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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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got to book it, im so scared!

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KoshkaTheFIENDLYGhost · 18/10/2006 20:11

I am pregnant, i have no idea how PG i am, i cant even remember when i had sex. this is my second thread about this, im sorry, i just so need some support/help.

even abuse about how abortion is wrong is fine

i have to go all the way to the nearest city (an hour train) and back, as the large hospital in my large town is too busy.

im petrifired of making this journey on my own.
i know im not a great poster usually, and i usually kill threads but anyone that would like to comment many thanks

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KoshkaTheFIENDLYGhost · 18/10/2006 20:21

well, worth a try. id better go now. thanks x

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VanillaMilkshake · 18/10/2006 20:23

I take it from your comment on abortion you're not sure you want to go through with the pregnancy??

Can you speak to your GP or a nurse at the practise - do you have any friends, how about a partner??

You need to find someone in RL who you can confide in.

I dont know what to say as you have'nt given much information - and perhaps you dont want give any more than you already have so I wont ask, but will keep my eye on the thread.

youngmum21 · 18/10/2006 20:23

hey try not to worry it your descion big hugs to you xx
If you wanna chat im always on will keep an eye out xx

tribpot · 18/10/2006 20:27

koshka, sorry to pick this up just after you've gone.

Let's talk practicalities. Who will watch your little one whilst you go for this appointment / recover from the procedure? Do you have that covered, if not, please consider letting us help.

The journey itself: I live on your train line, I will come and fetch you if you want, and stay with you while it happens, or drive you back and forth. I know I am a complete stranger but we are MNers. AuntyMandy takes care of my ds and I know she will happily volunteer to take care of yours as well if need be.

Has your GP suggested counselling (and if not why not) - I can find out from my counsellor who you could see in your town, let me know if that will help.

Koshka, abortion is not wrong. It's not right, it's not good, but sometimes it truly is the lesser of two evils. Only you can decide what is right for you - we can't decide, and we can't judge.

Let me know if I can help.

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KoshkaTheFIENDLYGhost · 18/10/2006 20:29

no, im not bothered about what i say,

i have a 3 month old baby, and about a month ago my P left me, and now i found out im PG, i think i have PND, not coping with my baby at all.

i cant remember when i last slept with my exP!

i know this is the only option. i live with my mum in a house full of damp and there is no room.

i just feel so guilty, i have had miscarriages in the past, so i know how happy i waas to bacome pregnent before.

i have been to my gp, and she has sent me to the marie stopes clinic.

just feel so bad. my mum knows, but i cant talk to her, she is ashamed of me i think

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VanillaMilkshake · 18/10/2006 20:37

Pls dont focus on how your mum feels about you. You are a mum too and have a little one to care for.

I agree with tribpot, no one can judge you, and as for abortion is never going to be an easy decision. But you must do whats right for you.

Take whatever help is offered. I wish you all the best.

lulumama · 18/10/2006 20:45

koshka - i posted on your other thread..there will be no judging from me.....you have made your decision , the right one for you at this difficult time...

tribpot- how lovely of you to offer to help.....mnet is a wonderful resource isn't it?
koshka - take the help...and then concentrate on getting yourself well and enjoying the baby you have ....there will be time for you to have more children in the future if that is what you want

please try to get some counselling, not just re the termination, but the PND too...take care,,,xx

tribpot · 18/10/2006 20:45

I hope you'll be offered counselling at the Marie Stopes. (I think I have seen their 'adverts' in the station so I assume you are coming here?). You must find someone to talk to about this, it's too much to deal with.

I know this sounds cliched, but might you qualify for housing with two (or even one) little ones on your own? I think I'm saying, don't choose not to have this one simply because your living situation is difficult. (Mind you, that is easy for me to say, what the hell do I know about it?).

You have a little time. Please make sure you get the best help you can - and seriously, the offer of help from me is completely genuine. Keep talking on MN, people can help.

