Please help me be polite but firm!!

[maltatheterrible]

Re: visitors after the birth.
Our first is due in Feb, and I am going solo. DP has said he will be rubbish and probably stress me out more than help me, and I'm inclined to agree with him. He's a lovely guy but rubbish in a crisis and I get really angry with him so I'd prefer it to be just me and the trained medical types.
My family have shown very litle interest really (slightly hurt) but MIL is totally in love with new grandchild already and a little ott. Last night on the phone she tells DP "call us as soon as she goes into labour, we want to see our grandchild as soon as she arrives"
Arghhh! She is so nice, I love the fact she's so keen to see her grandchild but I don't want this.
I've read all the very strong comments on the other thread saying 'tell them all to go away for at least a week' but I really don't want to hurt her feelings.
Could anyone suggest a polite/nice way I can word this with causing WW3 please?

tribpot - nope this is the first, and it's a girl, and MIL had 3 boys. Sigh.
So she gets to buy godawful pink frilly stuff that I shall smile sweetly and put on baby only when Granny is visiting
The other visitors thread made me grin, I love the idea of telling everyone to stuff off and leave me alone for a week but it just ain't going to happen.
I shall be gracious, MIL can make me dinner, watch baby when I'm having a kip and then go away (smiles in regal fashion)

Hope it works out that way malta - I have friends with overinvolved MILs and it can get to the point where you are actually fighting for who gets to hold the baby when she's awake. Make sure you have a full roster of chores for her to get on with - would suggest letting the ironing pile up as much as possible before the birth

Best of luck! My MIL has only two grandchildren and the other is 16, so ds is very much her focus (fortunately she is 3 hours away!). My mum has 11 grandchildren and often can't remember my ds' name (Kidding - she does sometimes get it mixed up with one of the others, though).

DP has suggested getting a webcam, we can then stick sleeping baby in front of it and MIL can watch her for hours on end, from 200 miles away.
Although that image is slightly scary and Orwellian so I may veto it.

Mmm, I like dp's optimism that MIL will only ever get to see a sleeping baby (Unless you intend to turn the webcam off whenever she is awake!)