5 weeks and constant anxiety

[Moon84]

Hello

I'm new to mumsnet so forgive me if I'm not writing this in the right place.

I got my bfp last week after only coming off the pill at the end of November. So it was kind of planned but we thought we'd have a bit more time and I had a pretty unhealthy Christmas (lots of alcohol, soft cheese, some shellfish, one night of smoking like a chimney) which I've realised is just over a week after conception... I know how foolish this is and how stupid it sounds but I really didn't expect to be pregnant so soon.

I'm now constantly googling everything about pregnancy and scaring myself that the baby either won't make it to being born, or that it's going to be born with serious health conditions. On top of this I went for a family meal yesterday and ordered seared tuna- as my partner and I are mainly vegetarian/vegan I thought I should eat something nutritious that I wouldn't normally have, not realising that tuna and specifically tuna that hasn't been cooked properly is really bad for pregnant women! My partner did ask the waiter if it was ok and he said apparently the fish is treated in such a way that kills off any bacteria but I'm not sure if this is ok!

Is it normal to be feeling this worried about everything or do you think I need to get myself checked out properly with all of this? I have absolutely convinced myself I've done something awful.

I think the food and drink over Christmas will be no problem at all. The potential problems with cheese and shellfish is the risk of food poisoning. You'd know if you'd had that! The risks of alcohol increase with frequent high volume intake throughout the pregnancy. I think lots of us drank heavily prior to finding out we were pregnant, and it has done no harm. That's not to say everyone gets away with it, but statistically your baby will be ok.

I'm 7 weeks and the exact same my mum had threatened to take all my access to the internet off me hahah she forgets I'm 24!

I think it's normal to be scared during the first few weeks/months! I've had myself so worried and giving myself symptoms that I probably don't have haha!

Ok thanks guys. Since I found out last Tuesday I haven't touched alcohol or smoked, just so annoyed with myself about yesterday's meal but I didn't eat too much of it and am hopefully being paranoid!

Beggy15 think I'm going to have to do that, though I'm constantly googling stuff on my phone even while I'm at work!

Hi, I'm currently about 6 weeks and have been reading a lot but trying to stick to sources I trust.
At a week after conception the embryo is still independent i.e. the placenta hasn't attached. So nothing at that point should have passed to your baby anyway.
From what I've read about the tuna, the potential issue is food poisoning so you'll be fine. When they said it's treated, they probably meant it's been frozen which apparently kills the bacteria.

I'm constantly worrying myself too, even though I have no particular reason to. I'm hoping I'll be more relaxed after week 12 but tbh I expect to be worrying for the next 20 years or so now

LittleHornbill yes I imagine the worrying doesn't stop here!

Regarding the fish, the waiter said it hadnt been frozen, just that it had been treated to remove the bacteria. It's a pub owned by a well known chef who I could see was working in the kitchen, so I'm just hoping they know what they're doing!

You can have tuna, every week, a certain amount.

And as others have said you would know by now if you were getting ill from it.

Ok thanks for your responses

The worry about tuna is heavy metal poisoning, as they eat other fish which are polluted by heavy metals (especially Mercury). One portion per week is ok I think.

Hi there.

I am 6 weeks (ish) I'm not 100% sure but hope to find out soon. I am the same I had a pretty manic Christmas/New Year family and friends and lots of foods and alcohol and smoking!?!

But try not to street. I am constantly worrying every niggle every tiny thing I'm fretting that I'm losing baby. But what will be will be, and I am trying to be positive and read more positive this rather than googling the worrying things instead.

This is my first and I think it is normal to be like his. As far as I'm concerned I think I'll work until the day the midwife pops baby in my arms,and hen it will be a whole new set of worries.

Try not to stress, as long as your ding your best now you can't blame before as most people don't know there pregnant straight away so majority are still drinking or doing things perhaps they shouldn't.

All the best xxx

Hi Mum2B2first

Thanks so much for your comment- You're right, it's so hard not to get carried away googling every symptom and possible worse case scenario! This is my first too and I guess it's natural to be worried!

Good luck with it all xx

I'm four and a half weeks (BFP) at the weekend and just want to let you know that I feel exactly the same. I keep having to check my knickers to see if it's fallen out. I know it's ridiculous, but I'm allowing myself a week of getting used to it madness, and then will hopefully be more sensible next week!