time I have a symptom I experienced with my last 2 MC's (i.e. upset stomach) I panic.

Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with this?

thanks xx

It's essentially anxiety. I felt the same after pg following a mmc at 12 weeks. I use Mindfulness to cope with anxiety. Could you ask your MW to refer you to someone who could help?

I don't really have any advice but just wanted to send to try and make you feel a little better

Hey are you on the pregnancy after MC board on here? The ladies on there really helped when I had wobbly moments. The stretch between 12 and 16 weeks is LONG and I was feeling down at 14 weeks too. I am now 17 weeks and though I still worry, I am feeling flutters and have heard the heartbeat twice. I am sure you can get the forms again at your 16 week MW appointment.

Just take each day as it comes xxx

Hi I had three miscarriages over 18 months but am now 38 weeks pregnant. I won't lie and say that you stop worrying because you won't but the worry changes and it does lessens with time if you let it - honest! It doesn't help to be overly anxious especially for you and you know it wont change the outcome. Mindfulness and relaxation techniques can help so give them a go. In 6 weeks or so you will have your 20 week scan and start to feel your baby move for the first time - It is lovely and frankly I helps to feel them as the time between scans/MW appointments goes on forever!

Have you discussed your anxiety with your MW and specifically asked for help?

Remember, today you are pregnant - congratulations and good luck!

I didn't realise there was a pregnancy after MC board - haven't been on here long so still getting used to how it works!

I was treated for anxiety after my 1st MC - mentioned it to my MW but she just kind of said 'oh right' and that was it. Might explore self referral again though. I've not heard of mindfulness but I'll look it up - willing to try something new if it might help!

So happy for you ladies who have been there before and things are going well now - can't wait to start feeling little bean move and get a bump - then I'll know it's really there!!! xx