Can't stop worrying

[HannahB86]

I'm currently about 8 weeks pregnant after having an early MC back in November at 6 weeks and I can't stop worrying something is going to go wrong again. Generally I feel more positive about this pregnancy, sounds weird but last time I had this feeling at the back of my mind that something wasn't right.

I think what's making me feel like this is the lack of symptoms I'm experiencing. My breasts have been sore since before I tested and I do feel more tired than usual but not exhausted. But overall feeling ok and only getting the odd wave of nausea. I have my first midwife appointment this week so am hoping she will help to calm my nerves and am going to try and push for an early scan.

So I suppose I'm just after a bit of reassurance really. Is it normal to not have many symptoms at this stage? Has anyone had similar experiences and gone on to have healthy pregnancies?

I have had miscarriages and went on to have several healthy babies. If the worrying is getting out of proportion then perhaps you aught to consider a Mindful course which will help when the baby is born anyway. Ask the midwife to refer you.
Realistically, if you are going to miscarry, you are going to miscarry, and this will happen whether you worry or not. So it is really a waste of a good worry.
Best of luck and lots of hugs and kisses as the disappointment of mis carrying with your first is heart breaking.

Hannah - I'm exactly the same. After 2.5 years ttc and a miscarriage last year, I too feel worried and anxious. I also had heavy bleeding at 5 and 6 weeks - was diagnosed with a blood clot in the uterus (has now dissolved and back to a normal pregnancy). But now at 10+4 and cannot stop worrying about anything and everything. I've already had 5 scans due the bleeding etc. and there is a heartbeat, plus legs, arms and hands. I find the scans reassuring for that day but then back to worrying the next! I've got the date for my 12 week dating and NT scan at the end of the month - and yes I'm worried about this - argh!

My symptoms have been medium level - the insomnia and constipation being the worst. Although I seem to be sleeping better this week. I've had mildly sore boobs and waves of nausea but not actually been sick.

The chance of a miscarriage after 8 weeks fall to about 2%. From what I've gathered there is no 'normal' in pregnancy - some people have strong symptoms, some have none and they go on to have healthy babies. Some sadly end in miscarriage.

I'm trying to keep a strong sense of positivity - and focus on a week at a time. If you cannot get a reassurance scan on NHS you can pay for a private one (approx £80-100)

Hi just to reassure you I has a mc at 6 weeks end of September. I am now 14 weeks pregnant with a baby who is doing very well according to a recent scan! My symptoms are a bit like yours and all fine. Try not to worry too much, it is much more common to have a healthy baby after mc than to have another mc.

Hi hannah Firstly congratulations! It is completely normal to worry after an mc. I had mc #1 at 10 weeks in 2010, followed by a DD in 2011. mc#2 at 6 weeks in 2012 and am now 34 weeks. There are a lovely bunch off ladies on the pg after mc thread in pregnancy (sorry can't link on my phone). Come and join us. We have all been there and it is a great place for advice and hand holding

Thanks for your responses ladies. It's certainly reassuring to hear some positive stories! I think I'm doing my husbands head in already because I just keep obsessing over everything so it's nice to speak to others who can relate to how I feel. Just can't wait to have a scan now to check everything's ok then I think I will relax a little bit (I hope!)

HollyBen - thanks I think I have seen the thread you're on about. Perhaps I'll come join and say hello.

I know its hard but try not to over think anything.. It will drive you crazy! And congrats on your pregnancy! I was a nightmare during my first panicked over everything. I brought a fetal heart moniter which certainly helped calm my nerves xx

I'm sorry you've had a miscarriage previously :(. I've never had one before this is my first pregnancy but I was always told I'm infertile and some how got preg! I'm very worried I will lose this baby as I've had no symptoms and I'm 7 maybe 8 weeks the doctors don't think I would be able to get preg at all if I miscarry :(

Try an think positive easier said than done but I wish you lots of luck and congratulations!