Missed misscariage

[Mellyjade]

Hi girls. Well last few weeks have been hard. Having the bloodclot going for weekly scan its been hell. Not knowing exactly how far i am. We went for scan monday and the doctor diagnosed a missed misscariage. I have had no bleeding no symptoms of this. They then went on to say by measurements they think our baby is gone. They then booked me for surgery the next morning and we wnt and for some reason i just couldnt make it down to theatre i just feel this is not over so they took us for another scan. I explained i did not feel comfortable at all having the op. She took us through all of our scans, and i asked her if i was say a week earlier than they think i am would the baby be still alive she said yes. I cant remember the day of last period but i remember my coil came out 1st dec. theyve rebooked another scan next wed. I then know if ther is no growth weve lost our baby. I feel like im loosing the two best things ive had in life my dad and my child to the same hellish thing the bloodclot. Please anybody help i no in my heart this baby deserves a chance which is why i couldnt go through with it. Am i just giving myself false hope or do people think i made the right decision? Pls help!! Im going crazy here

Im so sorry to hear you're going through this, you sound like you're having a really tough time. I think you did the right thing, the doctors probably are right, but if you did go through the surgery with those doubts I'd imagine you would find it much harder to come to terms with what's happened. At least this way you will be sure you did everything you could. Wishing the best for you.

i think you made the right decision by giving yourself some time and the chance to confirm what is actually going on.

i experienced a missed mc in november and didnt really get many symptoms. just a small amount of spotting and a one off light bleed. that was at 9wks.

the first scan showed a 5wk baby with no heartbeat. could have been normal if dates were wrong however a rescan 2 weeks later confirmed the bad news.

you can carry for ages, i carried mine from when it stopped developing at 5 wks to 14wks when i had emergency erpc.

i hope you have some support in rl, if not there is a long thread running in the mc topic in body and soul that i am on where people have been a great support.

i hope you get some good news it can happen but i do think sonographers know when there is something wrong. thinking of u

I understand this completely. I was scanned at 12 weeks and diagnosed a MMC as there was no heartbeat (stopped growing at 9 weeks) and was booked in for an ERPC the following Tuesday. When I got there I asked them to scan me again before I would go to surgery because I was not convinced as I had no bleeding/cramping and had all my pregnancy symptoms.

The scan showed that the baby had died and I went ahead with the ERPC. It was very difficult time and I was devastated but I think the space in between gave me an opportunity to start getting my head round it a bit even though I hoped it wasn't true and seeing it again on the second scan confirmed it was. I really hope it is good news for your next scan but if it isn't - although it is really hard it does get better. I went on to have another miscarriage 5 months later (blighted ovum at 8 weeks) but I am now 33 weeks pregnant and it all looks OK.

Take care of yourself