Why do some people even have a gender preference?

[Danielson01]

It's beyond me.

Danielson01 I'm so glad somebody else wonders that! I genuinely don't get it - not that I judge people for it it's just a bit of an odd feeling not understanding where other people are coming from. But it's been really helpful reading people's explanations. So in short thanks, I feel I learnt something today :-)

I have a better relationship with my dd than my DS and part of that is their sex difference.

It's no use in putting your head in the sand and pretending the adult lives of men & women follow the same path- for most they don't. The irony of this question being on a site called mums net should give it away that women's lives are often very different than men's based on their biology at birth.

As far as my own experience goes I did lots of 'gender neutral' parebting with my 2. I still now have a DS who only wants to talk about computer games or football and a dd who is kind and caring in a way DS would never be.

In the future DS will most likely be earning more and may even have DCs I never meet. Dd will no doubt have the 'women's dilemma' of juggling work & family.

I can understand why some people want one over the other. Tbh I don't entirely believe people who don't have some slight preference.

My preference now has nothing to do with how my child will grow up. I'm a worrier by nature and the whole thing of pregnancy is terrifying. I just feel, that with everything else i'm going to worry about and panic about (irrationally I know, but doesn't change that it will happen) that I could cope much better if it were a girl.

I will still love whatever child is growing inside me, but that doesn't mean my subconscious can't deal better with the idea of everything terrifying that will happen if when I dream it's a girl.

I appreciate this sounds stupid to some people, but in the same way everyone is taking about children being different, remember every mum to be is different and some struggle - if it helps them to hope then what is the harm.

I dont understand either! I think that having an idea of how to raise your child based on gender is a very outdated and frankly silly way to look at it. I will be happy with either girl or boy and it wont change my way of wanting to raise my child either way. If i have a girl and shes a tomboy i wouldnt care- i would rather nurture them as an individual that try and put them into a category

Well Danielson do you have some idea now?

Such a fucking ridiculous thread, are there are always numerous threads that could take that title.

I have a dd. I would prefer another dd but if it turns out to be a ds then of course I'd love him and be thankful.

I mean you really can't understand why some people have a sex preference? That says a lot about you.

You do realize that gender and sex aren't the same thing?

I'm pregnant atm and we've not found out what we're having. I'll ne honest, I'm secretly hoping for a boy. Of course my main concern is that they're healthy but when growing up I always imagined I'd have a boy.

I find I relate better to boys. I'm an only child and quite tomboyish so worried I won't know how to play/talk/dress a girl.

Strangely we have decided on a girls name which I love but struggle to find a boys name. So I reckon thats a sign its a girl.

To be clear I would 100% not be disappointed if it was a girl, but I think I'd handle a boy better as they grow up.

Some people might have or know they are carriers for health problems that are more likely in one sex than the other. A mother who is a carrier for hemophilia would be an example. I could easily see why someone in that situation would have a preference for a girl. Someone with autism in the family might also prefer a girl, as autism is more common in boys.

fattycow, we are on the same crusade. I salute you.

I have boy/girl twins who were 11 when i became pregant with my youngest. My partner has a daughter. The baby was our first child together.

I desperately wanted my youngest to be a boy for several reasons a) i wanted to give my DP a son; b) I love my daughter dearly but we are very similar and can clash. One girl is enough c) My son wanted baby to be a boy and so did my daughter as she, in her own words, "didn't want a cuter girl in the family"

Anyway, youngest was a boy. Of course would have loved a girl, but our preference was for a boy.