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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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jealous of perfect pregnancy mine are anything but

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stacebazza · 19/02/2015 23:36

Is anyone else on here jealous when some women seem to breeze through pregnancy and you seem to struggle

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stacebazza · 20/02/2015 00:21

Maybe ive worded this wrong its just that im on my 5th pregnancy and have had alot of problems with all of them whilst some women seem to just breeze through just wandering if im wrong to feel so jealous.

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HappyLucyLou · 20/02/2015 03:28

No you're not wrong to be jealous, right now i'm right there with you. Not going to lie my first pregnancy was a breeze and now id like to go and smack my previous pregnant self in the face! I must of annoyed so many people with the "i love being pregnant" comment - if only i had known! Dont get me wrong im happy people have lovely pregnancies and i wish them upon everyone woman but it doesnt stop me wishing it was me right now! Well done you doing it with 4 other children must be really tough being pregnant with 4 (i struggle enough with one) hope you haven't got too long left.

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stacebazza · 20/02/2015 09:33

Im due in august I have hyperemesis constantly getting pains in my hips seem to constantly have water infections and embarrassingly keep wetting myself.

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icklekid · 20/02/2015 09:37

9 months of sickness. ..try and find a positive if you can- at least I didn't put on horrific amounts of weight! Spd made me keep going to gym to stay strong until 8 months. It is hard when others have no problems but keep smiling and soon you will have a beautiful baby!

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stacebazza · 20/02/2015 09:43

Thankyou sorry to sound like im moaning

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Rebecca1608 · 20/02/2015 10:53

21 weeks pregnant with twins, 15 weeks to go and counting. First pregnancy and it's not been a breeze at all. I had 2 heavy bleeds early on, an ectopic pregnancy scare. Then really bad morning, not so much sickness but nausea that lasted all day. Tiredness. I've not gained much weight at all YET but struggling with bp which rocketed now it's normal again. Really bad dizziness and feeling faint.
Work isn't being too understanding with all extra appts and scans I need to attend either and have asked me to go on my day off.
I love all the scans and hearing my babies heartbeats and can't wait for them to be here. The little movements they make are cute but am I one of those people who love being pregnant??? No.

Artandco · 20/02/2015 11:00

Mine were a breeze.
I think what helped was a) no sickness b) so didn't find out pregnant until 20ish weeks with both c) so pregnancy felt short as only knew the last half! d) tiny bumps so not heavy/ particularly in the way.

happygojo · 20/02/2015 11:05

Have you watched 'what to expect when your expecting'? I always thought I would be a magical pregnancy unicorn flouncing around with my neat bump and saying things like 'I keep forgetting I am pregnant'. I am wondering whether it is all a lie and those women who 'love' being pregnant actually break down in sobs when you aren't looking. It is scary and tiring and all apparently 'normal' which makes you feel like you should carry on as normal.... but making a human being is really hard. My bf keeps mentioning 'next time' I feel like hitting him

Rebecca1608 · 20/02/2015 11:21

Haha happygojo I might watch that. A lot of people tell me "you'll get second wind soon and begin to feel better" really at almost 5 1/2 months. Doubtful. I've only got 2 months + til I have them but I am jealous of people who love to be pregnant and breeze through it. Without looking like shit too. My bf also says next time. I think that could change in a few months time.

Artandco · 20/02/2015 11:23

Good tip for next time - accidently fall pregnant when first child is 4 months old. Ignore any symptoms as after effects from first birth. Then tad da, your 22 weeks pregnant before you know :)... Well that's what happened here

Ps I loved having them so close in the end

applecore0317 · 20/02/2015 11:27

I feel your pain, I though I would also breeze through, keep up with going to the gym and pop the baby out at the end. Now 26+2 and so far have ended up in A&E twice with urinary retention which turned out to be caused by my uterus being incarcerated in my pelvis, and squishing my bladder.. thankfully popped out.

Got over all that, went back to the gym, and am now signed off work because of a shortened cervix. Had steroid injections, can't go gym which means the weight is eeking up and have to use lovely progesterone pessaries three times a day. Last appointment showed improvement though, so that's a bonus :) should all be worth it in the end :D

Hope things get better for you all

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stacebazza · 20/02/2015 11:35

I fell on with my 3 youngest one after another didnt make it any easier I felt like a bad mum for not enjoying being pregnant like I said this is baby 5 and still no easier dont know if this will sound bad but I hate being pregnant but love the result of my baby.

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nicolachambers277 · 20/02/2015 12:54

Hi all

I am currently 32+0 and my jealousy is crippling me. My husband has three cousins who are all due around now, two of which have gone just this week and one who is due around the same time as I am.

I seem to be the only one of the four that has had any morning sickness (every day up to week 22 and started again this week), ripped muscles, scares (inc no FM for two days and spotting) and yet the worst bit of jealousy I am having right now is that there are two babies now in this world and mine isn't here yet :(

Is this normal? Both me and hubby were quiet over dinner last night and ended up going to bed super early because neither of us wanted to talk or even mindlessly watch TV. When we discussed it this morning we both realised it was because we want our baby here now. I know I have another 8 weeks to go and they were both on date when they gave birth (Wednesday 18th Feb) but I want my baby to be here now and I know hubby feels the same.

Is this normal?! I am happy for them both and can't wait to meet the new arrivals (plus I am good friends with both mummies).

nic x

geekymommy · 20/02/2015 13:30

Part of the problem is that you're human. Mammals other than great apes and humans tend to have easier pregnancies. I've often wished during my pregnancies that humans were marsupials. I bet they have a way easier time of it...

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stacebazza · 20/02/2015 14:30

Hi nicola I think it is normal with my other pregnancys I just wanted it to be over when it got towards the end specially with my 3 youngest as I was pregnant for 3 years on the trot and now im pregnant with 2 friends ahead of me one of which has no problems at all sooo jealous

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Dogsmom · 20/02/2015 16:42

I think sometimes people just forget how crap parts of it were or feeling too guilty to admit that they don't enjoy pregnancy or parts of it.

I'm 38+5 with my 2nd and if I was asked I'd say that it's been easy and at times only my bump reminds me I'm pregnant, however I know that until week 15 I was knocked off my feet with constant nausea and tiredness, I couldn't bear to be in the living room because the settee was new and the smell was overwhelming and the poor german shepherd was bathed every 2 days because I thought she stank too.

It's a bit like the pain of birth there's some bit of our brain that is wired to forget the negative bits so we're prepared to do it all again

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