Feeling so low... What cheers you up??

[Lewaney3]

Hi all...
A bit of background so I don't stop feed. I'm expecting our first DC which we found out are twins last week... Absolutely delighted.
Since around week 7 of pregnancy have been suffering very badly with sickness. Also started a new job in January. Diagnosed recently as suffering with HG so I now have a sick note and I'm off work. My lovely mother has come to stay with me for company as I'm so bad and DH works during day mostly. He comes home early evenings and even try's to regularly pop in during day which I totally appreciate...

The part where it gets confusing... Every time after sunset as early evening approaches I not only get the sickness feeling but this terrible feeling of sadness. I feel so sorrowful and I don't even know for what. Just overwhelming sadness. I literally countdown the hours until when I'll fall asleep and it will be daylight again. But then he next day it starts again as if I can't wait for the day to be over... But it's so bad in evenings. I've burst into tears the past few evenings. I'm making my DH sick with worry but I don't know what to tell the GP. I know it's hormones but sometimes I feel like my head will explode with counting down until daylight/the next day.

So any advice/hand holding/ what makes you happy? I've tried you tubing funny clips for light relief. My DM makes me leave the house every day even if it's just Togo to Asda...I'll stop there before I start blubbing again.

[carbolicsoaprocked]

Aw Lew, huge congratulations but also for you too! Hormones suck. During my pregnancy I've found looking for stuff I'll need for baby/looking for baby name inspiration etc cheers me up and gets me excited. This may not work for you obviously. Have you joined the HG support thread? Or one of the ante-natal club threads? Probably best to speak to your midwife about it though if you haven't already, she/he can probably give you good advice. Hope this passes for you soon and good luck with your twins!

[supersupersupershock]

I would speak to your midwife and they should be able to get you in touch with perinatal mental health team (or similar) whom should be able to give you some support. Don't suffer alone - reach out

[Lewaney3]

Thanks for the advice. I'm seeing the midwife end of this week so I think I'll raise it with her. Today was a much better day. Bought a playmat and it made me feel much better and very excited. :) thanks for the kind words.

[hestialou]

Why don't you try knitting, takes a bit of concentration, I find it takes mind away from nausea. And makes me happy to knit baby stuff (although currently knitting for a friend) xx

[sleepybee]

Do you think it could be SAD? (Sunlight deficiency) I have HG & started antenatal yoga classes & the teacher talks about hypno birth breathing techniques etc but it's not specifically a hypno birth class. I found the time at class really relaxing & really focuses my mind on what is important. Maybe try find a class in your area & start while you're off work. There's a chain called Lazy Daisy birthing, but the class I do is an independent person. My HG got better around 20 weeks but is starting to come back now at 27 weeks. Hang in there I really understand how low it can make you feel.

[Lewaney3]

Thanks hestialou unfortunately I don't know how to knit although I may just look into it. Would love some cute bits and bobs for them :)

sleepybee that's what my DM thinks it may be associated with. I'm going to talk it over with the midwife and hopefully some of it should make sense to her. It's all quite baffling to me as I've always been the rock for other family members and friends and I've never experienced anything like it. Yes I like the idea of joining a group. I've looked into a local book club but think a antenatal class would be even better :) thank you.

[33goingon64]

There is such a thing as ante natal depression. Don't know much about it but could be worth reading up on it.