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fed up with my partner :(

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3rdbump · 13/01/2015 22:38

Okay so my partner has been an utter tit lately. Am almost 21 weeks pregnant and only just feeling normal again after sickness pretty much till the past 2 weeks.
Basically I feel like he would rather be anywhere than be with me. He is disinterested in me and barely talks to me and when he does he is bad tempered and argumentative. I hate it. We aready have 3 children together eldest being 11 youngest being 2. Had enough of treading on egg shells .
yesterday he had the day off work, tjought we could spend time togethet fat chance he said he went the shop - 2 hrs passed so I messaged him said he was at his friends house, was a further hour before he came home.
Soon as he got back he was straight on his phone upstairs in bed watching tv whilst I was downstairs sorting kids out. Thats another yhing he is so secretive about his phone always on it wont let it out his sight. Am not yhe type to snoop but somethings not right.
He knows how I feel I have spoke about I time and time again. He also likes to drink. Alot. The sort of person who cant just have one drink has to get plastered :(
So tonight I arranged to go cinema witha friend low and behold he has arranged badminton withhis worker. This was at 530pm. Its now gone 10pm and not heard a thing. He has ignored my messages (whatts app so I know he has read them) and I dont know where he is or what he's doing.
One guess at the pub yes hes driving his work van and will be very drunk. He doesn't give a shit. Afterall its ony his licence and his business he will lose if he gets caught. We live in a rural area so can't get anywhere without a car. My fsmily and friends are 90 mile away. I have one friend around here and barely see her as she works full time. I feel cut off, lonely and horribly paranoid and now trapped :(

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theonewiththenoisychild · 14/01/2015 17:50

babyoven im pretty sure you will feel more trapped if you wait until after the baby is born. i know i did. and yes you will feel like you need him because its a very emosioally messy time having a baby. anger isnt something you will have the strength for with a newborn. i just sank lost a bit more of myself and my self respect every day. yes we got through it in the end but it was pretty damn soul destroying and it lasted a hell of a long time. and i think the only reason we got through it is because i stood up for myself and gave him the ultimatum stand and fight for our relationship or throw it all down the pan

jmojo · 14/01/2015 20:45

Join a mums group in a near by town. Just for the company and then tell him he has to take the older kids when you go it is only fair you get a few hours for yourself. Don't tell him much about it but lay off him as a trade off for him taking the kidsand see how it feels for him to wonder where you are and what you are up to. Plus you could make some new friends. You don't have to be out late or getting drunk to make him wonder. You just being up beat and not caring and having something of your own may be enough. After a couple of months he may wake up or you may find the strength to leave. Right now he knows where you are and what you are doing all the time. You don't have a separate "you" life like you probably did when you met him.

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