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Have a bad feeling - any way I can check baby is ok without going to docs?

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freshlysharpenedpencils · 06/02/2015 10:54

The bad feeling is most likely exasperated by me missing my 16 week check up (where I think they check the heartbeat) because I had the flu/ or a really bad cold.

Called the MW to re-schedule but they cant see me until the end of the month now. I haven't felt any kicks (but i know it's early) but i thought I felt one a week ago when I was in the bath.

Ive just got a really bad feeling that something is wrong - and now i won't know till the end of the month. Is there anything i can do at home to see if baby is ok? (my 12 week scan was fine) its my second baby and i just don't feel the same / no symptoms/ no sickness and just a general awful feeling/ depression.

I'm really struggling to be honest and don't know what to do.

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pocketsized · 06/02/2015 15:43

I had a lot of anxiety early on in my pregnancy, but once I opened up to my midwife they were wonderful. They arranged to see me more frequently so I didn't have as long to get myself worked up, and I never felt judged. I am now 33 weeks and feeling a lot more confident, and am back on routine appointments. I hope your appointment this afternoon goes well, and you get some support.

Zsazsabinks · 06/02/2015 15:52

Weirdly, I found my second pregnancy most scary because you know so much more. Heard all of the horror stories about things going wrong, awful things happening to other people, you know how much you already love your baby and all combined makes for a bumpy ride!

YoullLikeItNotaLot · 06/02/2015 16:06

If you're worried about what yo say, write it down before you go in and if you start crying just hand it over.

TwentyTinyToes · 06/02/2015 16:15

Oh you poor thing, I found my second pregnancy much harder emotionally than my first. Think I was a bit oblivious the first time around. Hope you get on ok at the doctors.

MissTwister · 06/02/2015 16:31

How did the appointment go? Let us know how you got on.

jmojo · 06/02/2015 22:41

Crumbs I had women crying frequently (not caused by me ). I happens when you are pregnant. I think you will find she will be very sympathetic and I think it is good you are going to see her as you clearly feel down. I hope all goes well, and don't worry, cry if you need to she needs to see how you really feel, putting a brave face on just masks what is really going on!!

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freshlysharpenedpencils · 07/02/2015 14:27

Hi everyone - just to update you. I had my appointment. The dr was such a lovely woman. She was so sweet - quickly gave me tissues and really listened and seemed to really care. She filled in some form which she said she'd fax over to their mental health team. She said she couldn't prescribe anything as I was pregnant and needed to be referred officially or something. Said I'd be sent for counselling - and said if I felt worse between now and then to come back. Felt nice just to be listened to. I told my fiancé and he hugged me and asked if I was depressed because of him?! I felt awful that he'd think that. I still feel exhausted and find it hard to be motivated. I'm still scared that I can't feel the baby and that I don't feel the same about it as I did with my first - but I think what you said about 2nd time around being more anxious as you know more is very true. We will see what the counselling does... I just kept saying to the Dr - I don't feel right!

Thanks so much for all your kind words and lovely advice.

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jmojo · 07/02/2015 14:45

RL20 · 07/02/2015 21:19

I'm so glad your appointment went well!
No doubt it will make you feel better.
Remember there's always someone on mumsnet willing to listen or try and help when you can't get to the doctors or don't feel like speaking to anyone else! X

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freshlysharpenedpencils · 13/02/2015 12:02

It's been a week now - and I haven't been contracted by anyone. No wonder people don't bother telling anyone when they're suffering from depression.

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Tranquilitybaby · 13/02/2015 12:19

Movement won't be at all regular at 16 weeks so don't worry. If you are very concerned contact your midwife and she'll put the doppler on you.

Loiterer · 13/02/2015 13:54

Are you feeling any different now OP? Sorry to hear that they haven't been in touch. If I were you I'd get in touch with my midwife and stress you need an appointment asap - they'll have cancelled appointments. Would you also buy a fetal doppler? I got one at about 17 weeks and found it quite reassuring.

EssexMummy123 · 13/02/2015 15:24

You should be able to get a same or next day private scan for approx £50-£100

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freshlysharpenedpencils · 23/02/2015 16:00

just came back to give you a final update. Had an app with midwife last week and she was the nicest woman in the world. I completely fell apart in front of her and she let me listen to the heartbeat as I was convinced the baby was gone. Everything was ok and she's going to see me every 4 weeks to help with my anxiety. She also made me an app with a maternity support woman who specialises in Antenatal depression. I'm also waiting to hear back about an app with a counsellor for a screening from some place that does antenatal depression care. So all in all - I'm feeling brighter and more positive.

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MissTwister · 23/02/2015 19:14

Excellent - that's really good news!!

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