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Travelling to wedding at 36 wks

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snowydrops · 10/02/2015 18:39

I am due to be going to a wedding 200 miles away in a fortnight.

DH will be with me as will DD and I can't stop worrying about if I'm being a fool travelling this late on!

DD was late and so I've always assumed I would be fine but I am due to have an ELCS this time around (3rd degree tear last time and surgery on cervix so not keen to repeat VB) and am now stressing if something kicks off I might not get that at my non local hospital.

We are planning to travel by train (2hrs) Instead of the 5hr car journey but am I being a fool?

Main concern would be going into labour at different hospital and not getting the c-sec and also having no back up care for DD who is 3!

I am probably overthinking it but would you do it?

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Nolim · 10/02/2015 18:41

Honestly i would not go.

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snowydrops · 10/02/2015 19:31

It serves me right as I criticized a friend who did this a few months back....only to find myself in the exact situation! Of course I understood why she didn't attend but thought she was missing out now I see that it was probably very sensible of her!

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Guyropes · 10/02/2015 19:37

I would research which hospital you'd likely go to, and discuss with your midwife if it was possible to speak to someone in advance of the journey.

JennyBlueWren · 10/02/2015 19:39

Personally I would go but then I'm 38+3 and still working and just get a bit tired out by the end of a day. Only you can know how you feel you'd manage with it. When it comes down to it you're not the only person who'd be at the wedding so it's not like the bride and groom will be on their own! You can make it up to them with a special present and visit when you can.

Moomaloo · 10/02/2015 19:48

I travelled to a wedding 4 hours away by car when I was 38 weeks. Second baby just like you. I found out where local hospitals were just in case. It was absolutely fine and not that uncomfortable. But only you know how you feel.
I would have thought if you have a cs booked then you just turn up and nearest big hospital with your notes and they will get straight on it!

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 10/02/2015 19:48

Id go (I went to a wedding a 3 hour train journey away at 39 weeks in my first pregnancy!) but if you don't feel comfortable then don't do it. I was absolutely fine, although we didn't get home til 2am so was pretty shattered.

Moomaloo · 10/02/2015 19:49

Just to be clear - baby was not born till a week after wedding!

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 10/02/2015 19:50

Also, I always tell this story on here but my best friend came to my wedding 2 hours away at 40+2 and stayed over for 2 nights . She brought her 15 month old son who was page boy. Of course we fully expected that she wouldn't be able to make it but it as amazing that she was there!

sleepybee · 10/02/2015 19:51

Just take your pregnancy notes with you in case you need to attend another hospital ?

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snowydrops · 10/02/2015 20:17

Yes that's a good idea about calling the closest hospital just in case, think I would be happier with that! Will see what my midwife says...

Physically I feel ok mostly, not all that uncomfortable and DH and I will have to leave at 8pm anyway to get DD to bed so it won't be a late one really.

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professornangnang · 10/02/2015 20:41

I was fit for nothing at 36 weeks so I thibk better not.

trulyscrumptious33 · 10/02/2015 22:29

I have exactly the same problem, am 35 weeks tomorrow and next Sunday I am supposed to be attending a wedding 7 hours away from where we live. Unfortunately my DH can't come but luckily the wedding is near to my parents, so at least I'm not all alone. I have a lift with them in one direction and then a train journey for the other.

At the moment I intend to go and hope for the best, but I will reassess towards the end of next week. Any niggles or signs of impending labour then I'll stay well put, but otherwise I am feeling relatively normal at present so am feeling fairly confident that it will be okay to attend.

I think it's best to go with how you are feeling. If you're going to be paranoid that you'll go into labour at any minute, then you're less likely to enjoy yourself too...

NorthernChinchilla · 11/02/2015 18:28

I went to my friend's wedding at around the same time, possibly 35 weeks, and at the other end of the country. Wedding was so far in the middle of nowhere it wasn't true. Was also booked in for c section.
Took notes, had a great time, hit the dance floor, and returned home after a few days as we were staying with family.

However, it's all down to how you feel physically and mentally, and if you're anxious and knackered then don't go!

Fattycow · 11/02/2015 18:44

I would go. Take your notes with you, as they will state the reason of your elective section. Another hospital will most likely give you a section based on that as well.

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