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About to break down - someone please help?

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Focusfocus · 27/02/2015 03:52

Got a bfp at 10 DPO very early in the morning. Did FRERs, clearblue digitalis - the works. Loads of bfps.

Crushing,debilitating fatigue, AF type cramps and a very sore right nipple for the last three days. Temps at 36.8 or 9.

Woke this morning 13 DPO at 3 am. Temp 36.4. Retook immediately 36.7.

Burst into tears literally. Stumbled into bathroom and took two simultaneous tests. Am internet stick off Amazon. And the Boots Digital.

The internet stick came up with an immediate bfp which is darker than any internet stick I've done yet. The internet sticks were largely squinter a or bfns or vanishing things. The expensive digital one (which can be "used from the day you miss period") came up with the word "pregnant" in a minute.

I am attaching both the test results from this morning. Why the massive temperature drop? I am petrified and am shaking.

About to break down - someone please help?

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IfULike · 27/02/2015 04:38

Hey Focus, congratulations! Please just relax and stop taking your temp! I assume from the fact that you do that you have been TTC for some time? Is it your first time pregnant? Unfortunately there is absolutely nothing you can so and the waiting game is horrible. I know nothing about temperature levels but the tests say pregnant and seen to be getting stronger. You are pregnant and chances are you will remain that way but you must relax

IfULike · 27/02/2015 04:38

amy83firsttimer · 27/02/2015 04:45

I never took my temperature. I have a baby. You have bfps!!! Congrats.

happygojo · 27/02/2015 06:19

I never took my temp either and am 16+4. I have no idea what a temp drop means but I would definitely stop taking yours as it seems to be upsetting you. The first 10 weeks of pregnancy are pre-written but the odds are in your favour of a healthy pregnancy. There is nothing you can do or not do. I hope you managed to get some sleep xxxx

ShadowSpiral · 27/02/2015 06:27

I read somewhere that it's normal for body temperature to vary over a 24 hrs cycle, and that typically, body temperature is at it's lowest in the middle of the night (i.e. when you woke up and checked your temperature).

On phone so can't Google for links but if I've remembered this correctly that may explain it?

Mostlyjustaluker · 27/02/2015 06:40

It is normal for you body temperature to drop in the night slightly. 3 and 4 in the morning is when people are at their coldest.

The waiting game is horrible. I am 5+2 and was very lucky to get pregnant quickly. We are planning to go for a private early scan at 8 weeks as at this point the pregnancy is 98% viable.

I am trying to forgot about it (not really working) and concentrate on being health, exercise and reducing stress as I have a very time consuming and stressful job.

BikeRunSki · 27/02/2015 06:47

I've had two babies without taking my temperature. I really can't see that your temperature varying within 0.5 of a degree should be too worrying, as it is normal for body temperature to vary between 36-38 degrees depending on how active you are, how well wrapped up you are, in a warm building or outside in the snow etc. You're pregnant! Relax!

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Focusfocus · 27/02/2015 07:08

Thanks you all! I'm trying to distract myself with work and the pooch. I was lucky to get pregnant first try, but - I had to wait forv1.5 years to even try. That has placed me on edge I guess. We too plan on an early scan privately at 7/8 weeks but obviously at this point even saying that makes me want to cross all digits I have. You all have been so kind. Thanks

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HappyAsASandboy · 27/02/2015 07:19

The bfp mean more than the temps. The temp drop could be due to anything really - a different time of temping (do you normally temp at 3am?) or you could be coming down with a cold?

The fatigue and the cramps are normal IME. Unless you get very strong cramps and bleeding, there is no reason to worry. Please give yourself a break and stop temping, even if you continue to take pg tests.

Good luck, and congratulations :)

ReeRee86 · 27/02/2015 08:08

Focus

I have attached my chart for you. I got my BFP on Saturday morning on 12dpo after a massive temp drop below the cover line. I really wasn't expecting a BFP this month so wasn't surprised really by the drop but when I took a test (as I was due to start the clearblue study) it came up lovely and positive!

Cue lot's of shaking and panicking and I even posted here asking "surely all can't be well with such a massive temp drop"

However, you will see that the next day my temp shot right back up!

I am not temping anymore now, I think due to what is going on in our bodies right now, BBT is no longer accurate. I have no place saying this (seeing as I spend a lot of my day in the toilet at work checking my undercrackers) but please don't read too much into your temp and step away from the thermometer now!

