Close to Birth & still Anxious about Gender

[Lozzy3003]

Hi All,
I'll be 39 weeks on Tuesday and along with my night time Anxiety of baby coming when I'm alone I've now become anxious that the baby will end up another boy. I've been and brought all these beautiful girly dresses and pink baby grows and family members have brought me a pink Moses basket and lots of beautiful pink blankets but I am so worried that I won't be using any of them. At first I wasn't going to buy anything girl because didn't really believe it at first but after 4 boys I let the idea sink in that I was having a girl but as I get closer I'm frightened I might be wrong. I recently gave away all my boys stuff, I only have a few peices that I've kept for sentimental value. Is it normal to become anxious when you get further along once you find out the sex? I never had the chance to find out with my boys because my hospital never gave us the option but my midwife told my mum with my first and the sonographer accidentally told me with my 3rd so I knew to some extent but this time they've told me and I am now getting worried I'll deliver another boy and it's not that I won't be grateful for another boy it's just really exciting having pink in our house for a change.

Sounds normal. I have boy/boy/girl. I wasn't particularly hoping to have a girl with DC3, but once we were told that she was a girl I did get a tiny bit excited by the idea of the new girly things I could make and get for her. However I don't think that I fully believed she was a girl until she arrived (despite it being confirmed at 5 separate scans!), didn't actually buy anything for her, didn't have a girl name ready (but did have a boy one) and still washed all of the boys' clothes just in case. So she spent her early days wearing babygrows with cars and dinosaurs on, and seems fine for it .

Same boat! I'm 37+2 and have got 3DD's, this ones a boy and I still can't hardly believe it! I keep checking at every growth scan and they always say boy, had a scan earlier this week and sonographer said look there's his boy bits but I couldn't tell!! I think my worries are more to do with the fact I can't visualise having a boy as I only have girl experiences to go on, but I think it's nice that I can't imagine it as it will feel so new, like being a first time mum again! Good luck and enjoy your new baby x

Well, you can't tell gender for a few years at least anyway.

But I'm sure they are correct about the sex of your little one, they hardly ever get it wrong.

For me it was a surprise when a DS turned up instead of a DD but I never really believed it was a girl. It does happen, it is rare and I am an exception. Try and relax there is nothing you can do to influence anything

When we had DD the sonographer did say it's more possible to get the gender wrong with a girl because they're looking for boy anatomy that isn't there. However it's pretty rare for them to get it wrong.

We're due DC2 and it's a boy, I'm feeling the opposite to you as I really wanted another girl. It was all too obvious on the scan it was a boy, so I'm sure your sonographer is as certain as they can be, even DH and I could see it was a boy

You have all the things you need for a baby.

I understand it is an anxious time but your baby does not have a gender right now. They have not a clue other than their own watery world. And soon there will be lights and sounds and textures and colours and all of them will be amazing and overwhelming and new. And it doesn't matter what colour the babygrows are any more than it matters what texture the floor rug is when they have a kick on it.

One day they will have a gender and you can explore it with them, just like all of your other children.

Congratulations.

Hi Lozzy - I would try focusing on something else.. maybe having family and friends visit you or just talking to them on the phone will help with the anxiety of being alone at the first sign of labour? Re: baby gender, I'm sure it's a girl! there is a very very slim chance the sonographer was wrong.. but I understand your feeling as I had a similar doubt at one point. but really, you'll not know for sure until baby arrives and it is not a big deal to change a colour scheme. Maybe try to visualise how cute the baby will be when it's in your arms regardless of gender?

I'm worrying about the exact same thing, been told I'm expecting a boy (already have 3girls n 1 boy) but I keep thinking he will come out a girl (not that I'd mind at all) and also dreaming he's a born a girlie lol! My Son (7yrs) won't b impressed neither will be DP! (This will b his 1st Son). I shall find out on Friday or Saturday as ill be getting induced on Friday. Not long to go n you'll soon know for sure.