cheer me up....

[shhhh]

I'm 25 weeks and already I'm fed up. I have just seen my mw who is concerned I feel the way I do at this stage especially as I have a while left to go.

This is my 2nd and dd is 17 months and such a gem BUT everything is an effort iykwim. I know I am snappy and I feel bad for snapping at dh & dd but I just can't help it.

I feel huge..so big in fact my mw did think baby was big BUT she's measured me and I measure 24cm which is about right.Seems its just extra fluid and fat from dd . I;m on 4ft 11in so maybe that doesn't help as I do look bigger iykwim. My clothes are already getting to small so guess I will have to buy more maternity clothes. .

I am worried about the birth, have PND which is now classed as AND and just feel like my life is falling down on me.

I am so greatful for ds2b, aftre mc's dd was a blessing and even ds2b is a blessing as we never really counted on any children as what we had been through.........

Oh.....I will just go,I'm moaning and there's more happening in life than my issues...

Not sure I can cheer you up, but I can moan with the best of them Do you want a moaning buddy?!

I am 34 weeks, had a show on Friday and another yesterday, have been having contractions every night since Friday night, so I have managed about 13 and a half hours sleep since then. I have an emergency appointment with the consultant tomorrow, and have been told if the contractions get closer together again, (they mostly stay around every 8-10 minutes, but yesterday they were coming every 3-4 minutes), then I have to get to hospital A.S.A.P. Add to that, my bloody MIL, and I can moan into the early hours without taking a breath - except when I have a contraction!!

Didn't want you to think no-one was listening.

Can you, dd and dh get away for the weekend? even just to the seaside for a change of air?

Oh dear! I was like this all way through prenancy with ds2. A right flipping moan I was. Everyone thinks you have to be happy and cheerful as you are carrying this new baby etc etc. It sucks. You need to spoil yourself. Lots of treats, back rubs all that good stuff.

I had heard there was an injection you can have stright after birth to stop the hormones making you more depressed if you have AND, have you heard about this?

Hope you feel bit better soon.

shhhh, not sure I can cheer you up either if Im honest but wanted to let you know your not alone. I too am happy and ready for ds2b! My ds (aged4) is a good boy most of the time Im just so worn out, run down and pretty exhausted, I am measuring 2 weeks ahead! Being messed around by the hospital. I cry most days!

Didnt do anything to cheer you up, but you know your not alone now hon. ((((((hugs))))))

DS cheered me up today, he came home with barny bear (they get to if hes good all day) and we will have fun tonight taking piccies of him having fu with matthew!

aww thanks everyone. Like you have all said at least I sound normal..!! I just feel that everyone thinks "oh here she goes again" which stresses me even more.

People keep suggesting I let dd stay with her gp's but tbh that would stress me out even more..it's not time from her I need it's just "time" I guess.!! iykwim.

Dh is working daily from 5.30am -7/8pm so that doesn't help and as he's self employed his contract is due to end 31/12 so he can have a few months off with dd & I before the baby and once ds2b arrives. He's also working most weekends and the weekends he doesn't work we seem to be spread between visits to il's, parents and generally doing what we need to do...christmas shopping, scans, dd's vaccinations, seeing santa etc etc etc. I suppose I am panicing that it's all going fast..but it's not . Hope I am making sense..!??

Lucycat, I would love to have a weekend away but it just seems we don't have the time (sounds mad I know) and I keep hinting to dh and even got to the stage of booking something a month or so ago but then nothing.I give up. .

MM, whats tis about the jab for pnd/depression..? I hadn't heard of it.? Any more info.? I would gladly have anything if it helped..!

Wish I could help. Does it make it better or worse if you remember that you get a baby at the end of it?

shhh, I don't know if it helps, but I didn't stop feeling fed up and hating pregancy (my first, but then also feeling guilty at feeling that way!) until 25-26 weeks!! Maybe there's hope for you!! I just didn't like being pregnant; didn't like the way I felt; what the hormones did to me, my body and my moods - but then it all went OK (until now - only joking, at 38 +4 I think I'm allowed to feel tired and uncomfortable!!)

I was advised by my midwife when pregnant with ds2 to have this injection after his birth as I was feeling very low during the pregnancy. I stupidly thought "OH I dont need that", but now wish I had.

You should ask about it at your next appointment. It seemingly puts all the hormones back to their correct places etc without giving you all the weird mood swings and depression.

If I was to have any more dc I would definitly ask about it. Hope you feel bit better soon.

Yes, it does cheer me up knowing what we get at the end BUT I suppose atm that seems years away...

Squishy, think I am similar to you, mum actually said to me weeks ago "you love the baby bit at the end but pregnancy isn't you...you hate the 40 weeks build up". I suppose she is right. I still have sickness on and off now, dd has just been ill so over 3 nights dh & I got about 5 hours sleep total and also I hate the size I have got to. I know after I can do my best to loose it BUT it's now..I hate looking so "fat". I feel unattractive which isn't me. I still make an effort each day and do my hair and makeup and I am never without lipgloss BUT I don't think it makes a difference. Lipgloss doesn't make me look slimmer ..god I wish it did.!

MM, I will actually try my mw now. She is really good and apparently unlike last time she will see me every apointment which fills me with confidence. Its nice to go and she ask's how you are and how you are coping with the pnd. I feel like "shhh" and not a patient. I will let you know how I get on.

Thanks everyone. I do appreciate your comments. xx