Coping with bleeding in pregnancy -14wks

[loopuloulabell15]

Hi all!! Apologies for the post but im just looking for support (and a bit of a cry) as im fed up of bleeding!!

1st started just before 12wks very large fresh pink bleed 8 pads in 2hrs convinced myself it was over but gp found a closed cervix and referred me to the epu for a scan. 3days later got to meet our little pickle strong heart beat, pulsing placenta and even wiggled for dad :)

Problem is its now 17days later and im still bleeding!! Always brown though, little clots/stringy bits no stomach cramps or pain. Sometimes just when I wipe other days needing a pad and can feel it oozing out.

No one is worried unless it goes back to pink or i get stomach ache, had bloods checked monday and hcg was still 36000 (aparntly this is good) and to just 'chill out'. Bleeding has been heavier last 24hrs but spoken to gp and there not worried. I just cant cope with it!! Everytime i wee its like a small part of me dies, i cant talk about baby, im finding life awful and constantly just think today will be the day i loose it. Anyone any advice? I need to cope better!!! Thanks in advance x

Poor you you must be so stressed out and fed up.i had a similar problem when pregnant with my first son. I didn't even tell anyone I was pregnant until I was 17 weeks because I was convinced everyday I was loosing the baby. I spent my whole day trying not to go to the loo I was so scared. Eight years on my 7 and a half year old healthy boy is driving me up the wall on a day to day basis! I know it's easy to say try not to worry just wanted to share my story with you. Take care of yourself.

Thank you LizziW!! Its good to know im not alone. Can i ask how long u bled for? Weve choosen not to tell people as well but im getting a bump so might give the game away...cant even be excited about that :( x

Hi loopuloulabell15,

I am 14 wks pregnant, with twins, and have been bleeding since 11+3. I had the bright red blood initially which gave me the fright of my life. I was scanned and examined that day. Everything was fine and I was told to rest. Like you I am still bleeding and it's the brown yucky stuff that I have. I've had my 12wk scan (both babies were fine) and an antenatal appointment and none of the doctors or midwifes have been overly concerned. It's just something that can happen.

I know exactly how you feel but have told myself that I just need to enjoy the here and now and not to worry about what might happen as that won't change the outcome.

Try and not worry about it to much as stressing yourself out won't help you or your baby, just take each day as it comes, and try and enjoy the here and now.

J xxx

Hi until 16.5 weeks but then other discharge sorry tmi! Try and relax and put your feet up as much as you can. Not going to tell you not to worry it's just what mums do. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Jflo80 thank you!! Im so sorry you are going through this as well! I have been trying to keep as positive as i can and thinking that baby needs ne to be a real person not a wreck but some days are hard. I hope that things continue well, im so surprised the number of people this happens too. People really dnt tell u everything about pregnancy x

Yup babies only 14wk 2days and im already worrying over it...its going to be a long long life!!

My aunt bled constantly like that throughout her pregnancy. After her son was born they found part of her placenta had come off but had sealed itself and this is why she was bleeding. Child was healthy and is now in his 30s!

It's horrid isn't it. I have no idea how I got through it. I was on bed rest alot though too. but when I went back to work I coped by wearing two or three night time pads and bikini bottoms and then loose trousers and a jumper toed round my waist in case I started bleeding really heavily again. I also carried a change of underwear and extra pads everywhere.

round the house I just spent a lot of time asleep or in the bath or sat on towels. o eat on towels too.

You can't really do anything but ride it out. agree the feeling of massive lumps and blood pouring out of you is horrible and you fear the worst every time.

Mine tasted about two/three months

Gileswithachainsaw it is just all consuming! People just dont seem to get it! Im so sorry your experience was so difficult, guess you just have to get through each day. Must have been a really tough few mths. Ive taken to carrying the extra pants and pads, unfortunatly my uniform is a light grey...not blood forgiving so bring an extra one just incase. Havnt needed it though!

Sorry Gileswithachainsaw, did they ever find a reason?

Yes I was diagnosed with a sub chorrionic haematoma.

literally had it pouring out of me some days. others were lighter.

at its worst I was pouring blood and clots. and I was the colour of this screen.

They vary in severity though and you do learn to not panic every time just

you have my deepest sympathies.

Thank you! Ur words are such a 'comfort' although no one shld have to go through it. Sounds really tough,i just need to think positive everyday is a gift and one day closer to my summer baby. It helps to know im not the only one x

I'd never heard of it til it happened to me.

