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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Pregnancy after IVF/Infertility

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AkashaCat · 11/02/2015 01:06

I've been with my husband for almost 20 years and we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility back in 2010. We tried different treatments and interventions until we were eventually referred for IVF in 2013. Our very first round resulted in a BFP, and our beautiful baby daughter was born in October, last year. We have been walking around on cloud nine ever since. We were asked about birth control and we both kind of laughed and said we'd be happy to take our chances, as we thought chances were beyond slim, anyway. We hoped to start trying again when our daughter hit a year old. We didn't want to pump my body with contraceptive pills, so we have been using the rhythm method. Clearly we used this to 'ill' effect, because as my daughter is 4 months old I have just discovered I am pregnant again! My feelings? Overwhelmed; overjoyed; in a state of disbelief (I have done 5 tests in two days); feeling naive/silly; scared... Yep, silly and scared probably win overall at the minute. I know people will be reading this thinking, 'Really?!' But after so many years trying just about everything but standing on our heads to conceive our first baby, we feel shocked! Telling my parents is going to be the hardest. (I feel like a teenager rather than a grown woman in my late thirties). I'm also scared at how hard it's going to be raising two babies so young and afraid I mightn't be able to give my daughter the attention she needs. My husnband is happy about a second baby and tells me we'll cope, but he's more worried about my physical health and any risks such a close pregnancy might pose for me. (My first pregnancy was really straight forward and I had a vaginal delivery.) I'm hoping anyone else in a similar situation might be able to give me some advice or reassurance.

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BathtimeFunkster · 11/02/2015 01:13

Something very similar happened to my best friend. It's not unknown :)

Congratulations Flowers

It will be fine. Crazy but fine.

Better than fine. :)

angelopal · 11/02/2015 11:03

Congratulations. No experience with infertilty but did have a second pregnancy after only 7 months after first. No ill effects. You can be more prone to pelvic pain as ligaments and muscles are still recovering. Slightly different for me as did not have a baby to look after as our first sadly passed away neonatally and we tried again quite soon. Everything was fine 2nd time round and we have a healthy dd.

Hope all goes well for you.

Number3cometome · 11/02/2015 11:04

Congratulations!

That beautiful baby must have kick started fertility somehow.

Amazing news, I'm sure you are anxious but excited.

OP you will be fine

nojaffacakes · 11/02/2015 11:54

Wow - congratulations!
My two ds are 12 months apart - and no particular problems with the second pregnancy. In fact I had more problems the first time, but not the second...The only thing i found was it took longer for my abdominal muscles to firm up as they never had a chance to go back to normal after the first pregnancy - but obviously that's not harmful for you or the baby.

yes, the first year of having the two of them is busy and hard work, but the benefits eventually outweigh the difficulties, and now they are 3 and 2 and are the best of friends. I wouldn't have it any other way.

I also worried about not being able to give ds1 the attention he needed after ds2 came along, but i needn't have. You will find a way to give them both the care and attention they want and your husband is also there to take the baby for a while, while you doing something 1 to 1 with dd.

Good luck with your pregnancy and i hope everything works out well for you.

nojaffacakes · 11/02/2015 11:56

btw i also meant to say that both mine were caesarean sections - and even that didn't pose any problems being so close together....

thejoysofboys · 11/02/2015 12:22

The same happened to me. ICSI to conceive my first child and a natural surprise for DS2! DS1 had just turned 10m when I found out I was pregnant again (thank goodness for BF and having no periods before then!!!) and yes, I panicked (and felt stupid that, as a married woman of 31 I was having an unplanned baby) but in all honesty it's the absolute best thing that happened to us.

Yes, the first 6 months were hard work but now my boys adore each other and are best friends as well as brothers. We got the nappies and milk stage out of the way all in one go and can now spend quality time as a family as both children are at similar ages and stages and tend to like the same activities.

Relax and try to enjoy it. It will all work out for the best in the end.

angelopal so sorry to hear you lost your PFB. Reminds me how lucky I am to have my two boys x

AkashaCat · 15/02/2015 01:09

Oh, thanks, everyone!

angelopal, my heart goes out to you. big hugs Congratulations though on the safe arrival of your baby girl.

Almost a week on and I'm still trying to get my head around it all. I have an appointment with the midwife on Thursday. Still wondering if it's something else (can't quite take it in!). You hear of people getting false positives with PCOS or Perimenopause, so I'm still holding my breath. I have done 5 HPTs (3 different brands and one Clear Blue Digital.) Like I say: still don't quite believe it. Husband was like, 'Told you so!' And I replied, 'Well, for being so sure, I didn't see you rushing to put a hat on it!' To be fair, we had sex like twice since DD arrived in October! When I think of all the things we tried in the 7 years TTC our first... >< I will keep you all updated on the results of Thursday's appointment.

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MuddyWellyNelly · 15/02/2015 09:14

Congratulations OP. It will all be fine. You deserve the miracle. 7 years is a heck of a lot of suffering.

I hope all goes well with your pregnancy.

AkashaCat · 24/02/2015 22:22

My midwife sent me for an early scan, as I am spotting/light bleeding (brown colour) and had some light cramps. Scan was last Friday: sonographer couldn't find the cause of the bleeding and said everything looked ok. Dated little bean at about 6 weeks and confirmed a heartbeat. I'm still spotting off and on. Hoping it stops. Quite worrying, as I didn't have any at all with my DD, and she was IVF (more expected to spot).

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MuddyWellyNelly · 24/02/2015 22:47

It is such a worrying time, all of early pregnancy. I've not had spotting (IVF) but plenty do, natural or not, with no ill effects. A HB at 6 weeks is a good sign. Wishing you the very best.

Dildals · 25/02/2015 08:54

Spotting is v common and not necessarily a sign of bad things.

I had IVF for my first pregnancy and am now pregnant too, naturally! My DD is 18m though, not 4m!

Good luck and congrats! Hope it all goes well!

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