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what is it like to have all boys?

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nojaffacakes · 03/03/2015 10:27

Hello everyone
I am currently 24 weeks with my third child and recently found out it was a boy. I already have 2 boys, and i think this will probably be our last baby. I am of course delighted with the prospect of 3 boys, and all i really want is for them to be happy and healthy.
But part of me is also a little sad that i will never have a girl. Before i had children, i always thought i'd have a daughter. It's not just about the pretty clothes and doing girlie things together, but also the mother-daughter bond and teaching her all the things I have learnt as a female person.
But, that is not to be, and I am getting used to the idea. every day i feel a little more at ease that I will be a Mother of Three Boys!
Is anyone else in a similar situation - please tell me how you feel and if there is anything I need to know! what are the good sides and what are the down sides?
Thank you all!

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FenellaFellorick · 03/03/2015 10:32

My children are both boys. It's great. I don't have any other experience so I can't compare, but I don't have any desire for a girl or feel I'm missing out. My own relationship with my mother is, erm, complicated so I don't have any illusions that there's a mother daughter thing. I know you can't predict.

There really isn't anything to know. Please don't worry. Kids are kids. Do what you're doing with your current two and you'll be fine.

I would imagine it's the logistics of 3 rather than gender. - car seats, bedrooms, holidays, etc

Congratulations btw

Heleng1982 · 03/03/2015 10:38

it's great having three boys mine are 12, nearly 4 and 2 and a half. The two younger ones get on great and play lovely together (they can have their moments though) as previous person said I have no desire to try for a girl. Lots of people have asked if we will try for a girl.
Another bonus with the two little ones they can share clothes it's great as long as the older one looks after them we can pass them down. (depends on your ages) you will have great fun with three boys

Youarenotmywife · 03/03/2015 10:39

Boys rock! Having boys can be lovely, I get so many hugs, kisses etc they've also introduced me to things I would never have naturally been keen on, walking, bird watching, football, rugby, archery. It's great!

CarbeDiem · 03/03/2015 10:42

I have 3 ds.
As you already have 2 then there's nothing more really that you need to know except what the pp said - logistics. Oh and possibly the extra washing :) I seriously couldn't understand where the hell mine came from after ds3 came.

Mine were all born within 4 years so when they got older it was constantly like a episode of WWE with them roughing each other up :) So thinking ahead.... have 3 spaces ready to separate them when it gets out of control because it will :)
If you don't already - learn to like or at least appreciate football.

I didn't have any real desire for a girl but when my nieces arrived after the boys I did go overboard on pink and girly things- there's just so much to choose from compared to boys clothes/toys.

All will be fine, congratulations.
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DramaAlpaca · 03/03/2015 10:45

I have three boys, all grown now, and I love it. They are fabulous & I wouldn't change a thing. They are close in age and have always shared interests and mostly get on very well, especially now they are older. I have a close bond with all of them & I've honestly never felt that I've missed out on anything by not having a daughter.

Welcome to the Three Boys Club!

Marylou62 · 03/03/2015 10:45

Even tho I have a girl in the middle so cant quite answer your question, I love the relationship and the closeness my boys have...they are true friends and are always looking out for each other...and there is 7 years between them too...I was only talking to DH the other day about it...and again not quite what you asked for but I have 4 DB who have a lads night once a month..incredibly close to each other and my parents...we are quite a huggy family so lots of affection...good luck with your trio...and I know what you mean about having a girl...its all I ever wanted from an early age...but that in no way means my Darling boys are 2nd best...

forago · 03/03/2015 10:49

I have 3 boys and am a feminist. Personally i don't mind not having girls and am enjoying the challenge of bringing them up to not be sexist pigs, like most of the men I have worked with. It's great fun and they are very loving.

Agree you need lots of space, preferably a garden with a football goal and a trampoline, as a generalisation, they do seem to need daily excercise, much like dogs, perhaps more so than the average girl.

FenellaFellorick · 03/03/2015 10:50

I agree. I think that a feminist with sons is in a really strong position to shape the men they will become.

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nojaffacakes · 03/03/2015 11:07

Thanks everyone
I suppose I am starting to see them as three people rather than three boys. It is good to hear such positive comments.
When i have told people irl I always get the "Ah, were you hoping for a girl?" or I get a sad, pitying look as if it's such a bad thing not to have dd.

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mumxof3x · 03/03/2015 11:32

I have 3 boys 4 and half years in them all and currently pregnant (29 week) with ds4. When I found out I was expecting ds3 in early 2013 I felt how you did about never having a mother daughter bond, but then I realised that, that bond isnt limited to just daughters, its boys too given they are individuals and all different and I would not change ds3 for the world hes such a cheeky chappy. So when I found out ds4 is a boy I was over the moon to add another boy to our family.
Its abit crazy as they havnt got big age gaps so they love to wrestle and fight and there is always plenty of entertainment in our home lol, but I love it! Plus I quite like been the only girl in the house as all 3 of them shower me with loves and kisses. Congratulations :)

Dogsmom · 03/03/2015 11:56

I can't comment on what it's like to have boys as I have 2 girls but regarding what people say about trying for a girl you have to take no notice.

It's nothing to do with people assuming you must want a girl they just assume you want a mix, I had exactly the same comments about now trying for a boy, one was from a midwife 3 days ago when I was in labour with her!

I also had a couple of people come right out and ask if my husband was disappointed to have 2 daughters.

RainbowInACloud · 03/03/2015 12:52

Hi, I felt like you when I found out I was expecting DS3. I'm so close to my mum and was sad I might never replicate that relationship.
Now he's here, it's wonderful. More than wonderful. You don't see your other children in terms of their sex and you won't this one either. Watching the 2 bugs boys with him is amazing and he has completed our family.
The only thing that is annoying are other people's comments. But they can be easily deflected/ ignored. Good luck, it will be fabulous I'm sure x

blowinahoolie · 03/03/2015 12:55

OP you don't have to tell people what you're having though after your scan, you can keep it to yourselves. No need to have pitying looks of people...

I am pregnant with no3, got two boys already and honestly do not mind if it's a boy or girl this time round. We will find out at the birth late summer. I don't buy into private scanning and local hospital doesn't let you know the sex of the baby at the anomaly scan. I don't mind anyway, got loads of neutral babygrows and sleepsuits to pack in hospital bag when the time comes. :)

Congratulations!

lemonhope · 03/03/2015 12:59

"Agree you need lots of space, preferably a garden with a football goal and a trampoline, as a generalisation, they do seem to need daily excercise, much like dogs, perhaps more so than the average girl."

and you are a feminist :-/

Girls love gardens, trampolines and football too and also need daily exercise.

SlinkyB · 03/03/2015 14:49

We completed our family with ds2 last year (dh's ds3; I have a teenage step son).

I'm not gonna lie, I was disappointed and still am a little bit, as would've loved a gender mix in the house. I think my feelings were exacerbated by losing my Mum just before I found out I was pregnant.

You saying you get pitying looks and head tilts from people when you tell them is exactly why I chose not to tell others we knew we were expecting another boy.

And I'm not boy-bashing by any stretch; I know people with all girls who confess now and then to wanting boys. It's just taboo in RL saying it out loud, esp when you have healthy happy kids.

I love the bones of my boys mind; so so affectionate and funny, and I know I'll always be the Queen in this house

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