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Waiting for amnio result

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angelpants · 18/10/2006 16:28

Hi- just joined MN- am 15+4 PG and found out on Sunday that my blood test results had come back high risk- 1/30. I am only 30 so hadn't expected that at all.

Had an amnio yesterday and cried all the way through it- I couldn't bear to see my baby on the screen. The specialist said that as the nuchal test had had a higher than normal result my risk was greater than 1/30, but didn't say what it was.

I have a 22 mth old son who is keeping me going, but DH thinks if the baby is downs we shouldn't go ahead with PG. I can't bear to think about it.

Sorry for depressing posting- am usually so positive, but can only think the worst. Find out first result on Friday or Monday (Do they understand what it's like to wait?) Does anyone else have experience of this please?

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Juicylucythe2nd · 18/10/2006 16:45

Hope your result is ok. Sorry you're having to go through this stressful time. No advise really.

I'm sure Eidsvold will see your post and have some good advise for you.

katyjo · 18/10/2006 18:12

Thinking about you angelpants, I hope everything goes well. Big hugs XXX

lulumama · 18/10/2006 18:24

try not to despair yet...you can;t possibly make a decision until you have the facts......it must be agonising to wait....don't be sorry for sounding upset....

Juicylucythe2nd · 19/10/2006 10:02

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eidsvold · 19/10/2006 12:48

just curious as to why your dh would not want to have a child with down syndrome. Surely your midwife or doctor explained to you that a high nuchal fold measurement can be related to any number of conditions of which down syndrome is one and in some cases a mild one. AMnios also can detect other genetic conditions again of which one is down syndrome - feel as though you have not been given all the facts by your doctor and that saddens me.

I had a 1 in 5 or though at that time was led to believe my dd1 would definitely have down syndrome by the hard marker of a heart defect they picked up at 20 weeks. We knew she was our babe and would be born no matter what. She definitely had down syndrome - we since learnt our chance was 1 in 5.

She is the most amazing little girl - she is now 4 - attends a mainstream kindy - has been in mainstream nursery when we lived in the UK and I worked full time.

IT is difficult to say but children and young people and adults with down syndrome can lead relatively independant lives. As to my dd1's heart defect - a repair at 8 weeks of age and her heart is like a new one. She has very little health issues. Only other surgey was tonsils and adenoids out and grommets in - not entirely related to down syndrome.

Not sure what you are wanting to know but did want to say that having a child with down syndrome is not the end of the world. It jsut opens up a whole new world to you.

Since having dd1 - I have gone onto have dd2 - who is almost 2 and am now expecting our third - despite being an old mum and having an even higher risk of having another child with ds.

my dd1

eidsvold · 19/10/2006 12:51

I would also implore you - once you have the results back - please if the amnio does show that your child has down syndrome - do some reading, contact the DSA UK and make an informed decision.

In my experience - both in the UK and Aus - so many people's perceptions of down syndrome are so outdated - hang overs from our childhoods etc when children with special needs were hidden away and brought out for the obligatory trip to the seaside or the shops.

Sadly some of the medical profession are not in touch with the reality that is down syndrome 2006 and beyond. They have grossly outdated information and stereotypes that they pass on and again that saddens me. Women are experiencing very stressful and feel very vulnerable and they are being fed lies.

Sorry - rant over. Please feel free to ask and I will try to answer.

TeeCee · 19/10/2006 13:04

Hi angelpants.

Sorry you're going through this.

What does your husband know about children with Down's sydrome that scares him enought to not want this child? I strongly urge you to do lots and lots and lots of research. You must not make a life or death decision based on anything other than all the facts, the reality. If then after weeks and weeks of reserach and thinking etc you decide you can't go through with the rest of the pregnnacy then fair enough, but if you don't you could regret it for the rest of your life.

May I link you to a thread you may find helpful?
I'll go and find it and come back.

TeeCee · 19/10/2006 13:06

Here you go

eidsvold · 19/10/2006 13:21

SOrry you are having such a hard time of it. Hope the time goes quickly so you can have your result and make your final decision then.

theheadlessgirl · 19/10/2006 13:28

eidsvoid, just checked out your girls picture, she's is beeooootiful!! My girl will be 6 this saturday.
Angelpants, 6 years ago I was where you are now. my blood test was "high risk" (1 in 90) and as I'd the week previously been given a lower risk result it was found there was a millenium bug in the lab equipment (really). We decided against amnio, as i knew I couldn't terminate at that stage, but my biggest worry was for my 2 other girls who were then 2 and 4. DD3 did have downs, but what can I say, she's gorgeous, funny, her sisters love her and her birthday this saturday will be a proper celebration. I wish you all the best whatever happens, but Downs syndrome is not a tragedy, i'm sure other parents will agree with me. xxx

eidsvold · 19/10/2006 13:30

hg my dd2 absolutely adores her big sister - even when dd1 is giving her a hard time and teasing her.

theheadlessgirl · 19/10/2006 13:35

TeeCee, i've just realised that your thomcat! doh!, your girl is a little star too. xx i want to work out how to add a picture, to show my girly partying when she is 6!

LieselVonTrappDoor · 19/10/2006 14:08

I also had this with DD. At 16 weeks my results came back as Very high risk (1/20) had an amnio and everything was 100% fine. They also posted the result very quickly to me so you should receive them by end of week. I know its not a nice time though and Im thinking of you.

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angelpants · 19/10/2006 18:33

Thanks so much for all the supportive messages.

Have been talking to dh and his biggest fears are not knowing how severely our child could be affected, and how that would affect their/our future- will we be caring for an adult when we are old? Or will DS have to?

Anyway, it means we are talking about it properly, and we don't know the results yet- hopefully will know by tomorrow. I just know I'm not going to make any hasty decisions or be pushed into anything.

BTW Eidsvold, your little girl is gorgeous!

Will let you know what happens xxx

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Anglaise1 · 19/10/2006 18:51

I hope the time passes quickly for you and that the results are OK. I've just had my results through (everything OK), it took 2 weeks and 2 days, I didn't know about the quick results!

bundle · 19/10/2006 18:55

angelpants, I had amnios with both of my pregnancies, the waiting was very very hard. I had decided to terminate my pregnancy if I had a bad result (I had a higher than normal risk for Edwards Syndrome, a life-limiting condition, far less common than DS, most Edwards babies die within a few days of birth) and if that is the option you choose (for it must be your choice, no matter what your dh feels) then you will definitely get support from people here. as eidsvold says, do get more information if you can, xx

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