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Husband going away

22 replies

MissTwister · 08/02/2015 12:18

Hello I am a first timer and my husband has asked if it would be acceptable for him to go to a festival when I am 33 weeks pregnant. He's happy not to go if I don't want him to but I just have no idea how I will feel at that time.

Also what's the chance of early labour - he would be a few hours away and I guess unable to get back if it was the middle of the night.

My instincts say he shouldnt go but any thoughts?

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callamia · 08/02/2015 12:22

Honestly, I think you'll be fine. The chances of a preterm labour with no previous risk indicators are quite small. I think I'd be fine with that, but if you're not, for whatever reason, then just say so.

Hopefully at 33 weeks, you'll be feeling quite good - big without being massive, and still fairly perky. You could probably plan to do something fun with your own friends while he's away.

schopenhauer · 08/02/2015 12:31

I would say yes.i was on my own 5 days a week at that stage, he worked away. Lots of ppl alone full time! 'Let' him go because it's more important to have him there once baby is born.

skyra13 · 08/02/2015 13:01

Maybe you could have a girlie weekend while he is away so someone will be with you x

Emilyrose1290 · 08/02/2015 13:13

I am currently 36 weeks and my boyfriend has gone away to a stag do this weekend - he is the best man so couldn't really not go! I have spent the weekend with my friends, doing girly things etc. I just made sure someone was staying with me overnight just incase anything did start to happen if you know what I mean!! I also got him to have some cash on him at all times so that if anything happened he could get a taxi here, he's a couple of hours away, but i guess that might not be possible at a festival.
So I would say it would probably be fine if your hubby went away at 33 weeks, if there is someone to stay with you.
Touch wood.. Nothing has happened for me so far (other than a few painful braxton hicks that scared me a little bit)!! I am sure you would be fine Smile I felt that it was important for my partner to have a bit of a blow out and enjoy himself before the big arrival, and he has really appreciated being able to go!

ToriB34 · 08/02/2015 13:59

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boatrace30 · 08/02/2015 16:05

Mine is away for a stag party when I am 35 weeks and possibly away for the wedding at 39 weeks. It's his best friend so hard for him not to go. Both are abroad so it does make me anxious, I think the wedding won't happen but he stag party will!

Christelle2207 · 08/02/2015 18:58

I had exactly this- dh wanted to go to Glasto when I was about 34 weeks. In the end I let him go on the proviso he took the car (so that he could get back in the middle of the night if needed)-would have got a lift or public transport otherwise. Was 200 miles away. I went to my parents' for r&r!!! Anyway I was overdue in the end and was in labour for over 40h so I needn't have worried! I would say let him go as long as he has a plan to get back if needed. I am now expecting dc2 and the chances of being in hospital alone at least for a while are high because grandparents (to take care of dc1) are some distance away.

Dogsmom · 08/02/2015 19:04

I'd let him go too, at 33 weeks although it's possible you could go into labour it's unlikely, especially spontaneous labour.

Physically you'll probably be feeling fine, you wont be too big and need help with anything, first labours are usually very long from start to finish too so he'd have plenty of time to get back.

Zsazsabinks · 08/02/2015 19:14

You'll be fine, 33 weeks isn't so bad and you don't have a million other children to run around after so you should be OK. Early labour is unlikely and even if you did go into labour it'll be the first time and that can go on for hours and hours, if not days.

Skiptonlass · 08/02/2015 19:21

Let him go and enjoy it. Maybe get a friend round if you're not keen being on your own?

It might be the last chance he has to let his hair down for a while :)

mrsdos · 08/02/2015 19:32

I know how you feel. My Dh is going away on a weeklong school trip to France when I will 33 weeks! Confused We have talked about it and come to the conclusion that its our first and will probs be late so its ok (and he really wants to go Hmm ) I think I may get my sister to stay a couple of days, but I am secretly looking forward to a week alone as he will be on holiday the WHOLE time I am on maternity leave before the baby arrives.

woundbobbin · 08/02/2015 19:33

Could you not go with him? I went to a festival at 36 weeks it was brilliant. I ate loads of doughnuts and didn't feel guilty because of all the calories saved on no alcohol. Im glad i went - I've not been to a festival since easier pregnant than with a baby / toddler! Grin

Racheyg · 08/02/2015 20:08

I agree with wound, could you not go? I also went to glasto at 36 weeks. Weather was amazing and the food was great :) lots of pregnant people there also. I would let him go as like other posters have said he will be more help when baby here Smile

umiaisha · 08/02/2015 20:56

I am 36 weeks and DP is going to Italy for work for a couple of days 4 days before DC3 is due.

I am a bit worried that its a bit close, but he is relying on the fact that our last two babies were late..god help him if this one puts in an appearance whilst he is away!

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 08/02/2015 21:11

I think 33 weeks is absolutely fine. DH was still working away a couple of nights a week until about 36 weeks. The chances of labour at 33 weeks are very slim.

SophieBarringtonWard · 08/02/2015 21:13

I'm going away for a weekend with my best friends at 34 weeks, so I think it's fine!

JugglingLife · 08/02/2015 21:17

OP of course he must go and the chances are that all will be just fine. You might relax a bit more if you put plan B in place though? You'll have them queuing out of the door wanting to be your birth partner stand in for DH should baby decide to make an early appearance.

Rustyzilla · 08/02/2015 23:11

I should think it would be fine, he's not that far away. If it makes you feel better my DH has just gone to Asia on business for 2 weeks - I am 31+5! Confused

Misty414 · 08/02/2015 23:18

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pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 08/02/2015 23:23

I think you'll be fine. My dh was in the states for a fortnight when I was 33 weeks, and I was anxious about it but it was fine.

This time round he's threatening another trip to the states when I'm about 35 weeks (and will be still working and with dd to look after), had just announced that he "can't" take paternity leave until I'm 40 weeks, so baby better not be early, and he's organising a big conference in London (we don't live in London) at what will be 41 weeks if we get that far! Dd was 12 days late so I am assuming this one may arrive around 41 weeks. I fumeth ConfusedConfused

htf2 · 09/02/2015 18:54

pasbeacoup I dont' know if you have changed your name but i haven't and have told my DH for years that if he isn't there at the birth baby gets my last name! Tbh I was more thinking about football games but even important CEOs are there when their babies are born...

Letmeeatcakecakecake · 09/02/2015 19:16

You'll be fine! DP is going away on a stag do when I'll be 38 weeks... Despite DS coming at 37 weeks!

I'm planning on thoroughly spoiling myself that weekend (curtesy of DPs credit card)

I'm quite looking forward to it!

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