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help - think i'm losing this one

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DelGirl · 24/04/2004 10:26

i'm 4 + 3 today and have started bleeding. Had a little watery discharge at 1st with a bit of pink. Now it's gone to bright red blood. Think I know the outcome of this but just need other people's views whether they;re positive or negative. have done another test (did 2 yesterday - both neg but they were predictor - used boots b4) Have just gone and bought boots one again and there's still a very faint line - will have to do one later as barely enough pee for more than a second and you should do it for 5. I'm so upset. I just wish the 1st tests had been negative, I think I would been able to accept it better and start my iui again. I don't want to talk to anyone I 'know' about this and don't have a dh or dp as am widowed.

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ZolaPola · 24/04/2004 10:33

sorry to hear this. Don't know what to suggest at such an early stage - a little bleeding quite common even if you are pregnant, happened to me twice, each time with a different outcome. Difficult I know, but try to stay calm and rested and wait it out.

SoupDragon · 24/04/2004 10:35

I can only offer my own experience... I had bright red bleeding with DS2 at around 6(?) weeks. There wasn't a lot - enough to scare me witless and it lasted on and off for 2 weeks (3 days "on" 3 days "off" if you see what I mean). It was just blood, no bits, and was not accompanied by any cramping.

HTH. It's just one of those things where only time will tell unfortunately

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DelGirl · 24/04/2004 10:36

thank - how much bleeding did you have? Have not been 'heavy heavy' but heavy enough to think this is lost

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hercules · 24/04/2004 10:42

Bleeding is quite common. I had it at 9 weeks and the scan showed a small tear byt dd was fine.

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DelGirl · 24/04/2004 10:53

reckon i'm just going to have wait and see like you say. I lost my last one at 11 weeks but it had died at about 7 so different bleeding. i'm not due a scan until the 17th of May. Do you think I should see my gp on Monday if test still pos and bleeding subsides?

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jellycat · 24/04/2004 11:07

Hi DelGirl. Sorry to hear you're having this bleeding. One thing you can do at this early stage which might shed some light on things is to have blood tests for HCG levels. You have the tests 2 days apart (I think) and the levels should roughly double if all is well. Is your GP sympathetic? I would see how it goes but try and get to see him/her on Monday if you're still worried and suggest blood test. Fingers crossed.

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DelGirl · 24/04/2004 11:15

thanks jellycat - my gp is very sympathetic.....if I can get to see him that is. Could go to the fertility unit on monday too - there's an epu there as well. I'll see how the bleeding go's and if i test +++ later. Guess i'll have to let them know as they may want to do a d & c if it's lost. i'm not going to move from this seat/sofa/toilet until then.

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DelGirl · 24/04/2004 14:08

am bleeding more now like a normal af but rang fertility unit/womens health and gp as still testing pos. Some hope still there tho very little and I mean very litte. The nurse at the f.u said they have a woman in there who's bled more than she does on a normal af but she has good hcg levels and is still preg. Their concern is it may be ectopic so have got to go the surgery then to hosp for bloods etc. God this is so hard, after what i've already been through you;d think it would get easier. Anyway my best friend is going to take me cos I cant do this on my own. I'll let you know how I get on.

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DelGirl · 24/04/2004 14:09

oh and thanks for the advice so far!

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bunny2 · 24/04/2004 14:13

Delgirl, I am sorry, you must be terrified. I'll find a link to a recent thread where Melliek, a regular poster, was convinced she was miscarrying but wasnt. I have had 2 mcs and some bleeding in the pregnancy, I know how absolutely awful it is.

bunny2 · 24/04/2004 14:18

here it is

beansprout · 24/04/2004 14:42

Delgirl, just to let you know I am thinking of you and really hoping you are ok. Please let us know how you get on. Hope the hospital are supportive too xx

Angeliz · 24/04/2004 15:11

Just wanted to say i'm thinking of you and hope you are o.k+++

LadyMuck · 24/04/2004 15:34

Sorry to hear this. You can certainly still be pregnant and have some bleeding - I bled in bothmy pgs, though at a later stage. But there is also a chance that this was just a chemical pg - I'm afraid that only time (or the HCG tests) will tell...

Keeping everything crossed for you.

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DelGirl · 24/04/2004 17:46

thank you everyone - your messages really help. Went to the emergancy surgery with my pos test in hand. Been booked into the hospital tomorroow for blood tests and, more than likely, D&C. Bled far too much to think that this preg is ok so will just have to try again. This is so hard but know that whatever I just have to try again. It was a year ago this week that I lost the last one so maybe it'll be 3rd time lucky eh? Please (someone)give me a break! Will post again when i'm out. Just a tiny part of me wonders whether it will be ok but my head knows it probably isn't. Babbling on now - feel like i'm grieving all over again so i'll leave it there. Thanks again everyone.

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taramac · 24/04/2004 18:21

I know the feeling but holding on to that bit of hope is totally understandable. I have lost 2 babies as well and it really sucks and I don't think you ever get over it . Try and surround yourself with supportive people and cry as much as you like and talk about it. Let us know how things go for you and I will be thinking of you.

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DelGirl · 25/04/2004 12:28

hi - well have just got back from the hospital - everyone was really nice but, had a scan and there was nothing there. Didn't expect anything else. I am grateful that it isn't/wasn't an ectopic pregnancy which is what they had suspected. And, thankfully, I don't need a D&C either. So, looks like I shall be 'sniffing' again in 3 weeks hopefully and hopefully it'll be 3rd time lucky. 5th iui but 3rd pg fingers crossed. Oh, I will enjoy a very large glass of wine later on.... Thanks for your support everyone.

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sexgoddess · 25/04/2004 12:34

Sorry to hear your news Delgirl,

beansprout · 25/04/2004 13:19

So sorry it turned out this way Delgirl. Will keep fingers crossed for 3 weeks time for you. In the meantime take care of yourself and enjoy that glass of wine!

Nimme · 25/04/2004 13:23

DelGirl - so sorry to hear.

I had a m/c last year at 5 weeks. If I hadn't been such an eager beaver I'd never have known. Had scan to check all was out - was horrible as it really hit me then.

Thinking of you.

Third time lucky...

Earlybird · 25/04/2004 13:54

Delgirl - sad to hear of your news. Glad that you had a dear friend to take you to hospital and support you through. I went through fertility treatments and a miscarriage as a single person and it is so hard to be on your own at these very emotional times. Hope the presence of a best friend was a comfort. Lean on us if you need to talk.

jellycat · 25/04/2004 14:05

DelGirl, so sorry to hear it was bad news. We'll all be rooting for you next time.

hana · 25/04/2004 18:53

Oh Delgirl, so sorry to hear that you've had a miscarriage. It's devestating. Hope you are getting lots of support and strength from friends and family. We're all here too.
big hugs
hana

Angeliz · 25/04/2004 19:10

sorry to hear that Delgirl!!

fairydust · 25/04/2004 19:11

delgirl - so sorry to hear hear your sad new.

fingars crossed for the future for you.

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