cant tell anyone yet

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Apart from dh but am worried will need some help. Had bfp on Sunday. Great news and very happy. I lost my mum at christmas. We were so close and although i have one dc, is breaking my heart she is not here to know or meet this one. So scared something will go wrong (as dsis hate late mc last year)so want to wait for scan before telling anyone as family couldn't cope with more sadness. DC will be so excited, don't want to get false hopes up either. Sorry, just wanted to "tell" someone else. I know this should be the happy board but didn't feel right to put this in bereavement as trying to focus on baby xx

Just a ramble really but wondered if anyone is n same boat and we can support each other xx

So sorry for your loss - that must be really tough. Have you found the antenatal thread for your due date on here? (There's one for each month, in the Antenatal Clubs section.) Really supportive and a good place to chat to others at the same stage as you. Good luck and I hope it all goes well.

Ah no i hadn't, will look now

I am pregnant and not had my first scan yet. I haven't told anyone apart from DH as I'm too scared that something bad will happen. I've booked in for an early scan tomorrow so, depending on how I'm dated, I may tell my close family but it's so nerve wracking. I completely understand how you feel & im sorry for your loss.x

Sorry to hear about your mum. I'm 13 weeks and have my first scan this afternoon. I've literally told my boss (for time off for appointments, etc.) and my husband. That's it! I am convinced that something is going to go wrong- especially as I've had no pregnancy symptoms apart from 2 positive tests back in December- and don't want people fussing all over me if there is something wrong. I'm almost tempted to keep it quiet even after that because I don't like people flapping and fussing around me; especially as my sister is training to be a midwife and my mum works in children's services, and it'll be the first grandchild, etc...can't wait for all the well-meaning 'advice'. Urgh. Lots of people have lots of reasons for keeping things schdum; it's entirely your prerogative.

Hope everything goes well for you.