Recently found out I'm pregnant how to tell my sister when she gave birth last year and he sadly past away ???

[Emilybee1991]

Hiya,
I've recently found out I'm pregnant me and oh haven't told anyone yet. My sister gave birth baby last year he sadly past away. I'm so scared and frightened to tell anyone. This will be my second pregnancy (I've read you show earlier). I really don't want to upset anyone but don't know how to go about it xx

I would sit down and carefully tell her that you are expecting.

It is absolutely bound to make her feel sad, but of course she will be happy for you too!

I wouldn't go with any cards / gimmicky announcements, just a simple heart to heart.

So sorry for the loss of your nephew OP, I am sure it must have deeply affected you too

Thank you. It has my sister doesn't even like to see pregnant people or look at babies etc. I'm scared for telling her, I'm thinking do we keep it a secret for longer. I feel so bad already and that's before saying anything xx

Ahh Emily it's not for you to feel bad!

I would perhaps wait two or three weeks as you are still very early on (?), but I wouldn't wait too long or she may think you are deliberately not telling her.

Are you usually close with your sister?

If you can, I'd tell her before anyone else. To give her time to process it privately. Please don't tell her in public. Don't take any negative reaction personally. Talk about her little one too. Congratulations and good luck

Consider whether she would prefer to be told the news in person, or whether she might like an email so that she can have a cry and then have time to prepare a happy face when she sees you. Probably different for different people.

Congrats, Emily! I think you're being really sweet to think about your sister in this way.

Definitely tell her personally - maybe face to face, or maybe on the phone if you think she might value the privacy if she might want it afterward for a cry or similar emotive outpouring. I would also say that it would be nice to ask her if she's ok (if the conversation allows it) but then not to go on about how she's coping once you have asked; she might not want to talk about it.

It might help if she's one of the first you tell; that may mean more to her in the long run. However it is your news, so it's a tricky balance you have to find between pandering to what you think will be easiest for her, and doing things the way you might prefer.