How would/did you settle a disagreement with partner on baby names?

[RL20]

To cut a long story short- I would of had a whole list of girls name as I find it much easier. Only had a few boys names in mind as I've felt really picky towards boys names as I didn't want them too modern or too old.
We're having a baby boy.
Partner has never really had much thought or input into anything so far (I'm due in April). He hasn't expressed many ideas to anything at all. Now all of a sudden he decides he doesn't like the name that I've said I love for the past 2 months!
I feel as though I want to choose a first name as he will be having his dad's surname, and also one of his relatives as a middle name!
This will probably be the only child I have, (he has one other child). I just feel really strongly that I want to name him, within reason of course. My main annoyance is that he's not mentioned that he doesn't like it before, and even says "well let me pick the first name and he can have your surname". Which made me feel a bit hurt as I thought I was doing a really nice, traditional thing by putting baby's surname as his! (His other child doesn't have his surname). And now I feel like it doesn't even matter that much to him! Feeling a bit down about it.
Any suggestions?

Wow, thanks everyone. Really didn't mean for this to turn into a debate though!
I have tried to catch up on everyone's comments.
Fox- it is true that he didn't have any thoughts towards the name I/we had decided we liked before now so that's the reason why I'm mainly a bit annoyed.
Sorry to anyone that has taken it as I'm some sort of hellish mother-to-be that wants all the decisions in our baby's life to be made by myself. That's not true at all.
I was just merely saying how do I try to resolve the problem that is my partner has suddenly changed his mind after a couple of months, as I thought we had settled on this particular name.
I think I am going to take the advice that some have said and wait it out until the birth and see how we both feel!

I guess it's always stuck in my mind that my own mother didn't get to choose my name (I was her first). She's always said she had no choice in the matter at all and wishes she had. My mum and dad split when I was still very young. May I add my dad chose a name of an ex partner of his! So yes that's ultimately who I'm named after I guess, although he probably did just generally like the name aswell.
Not that it's much relevance to my case but just thought I'd add that!

Your dp sounds like mine, id pick a name then 2 months later my dp would say he hated it...
Our ds was named the day after he was born, I said I liked one name and he looked like it, dp was just overwhelmed and said yes. Best time to push a name is after the birth.

Biscuits I like that idea, a few of you have mentioned it.
I don't want to come across as some sort of name-grabbing selfish person, because I'm not!
But the name is obviously for life and although they "grow into them" I also want to love the name from the start. My point is, my partner obviously doesn't hate the name in question otherwise he would of expressed that 2 months ago when it first came up in conversation

We came up with a list over a couple of months. We both got to 'black ball' names we didn't like - I had a favourite that DH loathed, so it was struck off the list - I went through a period of gently trying to cajole him but he was resolute! Then when we had the shortlist of names that both of us would have been content with, we discussed it and agreed it together.

We didn't know if we were having a boy or a girl so had to go through the process twice, but I think this was helpful as there was more scope for give and take - I compromised more on the girl's name, DH on the boy's.

Perhaps it would be easier to come to a compromise on the first name if you also had a compromise on the surname? I confess I'm not one for the traditional approach - I'm carrying the baby, it will have my name. That's important to me. But it's also important to my DH that the baby has his family name, so we'll do double-barrelled name. My sister's son only has her/our family name. In retrospect as she broke up with her partner soon after baby was born, it made sense that they had the same family name.

I respect people's choice to go the traditional route of father's family name, but as you're not married and so do have separate names, perhaps double-barrel might be part of the compromise ?

DH a bit like this.
When I was pregnant with DS, DH vetoed every name I the top 100 except 1 which 'just so happened' to be the name of his GF. We had about three girls names (Rebecca, Catherine and Charlotte) and plumped for Charlotte for a girl. DS was a boy, so we wnt with DH's GF's name and DH's and DS's GF's name for the middle.

DD is going to be born in 6 weeks. I went through ONE THOUSAND names (yes, 1000 but some very much the same but different spellings) and narrowed it down to 28. I gave the list to DH who vetoed all but 9 (success!) We didn't discuss it for 2 months until last weekend when he 'announced' maybe Charlotte or Elizabeth. DS has friends with both names but sees 'Elizabeth' less. I said 'Lottie' and 'Beth' for short as it would mean less confusion.

I was at work and a colleague announced that 'Libby' was short for Elizabeth. I had forgot and loved the shortened 'Elizabeth' version. So 'I' have plumped for 'Elizabeth Grace' with Libby as her 'known' name (possibility). I messagd DH as didn't want others in the room to know and got no reply.

I will be telling him that 'Elizabeth Grace' it is!!!

RL20, you say you want a name you love, and that your partner can't not like it because otherwise he'd have said something 2 months ago.

But in your op he is now saying he doesn't like it.

I'm sorry, but you do come across as not wanting to compromise.

He should be allowed time to get used to the idea and get into the swing of naming without you having set your heart on a name and deciding on strategies for how to get your own way.

He is not your father, and you've not said anything which indicates that you are at risk of being railroaded by him.

Let go of the name for the time being! Give him a chance to contribute now that he's interested!

Have you looked at the 'named together' site?

With our first we both had names we loved and strongly wanted and then one day we was in the car and i muttered a name under my breath an DH loved it ( on neither of our lists) then we both chose a fav name and now our son has name we both loved and 2middle names every one happy!!! I think maybe put the names you love aside for now and experiment with different names itwill work out in end x

I'd be more worried about your dps apparent lack of interest in your pregnancy overall than this baby name issue.

It doesn't sound as if he's very invested in you or the baby and sees you as 'temporary' in his life.

Legally its your choice. There's nothing he can do to stop you registering the birth yourself and you can put whatever names you want down then.

Jackie: I'm not sure the op has talked about a lack of interest in the pregnancy generally... Have you got that off another thread?

I think some parents are into choosing names and do it right from the start, it even before ttc! But others don't even discuss it until nearly at term.

Just because the op's dp is a late starter in the conversation doesn't mean he's shouldn't have any input.

JackieHarris.. I have not got a clue where you have got your ideas from, I have never said my partner isn't interested in my pregnancy, as he certainly is! Not that I have to justify anything to anyone or give explanations! It's just names he hasn't shown any attention to as I've said before. And for you to say he sees me as a temporary? I'm sorry but wtf?

Thanks for everyone's comments a lot of you have helped me, but I wish I had never wrote this thread now!

Does he have 50% custody of his other child? No?
If you and he split, would he have 50% custody of this one?
If not, as you would have the majority of the "hard work" elements of raising a child, you should also have the majority say in naming it.

CPTart, I have to say I do agree with you. Others have also said this, in other words.
He doesn't have 50% custody of his other child.
I can't really say whether he would have 50% custody if we were to split but I'm guessing probably not as he works full time and always has done.
This doesn't undermine the fact that I still want a name that we both like, but I do agree with you. Thanks

I'm glad you think so. When I read it back it sounded quite harsh
I just think whoever gets the lions share of the worst bits of child rearing should also get the lions share of the best!