The pregnancy book drs give you made no mention of it as a cause of bleeding in pregnancy. so of course you assume the worse when you wake up covers in blood or feel it dripping down your legs.

just remember what ever happens you didn't cause this and there is nothing you cab really do to stop it either. just rest up when you can x

this happens to lots of women and my little trouble maker is now a strong happy 4 yr old.

just be kind to yourself. don't over do things and take any time you need at work. Dr signed me off for a month or so.

And allow yourself to feel and think what you do.

It's hard and scary and all the things that pop into your head are perfectly normal and nothing to be ashamed of.

I say this because there were times when it was bad and I remember wishing that if it was going to end just end already because not knowing is the worst.

doesn't make you a bad person if you have a few dark or negative moments.

My oh thinks its better i work and get on with life which might be how he copes but i do a physically demanding job and sometimes just need to take time! No there is nothing out there apart from bleeding = miscarriage which is a shame and makes it scarey! I need to keep repeating that...this is not my fault...im so glad it worked out well for you. Cant wait to be able to say that!! X

my daughter bled on and off with both her pregnancies she now has a four year old son and a daughter whos two x

I shall keep my fingers crossed for you.

I really hope you have a happy healthy baby at the end of it all.

so you can tell him off for all the worry

do get checked if it worsens or you experience any pain. and the second you start feeling exhausted and dizzy etc ask them to check your bloods for anaemia.

They gave me iron tablets far to late Imo. made it alot harder as I was unable to make it through the day without falling asleep.

be a pain in the back side if you have to be.x

don't be afraid to get signed off for a week or so if you need to

Sorry you ladies are experiencing this.

My last pregnancy began with heavy bleeding from 15weeks. I have never bled so much in my life, as I did in my pregnancy and at a time when I was certain you shouldn't bleed. It was so so emotional, particularly as you have no control over what is happening.

I would second what giles says do not be afraid to get signed off. In fact I would get signed off and do nothing but rest, if you can.

Thank you both, will be off to gp again monday if it dsnt settle down to a lighter level over the weekend. Noone has offered time off work, last time i saw anyone they just said if its going to happen it will and they dont advise bedrest so maybe ill be a bit more forceful.
The way i see it when (not if) this baby is born im in the karma stakes for an amazing delivery and no crying till its at least 5 :) thank u so much ladies, its so nice not to be alone x

Hi, sorry you are going through this. It is so scary. I had similar bleeding at 13w. (I am 30w now.) It started off brown, progressed to full on red with clots on and off. Then back to brown. Lasted about 2 weeks. No explanation was ever found. I do have a cervical fibroid and we had DTD a few days before but they just called it unexplained.
It is so common but not talked about. Afterwards, when I told people, loads of people said "I had that too".
It terrified me. It's the sight of it-it looked like a horror film! We had just bought a toy for our DC, a rabbit. I thought I'd cursed it and I was waiting to miscarry. I just couldn't bear to think of thr pregnancy either. I made OH hide the rabbit.
I still check if my undies feel a bit damp (TMI) but no more blood came. It did help taking each day at a time, then each week. Then getting to particular milestones.
I prayed every night, that helped me. I still do! I had my rosary beads and a lucky black cat I bought for comfort. I know not everyone is religious but if you can find something that comforts you..a prayer is calming, it doesn't have to be religious just kind of talking to comfort yourself or a toy to cuddle.
Best wishes to you

Ps yes do get that iron checked. I was already anaemic and on four tablets a day and after the first bleed (we were abroad) they said my haemoglobin was too low to be allowed to fly! So it can make you weak.

Hi so sorry ur going through this. It's the most terrifying thing to be going through. The 'not knowing' is the worst.
I had a massive bleed at 7wks +...huge clots the lot (sorry tmi). I was convinced I had miscarried. Following day scan showed lil bean well with healthy heartbeat. At the time was told hemmorhage site n bruising visible n too expect more bleeds. Red bleed stopped but brown spotting n stringy clots continued for a good few weeks. Unfortunately Yesterday I had a huge gush of bright red bleed again and clot the size of the palm of my hand n thickness of a fist. Had to change pad 2x in the first hour. Called up Epu & gp & midwife. No one seems overly concerned & advised to stay rested until next app on Thurs. I've tried to get them to bring the date forward to Monday n they Wil let me know. In the meantime I have no idea if I am still carrying or not....feel like I'm in limbo land .
Sorry for long post just wanted to share... Good luck

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