Paddingtonlovesmarmalade · 27/02/2015 08:12

It wouldn't cross my mind to worry about that (now - but I've worried like that in the past). 1) you took your temperature at 3am which is probably much earlier than usual, 2) you retook it and it went back up again immediately 3) your test today is good and strong 4) having temped for months myself, I recognised I ignored anomalies when it didn't matter and focused on them as being super significant when anxiety told me they proved something was wrong. Might you be doing that? 5) you have a positive pregnancy test which proves you and your do can get pregnant. 50% pregnancies don't last! but once you have got pregnant! the odds of getting pregnant again go up and up. After two chemical pregnancies, I had two good pregnancies. Now the chemical pregnancies seem like an acceptable part of being pregnant and I wish I hadn't stressed so much in the first 6weeks. But for now ALL the signs are great, so relax, stop temping (it's not reliable) and take folic acid! Good luck.

Paddingtonlovesmarmalade · 27/02/2015 08:18

Meant to say, once you've got to 13dpo with stronger tests each day, or odds have already jumped over the 50% of pregnancies lasting. Lots don't even make it to a positive test, or past the first day! Sorry that sounded negative, but my point is, you can get pregnant and you are pregnant and there is absolutely no reason to think it won't last, in fact, your symptoms suggest the opposite!

LastOneDancing · 27/02/2015 08:19

Honestly OP, pregnancy is a long and emotional ride.

I cannot advise strongly enough that you try your hardest to stop temping and testing and sit back and enjoy the warm glow that you are pregnant.

Its so hard particularly, i think, if you are a usually very capable and 'in charge' but with this you have to let go and trust your body to stay sane.

Congratulations

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Focusfocus · 27/02/2015 08:41

Thanks so much everyone for sharing your experiences, chart and thoughts! I think the last point about being an organiser/planner might actually have something to do with this - I have always been a bit of a Hermione Granger if you get the Harry Potter ref! I plan my life, goals, meals, finances, work targets - you name it to the last dot and I think temping and charting for me has become my way of doing this with the unpredictable thing that he body is. I think I am being unable to let go of the idea that I need to do something for my body to remember to do its job properly. Diet, supplements, ladidadida have all been checked and tabulated and now I think I have focused on the temping. My plan is to stop temping cold turkey tomorrow morning which will be the start of 5 weeks for me and nearly a week since I got the first bfp. Thanks everyone :)

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RhiannonElward · 27/02/2015 08:46

OP firstly congratulations! It is so hard not to worry early on, but you have no reason to temp any more, some good strong positives and every chance of a healthy baby. Take a moment to enjoy it, it's a worrying time at the beginning but your signs are good, your hormones are doing their job and you're actually having a flipping baby! It's brilliant, enjoy it :)

wawabear · 27/02/2015 08:47

Hi Focus - I'm a bit of a Hermione Granger too! However currently 32+1 weeks after having never taken my temperature.

I do recall in the very early stages (and yes I found out at 2 weeks because I, like you, too a squillion tests the day AF was missed) my temperature was all over the place. Right now I feel like I am sat in a greenhouse and my colleagues are moaning that the air con is too cold!

Please just try to relax, I know it's hard. I have a tendancy to overthink everything but I have made a conscious effort to relax and enjoy being pregnant.

This is a wonderful time so try to enjoy it. Oh and CONGRATULATIONS xxx

knittingirl · 27/02/2015 09:13

I haven't read everyone else's so sorry if I'm repeating but...

Don't take your temp at 3am. If you're temping for charting purposes, for it to be meaningful you need to take it within about 30-60 mins of the same time each day, as your basal body temperature steadily increases from 3/4am and you want to hit it on the same point of the curve each day. A low temp at 3am means nothing.

Congratulations!!! You're pregnant!!!

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 27/02/2015 09:19

I'm pregnant with my second and have never taken my temp! Only ever taken one pregnancy test each time too and that was after TTC for over a year. I've heard of temping to check for ovulation but not after someone has a BFP.

It's normal for body temperature to fluctuate throughout the day/night. Try and calm down, lines getting darker is a much better indicator then anything else (but try and stop testing too, if you've got a BFP then you're currently pregnant!).

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 27/02/2015 09:19

Oh and congratulations!

comeagainforbigfudge · 27/02/2015 09:33

Aw congratulations!

But really stop taking your temperature.

Too many variables to count. And it's needless stress.

And stress is last thing you need just now!

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Focusfocus · 27/02/2015 09:52

Thanks so much you lovely lovely ladies :) will ask DH to hide the thermometer!

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geekymommy · 27/02/2015 14:14

I've got a 2.5 yo DD, and am 19+1. I never took my temperature either time. I couldn't take my temperature now if I wanted to, since DD plays with the thermometers (she likes the beeping noise they make) and puts them in places that no doubt make sense to her, but leave me and DH scratching our heads. Get a toddler, then you will not have to worry about obsessively taking your temperature

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