Anyone else feeling really down?

[FeelTheNoise]

Just that really. I'm so tired, so worried about everything that I could possibly be worried about. I'm at the end of my tether at home; nobody listens to a word I bloody say, everything is a huge battle. I know that DS will be much more considerate when we tell him after next scan is week, but as soon as DPs family know I don't know what will happen, but I'm expecting to feel even more suffocated than I already do.

I've been through lots of ups and downs through this pregnancy (currently 32weeks). I think you need a good talk with your partner to discuss what is getting to you, and if anything he can help with. And figure how you can get more sleep, even if only twenty minutes a day. It will get better, honestly.

I am feeling exactly the same at 30 weeks. Like pp I've had lots of ups and downs this pregnancy. We are under financial stress and chronically sleep deprived which makes things worse. I second trying to catch up on sleep as much as possible as tiredness makes things seem so much worse.
I hope that you feel more positive after your scan

Yes, lots of ups and downs here too. They feel like they're magnified by my pregnancy. I do talk to DP but that's not achieved enough at all.

I feel the same. There's a lot of pressure to feel jubilant throughout pregnancy, but worries about work, existing childcare, finances, not to mention pregnancy related problems like morning sickness, heartburn, bladder problems etc can make it all quite stressful and depressing!

You're not alone

No, you're not alone. I knew this pregnancy would be difficult as I also have a toddler but I didn't imagine how stressed out and anxious I'd feel. I'm exhausted and my job has suddenly become even more hard work than it was before - that's the same pressure for everyone in my job at the moment though. There also seems to be this "well don't expect xyz or special treatment, you chose to have a baby" from almost everyone. It's making me feel really out of my depth, like I don't know how to cope with the next few months at all.

And I'm feeling very self conscious about having a bump, I'm massive at 25 weeks and can hardly breathe. I don't know how to get through the next 15 weeks. I just wish I could crawl into a huge hole until my due date :).

Sorry for sounding all melodramatic! I'm just having a bad day :(. But you're not alone OP, I dreaded telling people as I just couldn't be bothered to deal with them. I still can't at all. Just keep telling yourself that they can say what they like, but you can keep your distance even if they think you're being rude - it's their problem and not yours. I know I've moaned on about it seeming to take forever but honestly, the last 25 weeks have flown by for me, I'm just feeling stupidly emotional today. 9 months is not long at all, and things do slip into place once the baby is here and things become like second nature. It's just the thought that is always worse than the reality. Even on the hard days you know that it won't last forever. I hope you're feeling better soon, things always look better when you're not tired.

i just wish I could crawl into a hole til my due date

This!!!

Hey, just popped in as feel anxious about stuff and BlinkAndMiss your update has made me feel loads better -thank you :-)

For all of us in the Til Due Date Cave

I do feel that being pregnant hugely magnifies other stresses as well as generating a whole load more. I'm huge too, at 12 weeks. My mum is convinced I'm having twins, no matter how many times I show her the flipping scan I'm in between fitting into normal clothes and having enough to hold up mat clothes. I look 6 months pregnant, so I can only assume I've got a lot of bowels that have been hoisted upwards

I may have to stock up the cave with chocolate and Netflix....

I was the same at the start of this pregnant, all intestine baby bump

Pregnancy

It's work I'm struggling with at the mo. I've lost all motivation! I'm so conscious of taking each day at a time with my pregnancy that I can't seem to function like normal at work. I find watching tv super boring but at same time it's all I'm drawn to do. Feel guilty for moaning because I'm sooooo glad everything is okay so far, but it is tough!

Feeling for you ladies, the challenges of pregnancy are underrated.

I totally get your lack of motivation at work. I'm sure our brains are more difficult to engage when pregnant. I almost feel like I've been sedated!

can I please join the ladies in a cave?

I did feel much worse earlier in the pregnancy, and the Dr found I needed iron tablets.

even after some improvement, there's still always the feeling of wanting to shut out the 'aren't you huge?' brigade and the 'do you think he'll arrive early?' enquirers

the only reassurance is that pretty soon work can go away and my baby, OH and I can enjoy a minimum of 2 weeks of paternity where we are just in our little family bubble

I can't wait for work to go away

I've got an all intestine bump, it's not cool
But at least I've stopped farting! That was bad.....

I know exactly how you all feel. It seems like DH moans constantly, I try so hard not to complain as I've been so lucky but he just whines all the time. Plus our carefully planned finances have been blown out of the water so that's a worry. It'll all be fine but I still hear you

I also don't feel that connected with the baby (first) DH loves stroking bump taking to it, reading stories etc. I don't feel anything like that for it and if course it makes me feel guilty