Scan

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Ugh got a scan at 2pm and I genuinely don't want to go.

I'm either 9 or 12 weeks (having scan today to find out how far along) and completely expecting bad news I've convinced myself I'm having an ectopic pregnancy despite lack of symptoms (except twinges every now an then but still don't think they're on the EP scale)

This is making me think I'm going to be a terrible mum if I don't even want to go to a scan because I'm scared.

Only posting this here as I don't want to worry my parents.

Try to think about the negative effects of stress on your baby when you keep worrying all the time for no obvious reason. I know easier said than done but do try to relax and distract yourself with smth. Read a magazine or watch a few episodes of your fav TV show if you have smth on DVD. Worrying now won't help you and nobody here will be able to give you reassurance cause only the scan will show if all is ok. But if you don't have any worrying symptoms like eg bleeding, it is most likely all is good.

I'm onto my 3rd and I'm still genuinely terrified before each and every scan. I make my partner squeeze my hand when he sees heartbeat as it feels like forever before they tell you it's ok.
I'm sorry we can't post saying everything will be ok but be reassured its normal to worry. Fingers crossed everything goes ok. I'm hoping all is well for you

I was the same. (Still am. Got a scan today. Had one last week. Everything was fine. No reason to think otherwise but still.....)

It's that fear of the unknown/giving control of situation to others.

But once you know, you'll feel so much better

Please don't worry about the negative effects of your stress on the baby that is unlikely to help your general anxiety!

Try to remember though that the scan itself won't change the outcome. If you are having an ectopic (which you're prob not!) you need to know ASAP.

You won't be a terrible mum because of antenatal anxiety- I had it and I like to think I'm not a terrible mum do speak to your MW about it at your next appointment though, I ended up being referred to an amazing special midwife team who specialised in anxious and or depressed pregnant women. They gave me amazing support and really helped me through.

try and watch some mindless TV to distract you now.

How did your scan go OP?

Hi everyone, thanks for your replies!

I have a little bean growing inside me with a heart beat and I'm kind of in shock! I'm so happy and already can't wait for my 12 week scan (found out I'm 9 weeks which is what I suspected)

Need to try an stay positive for the next 3/4 weeks now.

I appreciate everyone's replies this morning thank you very much

Fantastic news, your odds of miscarrying now you've seen heartbeat fall to about 2% so hopefully you can relax a little. I was told the same after my scan when I was 7+6, I still worry but it's just part of the process I think.
So happy for you. Congratulations x

Thank you swanny84! Congrats to you too hope you stop worrying soon x

It's my 3rd so I thought I would be a dream this time however had suspected ectopic at beginning and im a nightmare. Roll on holding them in our arms safe and sound

Great news OP, very happy for you! At least you can stop worrying about the ectopic now and focus on all things positive incl. healthy foods!