missed miscarriage at 20weeks

[Alisa3]

Hi every1. Im kind of confused and still in shock at the moment. Had my 20 week scan few days back and told my baby had no heartbeat and died probably abt 15weeks. I feel normal. I have had no symptoms at all. Could they be wrong and how long before my body will go into labour its been apparently 5weeks since it died. Im going for another scan. Sorry its long but I really am lost.

Sorry to hear that, they would be very sure before they would tell you that so I doubt it's wrong unfortunately. Have they talked to you about what happens next? Sometimes a womans body doesn't realise the baby died and carries on as if it hadn't, without miscarriage spontaneously starting, that would be why you'd feel normal. They will probably suggest inducing you if there are no signs of labour/miscarriage starting by itself.

Alisa I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had a mmc myself, but much earlier, and it was 4 weeks before my body even started to realise.

At this stage of the pregnancy, it's highly unlikely that they would make a mistake, especially if there was no heartbeat. The follow up scan will confirm.

There is a section in Body and Mind for pregnancy loss, and the ladies there are lovely. They may have more advice.

I am keeping everything crossed for your follow up scan and xx

Thank you soo much for your kind words..im at the point were I need to be like 110 per cent sure before I decide to get induced..have paranoid thoughts about their being a mistake. .I really hope i go into labour naturally. I have 3 amazing children already n no complications before. Every1s abit shocked its happened. I know the chances are higher before 12weeks but my 12 week scan was fine.I just dnt understand it.we waited six years to try again.im 28 i went to my scan looking forward to finding out the sex never in a million years did i think about losing the baby at this point.its still a shock everytime I touch my bump its the worst feeling ever. .

Im soo sorry for your loss riverrocks..xx u really dont understand untill you go through it urself. I have no1 that I can talk to.

I am so so sorry to hear this Alisa, I cannot even imagine the pain you are feeling.

Have they said for you to come back in? If not, i'd give the hospital a call (or midwife) and ask for some advice xx

Honestly devestated for you. Can't begin to imagine what you are going through. Lots of love xxx

Sorry I cant be much help.. but I am really sorry to hear about this what a awful time for you! I hope your time will come soon and all will be well xx

How terrible for you.

Did the hospital not arrange a confirmation scan, chat with consultant etc?

Sorry missed you saying you had a second scan. I wouldn't put much hope into it being a mistake. Not to be horrible but they wouldn't have told you the baby was away unless they were absolutely positive.

Really sorry for your loss.

Iv just read stories of other womens misdiagnosis etc etc..i just need to be sure its really gone as im worried I will have to be induced..and the thot that i wasnt thorough about every option tests etc wud drive me insane..really hope my body does wat it needs to do naturally as some mums have sed inducing is more painfull. My dates were all confusing and all my babys were big soo cud they possibly have measured it more further along.. I know at 15 weeks some mums commented the babys heartbeat is hard to find. I know im stated at 20 weeks but what if the baby is 15 weeks and fine. I know it sounds crazy but I still feel movement of sorts..cud be all in my head I know..plus theyv sed the baby looks about 15 weeks and im meant to be 20weeks but I know iv felt movement in the last 5weeks. My mums always asked hows the baby n il b like its always poking my right side? I dunno sorry ladies for the ramble. I have a scan tomaro soo I gues my worst fears will just be confirmed and il have to make a choice wether to wait or be induced.. my heart really goes out to any1 whos lost a child..I never really understood this..all my pregnancys were straight forward..u forget too easily how fragile each moment is. X

No the hospital werent very helpful..I was given a leaflet to read that went through the three options of what I can do next and that was that. I have an amazing support network soo I know il be fine but my heart really goes out to any woman out there thats given bad news like this and be treated with no empathy. Its a very sensitive situation and u literally walk out of the hospital feeling lost and confused. A frend of mine opened up today about her miscarriage after I mentioned mine and her story is horrific..she was given wrong info and ended up delivering at home by herself. I just need to explore all my options. If we do try again I need to know that im healthy and there isnt an underlying problem with me..I cudnt cope if this happened again.xx

I wish you all the best tomorrow! please let us no how you get on! thinking of you x

Thank you dy14.. xx

I'm so sorry for what you're going through :( wishing you all the best for tomorrow, and please remember we are here for you. You'll be in my thoughts tomorrow x