12+2 and terrified of miscarriage

[ambientolf]

This is my first baby and I am so far having a straightforward pregnancy (I.e. 2 successful scans, no bleeding or pains, no symptons whatsoever really) but I am terrified of miscarriage. My mum had 3 after me hence me being an only child & I feel like because I grew up with that, I can shake off feelings that it will happen to me. I am even worrying about baby having downs or spina bifta or some anomaly at the 20 week scan! And if not, then having a still born! Then I'm thinking about cot death! I just can't give myself a break. It doesn't help that a woman at work is 19 weeks pregnant & my cousin is 30 weeks so I know if I do miscarriage I will have to see a pregnant woman everyday & a baby in the family due in May!!! I'm not really asking a question, I just feel like letting it all out as I can't talk to anyone about how I feel. I just wish I could be excited

Have you spoken to your midwife about your anxiety? Have you tried Mindfulness to alleviate it?

Congrats on your pg

I understand. My mum had a lot of (first trimester) miscarriages, and that made me really scared when I was pregnant for the first time.

But, you knows the odds of miscarriage after 12 weeks is really very low? I saw a table with percentages on MN just this week, and I can't remember the exact odds now, but let's just say you have a greater than 95% chance of having a healthy baby at the end of this pregnancy.

If you feel your anxiety is really stopping you from relaxing and enjoying your pregnancy then do speak to your midwife.

Chances of mc are very low, attached link for daily chances up 12weeks. spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php?m=20&d=12&y=14