miscarriage :(

[jessalfieandimogen]

So last Sunday I didn't even know I was pregnant. I was getting really bad pains in my stomach and bleeding with lots of clots in so on the Monday I went to the hospital and they told me i was pregnant and they would book me for a sça

So sorry for your loss jessa, I went through it in november and it is awful, and heartbreaking, regarding the loss. But keep trying and no more likely to mc again. Big hugs xx

Scan on the tuesday so confused i went home to retun the next day so when i went for the scan an internal one she told me i had signs that a pregnacy had been there but she was sorry she can't see anything which I didn't understand. So I then had to have blood tests and repeat on the Thursday to check my hcg later on the Thursday she called me with my results they were 315 Tuesday down to 110 Thursday so it was a confirmed miscarage. Had a whirlwind of a week. I'm now just moping about and really stressed with everyone. Anybody had same experience? Advice and support please

Thanks not a nice experience at all is it xx

I'm sorry you are going through this. There is a miscarriage board in the Body and Soul section where you will find lots of support. X

Sorry to hear about this, and so sorry you're feeling so much upheaval all at once.

I miscarried a very much wanted and dreamed of pregnancy in September, and I found that even if I could logically get all my thoughts about it straight, the hormones were HELL. Cut yourself some slack, expect to be emotional for a while, and allow yourself a week or two to recover. I started to feel like myself again about two or three weeks after mine.

And talk to people about it. You will be surprised how many other women have been through it too, and they are so kind. It really helped me to be able to talk to friends and relatives about what I was going through, and they all knew to cut me some slack if I was teary or snappish.

So sorry OP. I've had this and it was awful. I bled loads and the lining was very thick still at the scan. Eventually I worked out I was probably around 12 weeks so it was pretty grim really.

No real advice - just hand holding x

Thanks everybody for your kind words I worked out my dates I think I was 9-10 weeks x

I'm so very sorry for your loss, I went through something very similar last Christmas - only finding out I was pregnant when I started bleeding :-( Take a lot of time for yourself and your DP/DH . I think sometimes people think because you didn't know you were pregnant before the m/c (or for me ectopic) they think it's not such a big loss, but you may find that really it is (it was for us). Also just the experience itself is pretty traumatic. So be kind to yourselves. You should also know that it wasn't your fault, there's almost certainly nothing that could have prevented it even had you known you were pregnant. Usually a m/c is just an embryo that was never going to be able to develop properly. Unfortunately the dice just rolls wrong sometimes. You should also know that everyone - and I do mean everyone - I've ever met who's gone through this has gone on to have a successful pregnancy (I don't know if you already had kids but I hadn't and it was a big concern for me). Stay strong and don't be afraid to ask for help from friends, or from a pregnancy loss service (our hospital had a counselling service for pregnancy loss) xx

So sorry :( stay strong