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KoshkaTheFIENDLYGhost · 19/10/2006 12:23

hey,
i booked the appointment, the only one they had was 8.35am on sat!
Mum is going to drive me, and look after my LO while i go in.

am scared, most worried about the prices!
I am confused as to wether i have to pay, but i am assuming i am so i'll have to raid mine and my mums savings!

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tribpot · 19/10/2006 12:26

Glad you've got someone to help you, koshka.

Pay ... have you seen the fees with Marie Stopes ? Why can't you have this done on the NHS? I know your local hospital couldn't treat you but that's no reason why you should have to pay.

And if you do, what about the ex? (Is he still living with you, btw? I sincerely hope not).

lulumama · 19/10/2006 12:28

glad you are getting sorted......there'll be lots of support here for you...

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KoshkaTheFIENDLYGhost · 19/10/2006 12:32

he's still living here but i dont think for much longer.
Me and my babe have put in an application for a council house and i know it will take ages, but i know for certain i cannot afford the rent at the moment.

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Munz · 19/10/2006 12:33

kosh - you should get help witht eh rent (afaik) if you are on benifits.

i'm glad your mum is being supportive for you.

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KoshkaTheFIENDLYGhost · 19/10/2006 12:42

im not on benifits as such, i am going back to work in 3 weeks (scared!) only 16 hours over the weekend so my mum can look after LO.

When everything is settled down and i stop having quite so much drama in my life (ha) i'll have a look into what help i can get/how much more i can afford to work with childcare and stuff.

i think its hit me now. my ex cuddled me last night till i feel asleep cos i couldnt stop crying. i know hes a complete dickhead but it was nice thinking he cared for an hour

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lubella · 19/10/2006 19:19

oh Koshka I'm afraid I don't have much advice I just want to wish you all the best of luck with your decision - this must be terribly hard for you. Can't your ex help you with this finacially?

big hug x

maewickedwitchofthewest · 19/10/2006 20:25

Koshka - just seen this, so sorry that you're going through such a hard time. No advice to offer, just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you (((hugs))).

mamamaaargh · 19/10/2006 21:27

Koshka, I'm so sorry. I'm glad your mum is helping you out with travel and looking after your ds.

Remember that people are here for you - I know Tribpot and Auntymandy have offered to help you out - MN is such a wonderful thing. I have been really touched by the level of support people have offered here and on other threads. If I were closer I'd offer to help out too... Take care.

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KoshkaTheFIENDLYGhost · 19/10/2006 21:46

i really would like to thanks tribpot and auntymany, who have both offered help to me, and mostly its because i'm too shy that i havent taken them up!

you really are two lovely women and thanks.

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tribpot · 20/10/2006 19:15

koshka, haven't replied because I didn't really know what to say. Happy to offer help and hope it all goes okay tomorrow, take good care. xx

aprilmeadow · 20/10/2006 19:26

Koshka, i feel so sorry for you having to go through this horrid time. I think you are very brave to have made such a difficult decision.

I hope that tomorrow goes ok and that you have a speedy recovery. xx

kamikayzed · 20/10/2006 21:04

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Twirl · 20/10/2006 22:14

Koshka, just to say that I'm thinking of you at this difficult time. Hugs to you. x

whitestar · 21/10/2006 12:00

Hi honey I hope things have gone ok this morning. It is such a difficult thing to go through especially with everything else that is going on in your life. There are no easy answers but no one will judge you. I had an abortion when I was 16yrs old and it still makes me feel sad now but I don't regret it at all. It was the best thing for me at the time. I'm glad that your mum knows, because I didn't tell anyone and was so scared. Please make sure you talk about your feelings afterwards don't just brush it under the carpet, you know where we all are.
speak soon
sending huge hugs for you and your beautiful ds.

prettymummified · 21/10/2006 12:25

koshka im so sorry you're having to go through all this sending you lots of {{{{{{[hugs}}}}}}}}

HumphreysCoroner · 21/10/2006 15:33

Thinking of you kosh ((xx))

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