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Absolutely Knackered

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GoooRooo · 06/02/2015 13:27

I'm 6+5. Every day, by lunch time I feel I could sleep for a thousand years. I am struggling to keep my eyes open. Sadly I am either at work, or looking after my toddler.

I don't want to drink caffiene and I can't nap, so what's the solution?

Please help!
Exhausted of Essex

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geekymommy · 06/02/2015 13:42

You might just have to wait it out. That's normal in early pregnancy, it often gets better in the second trimester (after 13 weeks). You might want to go to bed early. Ask DP (if applicable) to take on more of the household chores. This too shall pass.

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GoooRooo · 06/02/2015 13:45

Oh boy. The next five weeks can't go fast enough. zzzzzzzzzzz

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Butterpuff · 06/02/2015 13:46

Sorry Exhausted of Essex,

I could have written your post. I was exactly the same early on, then it got worse with the severe nausea. But by about 14 weeks I was fine....then it came back in the last trimester and now at 37+4 I am trying to stop myself falling asleep in my tea. Still, only this afternoon left at work then I can sleep on the sofa all day.

Equally exhausted of Essex.

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GoooRooo · 06/02/2015 13:49

Maybe Essex is particularly knackering?

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Butterpuff · 06/02/2015 13:52

Yep, I blame Essex. Maybe it's not the babies at all, just something in the air.

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GoooRooo · 06/02/2015 13:56

Haha... The Daily Mail would have a field day 'Essex Air Causes Exhaustion. Thousands of lazy Essex residents have put their lethargy down to the county's tiring breezes.'.... although it'd probably blame immigrants.

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Zahrah5 · 06/02/2015 14:00

Its just like that.
There is nothing you can do.
Get up and go for walk then sleepy.
Utilize your weekends, my early preganancy was the first time I was able to spend more than half day on sofa watching TV. Dont plan to do anything big over the weekend and if you do only half-day things.

I found I was always less tired in the morning, but on some days by 6pm I barely dragged myself home, ate my dinner while watching TV and browsed the net, thats about it.

2 days a week in I had dance classes in the night which included quite hard core yoga and conditioning and actually I felt very energized and better after that so I was glad I did them. Its a balance of activity and total rest.

Butterpuff · 06/02/2015 14:06

I doubt its the nice sea breeze, so refreshing. But I don't quite trust Canvey, never know what might be wafting over from there. (hopes not to offend Canvey resident)

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GoooRooo · 06/02/2015 14:11

Zahrah I think that's my problem - I'm a sloth at the moment. The sofa has a nice arse shaped dent on it.

Butterpuff Canvey has always been a bit suspicious. Those of us further up the coast have wanted to investigate but are put off by rising tides trapping us there.

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Butterpuff · 06/02/2015 14:30

Oh goodness yes, don't joke. I had to go there once to visit a relative in a nursing home (luckily they escaped before a return visit was required) it was during one of those flash floods last year and we barely escaped before it was cut off and we were stranded for the night. Terrifying, like a horror movie.

Embrace your arse shaped sofa dent, if you can. I have a rocking chair at home with my name on it. Bliss.

hazel88 · 06/02/2015 14:39

I felt the same early on. You just need to take any opportunity to sleep if you can, ask people to help out if you're able to so you can have naps. I found that it didn't last, and I have alot more energy now. Before I was getting in from work and falling straight to sleep, then sleeping through the night and still feeling exhausted on waking, I just couldnt get enough sleep! I'm 38w now and although my body feels tired I'm not sleepy all the time, still have loads more energy then I did in the early days. Don't worry I'm sure it won't last, but whenever you can just sleep, and don't be afraid to ask for support so you can look after yourself and get those much-needed z's!!

geekymommy · 06/02/2015 14:45

You're going to be a sloth in early pregnancy. A lot of your energy is going toward growing a baby and a placenta. You can't realistically expect to not be a sloth.

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GoooRooo · 06/02/2015 14:57

geekymommy permission to be lazy is most welcome

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geekymommy · 06/02/2015 15:35

I dropped pretty much any activity that was not mandatory during my first trimester. Fortunately, DH knew that he is a big boy and can take care of himself. You may have to explain if your DP does not understand this. He cooked more and we ate out more. The actual cooking wasn't so much the problem as the meal planning. Takeout will not kill your baby. We didn't plan any evening or weekend activities that would have required me to do anything. I went to bed with DD when I felt the need. The only chores or errands that got done were the ones that absolutely 100% needed to get done. DD goes to daycare, and the weather here is terrible for going out, so she stayed in with us on the weekends.

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GoooRooo · 06/02/2015 15:41

My DP already does more than his fair share of housework/childcare (because he'd be out on his arse if he didn't and because he's just that way inclined).

He doesn't cook though and I wouldn't want him to. He's TERRIBLE. I meal plan and do the grocery shopping online although we resorted to a takeway pizza last night.

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Gemzybelle · 06/02/2015 17:14

Totally normal and nothing you can really do apart from rest as much as your lifestyle will allow.

I was feeling MUCH better by 13 weeks but as a PP said it does come back with a vengeance in 3rd trimester. I'm currently getting up at 8am and ready for more sleep by 11!

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GoooRooo · 08/02/2015 21:04

I fell asleep on the sofa at 2pm this afternoon. DH took pity on me and took DS into another room to do some painting.

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geekymommy · 09/02/2015 13:24

What's a fair share may need to be at least temporarily re-evaluated. You're less able to do chores now. There may also be some chores that you were doing that you won't be able to do as your pregnancy progresses (you may know this from the first time around). I had to turn the job of picking stuff up off the floor over to DH, since bending down and standing up made me dizzy (I don't remember this from the first time around, but there was just less stuff on the floor then because toddler). You might have to turn smelly chores over to him as well, if they make you nauseous. No sense in vomiting and possibly making extra work for somebody.

Newlywed56 · 09/02/2015 23:38

You have my complete sympathy, in my first trimester I had never felt so tired before in my whole life, also didn't believe the "it would pass" comment lol but thankfully it did . Recommend going to your gp and explaining just how bad things really are. I was signed off sick for 6 weeks as it turns out I had exceptionally low blood pressure as well, need to listen to your body it may just need extra rest

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GoooRooo · 10/02/2015 08:26

I can't get signed off unfortunately - I am self employed. If I don't work I don't earn any money!

7 + 2 today and no sign of perking up. I'm dead on my feet and today I'm working from home with my toddler here so no chance of a sneaky nap.

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blowinahoolie · 10/02/2015 13:38

I'm around 12 weeks and falling asleep around 7pm most nights, can't keep my eyes open and drift off to sleep. DH is left dealing with DC and settling them to bed at 8pm. I feel really shit about it, tbh, but I hope that in a few weeks time I can start to take over and give DH a bit of a break. He's the backbone of the family just now.

You have my sympathies, OP. No idea how I'd cope holding down a job!

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