I can't eat. Worried for the baby...

[applesmummy]

Please don't be too harsh on me, I feel terrible but I'm really struggling to eat in a mental sense rather than physically.

I am almost 12 weeks and was overweight to start with and at the moment I feel awful. I've always had body image issues and been up and down with my weight since being a teenager, I finally became accepting of being bigger but now I feel vile.

I know I'm pregnant and weight gain is inevitable but I'm worried I am putting on too much and I haven't been able to eat. I feel so guilty eating and so guilty not but I can't bring myself to have anything. I know I need to feed my baby but I don't want to cause issues for the baby by getting much fatter and I don't want to end up one of those people who needs a wall removing to leave their house.

If I eat I have a bite or two then cry for ages for eating. It isn't helping that my mother keeps making comments about me and how I'm already showing but shouldn't be yet.

I know I need to eat and I hate to think I'm endangering my child but I just can't. I can't.

Tell your GP.

That sounds like something you need to get some help with. I'd suggest eating light stuff, fruit, veg, that kind of thing - but it sounds a bit more emotional than that. Can you ring your midwife or GP?

I'm going to be under shared care due to previous mental health issues and I'm terrified of having any mh issues to discuss as if they think I'm unstable I won't get to birth in the midwife led unit:(

I'm really struggling at the moment. Can see a breakdown in the near future and I'm dreading it. So not the right time for a low period.

I agree with talking to your GP. You are right that you need to give your baby nutrition - though you don't need to eat loads or pile on the pounds.

You could join slimming world - NOT to slim, but because their eating programmes are healthy and you need not put on weight (except for the actual baby!) if you don't want to, but you would be eating a nutritious range of foods that would give her (or him) what she needs to grow healthy and strong. Slimming world as far as I know is approved to follow during pregnancy. You need to get your midwife's agreement though. I followed it when preg with 3 of mine and had healthy babies of 7lb 2, 8lb 12, and 9lb 2 oz but was only a few pounds heavier after delivery than before I got pregnant.

Thanks for all replies

I have done slimming world a couple of years ago and found it much better than weight watchers and other diets / programmes.

I knew someone who did it whilst pregnant. I have a midwife appt on Tuesday so I'll ask about joining then.

I think this food thing comes along with some other issues aswell, I don't think mentally I was ready for this but I'm doing it now and hopefully I'll get some help. I just don't want to reach similar low points to what I've had before whilst trying to be a good mother.