Chemical pregnancy? Do I tell gp?

[Lilnumpty]

Hello ladies! This is my first post, so please forgive me!
I was due AF on Thursday. I had dark spotting from Wednesday-Saturday. On Sunday I woke up in the night with awful cramps and very heavy bleeding. I normally get heavy periods but never anything like this. I have been feeling rotten, exhausted and nauseous mand when I didn't have proper AF on Saturday I did a hpt which was positive. I'm not ttc atm, but would like one one day. We are using protection and I have never been pregnant before (at least that I know of!). I feel that once I stop bleeding I should test again to be sure it's over, but do I need to do anything else? Do I really need to see a GP as my friend says? I haven't told my dp yet and don't know if I can tbh. What would you do?

Sorry for your loss, op.
I would notify the gp because the nhs has this 3 in a row policy of investigating mc.
This is not to say you will have any issues in the future, but you know, to be on the safe side, better make them aware.
Once again, sorry this has happened to you. I hope you'll feel better soon.
I would tell this to my partner, it's not fair to have to go through this on your own. It will probably strengthen your bond. I would definitely share.

Thank you for your reply! I don't even know where to start telling him! I'm msure he'd be all like "why are you testing", "we were using protection". He's lovely and we've been together 5 years but he doesn't really want anything to do with "women's things". When we started seeing each other he said he wanted kids, but not until I've paid uni debt and married, he's not even working! I'm scared he'll be angry and think I planned it, which I really didn't because ideally I would want to be married...I don't know I just want to curlmup and cry with a bar of chocolate!

So sorry you're going through this. Even though you weren't ttc it can still be an emotional experience, and it must be difficult without being able to share it with your dp. Perhaps just being open with him that it was a surprise to you too will help open the conversation?

The other reason to tell your GP is to make sure it's fully over. You'll need to test again until you get a negative result as in a really small number of occasions (and even more unlikely when it's very early) you can be at risk of infection if there is a tiny amount of retained material - sorry for the language, this is how the hcp's talk about it, having been through it a couple of times. Also, you shouldn't use tampons because of the small infection risk. And curling up crying with some chocolate is a very sensible plan right now!

I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm not in the position to give you relationship advice but I don't think its ok that you're worried about how he will react.
In a way this would determine me to tell him to see his reaction and where we are standing exactly.
Just tell him the truth. You've been together for a long time, he must know you well and should trust you. If he doesn't then I would reconsider things. Mistakes happen, protection doesn't always work and you need to make sure that together you can overcome events like this; and by that I don't mean you suffering on your own.

What would you have done if the pregnancy was viable?

Sorry that you are going through this. It is important that you test again because it is possible to have very heavy bleeding and not have a mc. I also would notify the GP. Although you are likely to go on to have a healthy pregnancy in the future, if you do have further mc's it's important for your notes to show how many you've had and when.

Just in case it makes you feel any better, when I told my DH that I was pg with DC1, he asked me why I was testing. We weren't TTC but had ditched contraception because I was told that I would need help yo conceive. I stopped taking my pill when I thought that I'd seen him for the last time before he went to Iraq, but the army allowed him to come home for an extra weekend that had unexpected consequences. I think it can be quite a shock for some men. He was a brilliant dad-to-be, albeit from a distance, when the shock subsided.

Thank you everyone :) I have always felt that no matter how hard things would be I couldn't have an abortion, so if it was viable with or without dp I would have it. I feel so weird, can't eat, horrible metallic taste, dizzy and flipping knackered! Maybe I will tell dp I feel ill and go to tell gp then I could tell him either way and say gp tested? Don't want to lie to him but think it would make more sense to him that they tested?!? I'm so stuck with what to do! Tempted to re-test but scared either way what it will say. I'm a mess!

Test again. Did you only test once before? You could choose to lie and yes, say the gp was concerned, tested for you and diagnosed a chemical, but I would go for the truth.
Just say you felt pregnant, you had early symptoms and that prompted the pt?
Whatever you choose I hope it will help you move on.
Hope you had some chocolate already

If you still have symptoms then it is best to see the GP and have blood tests done 48 hours apart. If the hormone levels roughly double then the pregnancy is still viable. A pregnancy test can't tell you that clearly as it can stay positive for a while after a miscarriage.

And yes, this is the time for chocolate or cake or chocolate cake! FWIW, I would tell your DP the truth now. He must love you and you need the support from him. This isn't something that you want to hide from him. He may surprise you. He may just need a moment to gather himself. Either way, you would have it out in the open.

Thanks so much everyone! No chocolate or cake yet, tbh I can't bear anything in my mouth. I will tell him tomorrow and see what he has to say! I really appreciate you all helping me :) fingers crossed either way!