Having a vent over husband!

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Currently 33 weeks pregnant with our 1st & married to my husband who I love, but last night he told me to stop depending on him so much and it has really hurt my feelings :'(
I find it hard to make new friends currently out of work so I find it even harder to meet new people.
I moved away from my home town to be with my husband and left all my friends behind my parents followed but I don't see them much but I speak to them every day.
He told me I should go out and make friends and do things like what? I need money to do most things to get anywhere as live in a rural area.
I don't think he realizes how much he also depends on me I make his lunch every day for work and his dinner I clean the house make sure it is tidy I have gone out and got all the baby items we need to prepare us but I am sure he thinks that I don't do anything! He would't have a clean shirt & pants if I didn't do the washing!
He has friends who we see once in a blue moon as they all live quite far away, we spend a lot of time online (gaming) as a hobby so we do that when we are together.
I am starting to find my pregnancy hard now I feel like I am alone a lot of the time, my husband doesn't like me talking to much about the baby he has once shouted at me saying that he just wants to relax after work.
I get excited about things but I am also really scared at the same time but hubby just does not seem to have same enthusiasm. I sometimes feel stressed about the baby and money and things he says I have nothing to be stressed about and does not understand why do women make things bigger then they are, to be honest it really annoyed me.
I try and voice my option on how I am feeling about things and feel I get shot down! He seems to think that he knows everything, I am younger then he is and feel like he talks to me like I am one of the kids he teaches at times.
I wish I could just go out and do things meet new people but I find it hard.
I don't know what I am achieving by writing this just makes me feel a little better to vent and get it all out an have a good cry! :)

cos that sounds like a pants situation.

Poor you. Last thing you need is that kind of nonsense being spouted at you!
If it's any consolation my partner tries to patronise me at times. I stew quietly for a few minutes whilst he talks then tell him to fuck off. Literally just those 2 words. Snaps him out of it.

It might not work for you though.

Can you ask him if he's feeling nervous/anxious about baby coming? Could be that he's overwhelmed as well and this is his way of dealing. Not very nice though.

If he says no, then just tell him how he's making you feel. If he starts being dismissive then point it out to him.

And point out that you ARE worried about money and baby because you cannot see the future so the unknown is scary. It's only natural to be feart. I don't see if you have any kids already but this is is my first and I'm trying not to worry about everything in sight. but some things just sneak under radar like our savings. Trying to live off one (my) wage but I can't see his bank account that we meant to be saving and him-indoors is not known for his ability to save

If all else fails. Stop making his lunch, dinner and washing his clothes for a week and see how he likes them apples......

On a side note, I also have few friends. My best friends live in another town 40mins away. I do have family but not particularly close to them. Maybe try and look for mum and baby meets? Once baby is here obvs

Hth

comeagainforbigfudge Thanks makes me feel a little better :)

It is our first I feel better for venting saves me taking it out on him.
You make some good points, ill defo think about talking to him.

Oh I love a good vent.

For example, been talking about going away for few days round OH birthday. He has taken time off. But not marked on calendar.

So I've asked a few times over past few weeks what he's off. I'm not off but work shifts so have mine arranged for start of week so could in theory go away for longish wknd.

Last night he asks if anything planned for his actual birthday.

I look at him as though he's an alien and say "well no because you still haven't told me what your off si we haven't booked anything yet" (note this is using money his dad gave us for Xmas and he agreed to the whole few nights away plan).

Anyway, he then says he's off the whole week..... so I reply, why didn't you just say that.
Then changes story to maybe it's just half the week.

At which point I just very quietly and angrily tell him to do whatever the hell he wants. It his birthday.

So what he wants to do is meet up with his boyfriends and get wasted. Which is fine in itself but not when we agreed to try get away and he keeps stonewalling me/conveniently forgets our plans.

I'm being incredibly childish I know but it has really pissed me off.

Almost feel better now.
Off to the swimming pool to see if that helps more

I'm sure husbands just like to wind us up!!!

Enjoy the swim think I should take up swimming :D

It is really hard making friends when you've moved to be with your partner - I've done it twice. The first time was to the Scottish Borders and I totally failed at it. I think I expected to make friends with his friends and grow a group of friends from that, but like your husband he didn't really have many local friends. In retrospect, what I should have done is taken up some hobbies and joined some clubs. There was a pottery club in the next town that I could have driven to. And a regional weaving and spinning club. I could have taken night courses at the local college.

What I eventually did was start going to visit Internet friends who lived a couple of hours drive away. It was a poor solution.

This time around I moved from Scotland to the south coast, and it's gone much better. I made friends with my partners friends and acquaintances, and I made friends at gigs, and I got involved with local groups and made friends that way.

OP, I think you'd like your partner a lot more if he wasn't your only friend. Join a club, take a course, invite someone out for a cup of tea. It's REALLY hard to start doing it, I know, but you'll be amazed at how much easier it gets.

I find it really difficult but I am going to a thing tomo for pregnant women so might meet someone there maybe.

If not plan on taking baby to things once she is born so hopefully meet other mums as I don't really know any other ladys with babys.

I love my husband don't get me wrong just some of the things that are said to me wind me up at times, I always try to brush it of and be happy but its hard I'm not perfect nor is he :)

I need to find a hobby that isn't on the internet :D