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Sudden gender change

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Zahrah5 · 10/01/2015 17:54

My cousin is due this month and they just got the news their boy is very likely a girl . Is this possible? They already have bough everything for a boy, got blue gifts, picked a name. It must must be shocking, not meaning in a bad sense but a big change weeks before birth.

Now I am starting stressing out, we are supposed to be team pink, just got pink pram last week and car seat, loads of girly clothes, i have name, I am not even looking at boys names...

We had gender tested as part of Harmony test at 10 weeks and then confirmed by fetal specialist doctor at scan at 17 weeks. We did not ask on 20 weeks scan about gender anymore.
Im just not sure how reliable it all is now.

Anyone has similar experience or worries?

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TravellingToad · 11/01/2015 11:16

To be honest this serves anyone right for buying a house full of princess pink or tough manly blue for their poor baby. My nursery was completely neutral and I bought a pram in my favourite colour even tho we knew baby was a boy.

notasleep · 11/01/2015 11:26

Yes a former colleague was told def boy at scans - had a girl. Apparently it can happen because the baby's bits sometimes swell due to hormone levels and make boys and girls look more alike in the womb.

As pp have said, harmony test will be correct.

avocadotoast · 11/01/2015 11:55

One of the reasons we haven't found out is because I don't want to be inundated with everything in pink or blue. Drives me nuts. I can understand it being difficult if you've already picked a name, but clothes and toys etc?! They're just clothes and toys!

Maxis1 · 11/01/2015 14:21

Baby stuff shopping drove me nuts! too much pink and blue for my taste too. I didnt even tell my parents what the midwife said she thinks it might be. not that they would go nuts on buying pink for a girl or blue for a boy.

I even went as far as to tell people not to bother with pink if its a girl as I dont put it on my baby! Sadly there are still too many people out there who think their girls needs to dressed like piglets (all pink) and their boys like smurfs (all blue).

OP as long as her sister has a healthy baby who cares if a girl is dressed in blue or gets blue gifts. Just go with colors you like!

notasleep · 11/01/2015 15:42

Yes it is totally nuts. An acquaintance recently found she was having a boy after a girl.

Instead of reusing stuff she bought everything in blue, from clothes and Moses basket to pushchair, bouncy seat and high chair.

The oddest thing was that as she hadn't known her first was a girl everything was pretty neutral. Not that a baby boy gives a toss about being in pink anyway!

5446 · 11/01/2015 16:38

I was supposed to be a boy all the way along, at all the scans etc.

I am definitely a girl.

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 11/01/2015 16:41

I find it very strange, there are so many lovely bright colours out there, I just don't see the sense in buying pink/blue bouncers, prams, play gyms etc. And if you do have pink/blue things why would this mean that they are then unsuitable for a girl/boy (delete as applicable)?

Pico2 · 11/01/2015 16:54

We've been stocking up on stuff for DC2. There isn't all that much available in neutral colours. It makes me wonder whether we are in the minority in not finding out whether we are having a boy or girl.

MummyBeerest · 11/01/2015 16:56

This is really interesting.

I didn't find out for DD, and since she curled into a ball at each scan, I'd never be able to tell anyway.

Blue is my absolute favourite colour, and so most of the stuff we did for her ended up being light/bright blue because I liked them best. People kept asking me "But what if you have a girl?" And I really didn't care.

I don't think DD, now 2, cares either.

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 11/01/2015 17:01

Mummy Beerest I dress DD in a lot of red and navy, her colouring really doesn't suit pastels/pinks etc. They are still 'girls clothes'. However I find that unless she's dressed in top to toe pink people in the street say 'isn't he lovely' or 'how old is he' etc. I couldn't care less but do find it really interesting.

ArcheryAnnie · 11/01/2015 17:10

I thought I was having a girl, but he came out a boy. Still dressed him in pink, though, as those were the hand-me-down babygros I'd been given. It didn't make his willy shrivel and fall off, and as a teen he's now got a nice deep manly voice and a proto-moustache.

Seriously, you aren't having a boy or a girl - you are having a baby. Babies are all much the same shape, so don't worry about it too much.

Dogsmom · 11/01/2015 19:34

Take no notice of all the pink bashing posts OP, it's a Mumsnet thing.

Your daughter will be fine in pink, she wont turn into an airhead because of it.

My daughter has worn her fair share of pink (including the odd pink dress heaven forbid) and is a bright, intelligent, feisty toddler who is as happy playing with a doll or a truck.

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 11/01/2015 19:37

No one is bashing pink, pink is fine. It's more the attitude that the baby is a girl and therefore must have everything pink, and that it would be unthinkable for a baby to sit in a blue bouncy chair!

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 11/01/2015 19:38

*a baby girl, I mean

MuffinMcLay23 · 11/01/2015 19:38

Harmony is virtually failsafe - so I'm sure you will get a pink one! Ignore all comments re pink stuff though and dress her whatever you like!

madwomanacrosstheroad · 11/01/2015 19:40

What's the point in genderspecific big purchases such as prams and car seats, surely they are meant to do more than baby.

EssexMummy123 · 11/01/2015 19:45

"I trust the NHS sonographer much more than an expensive private company who make such claims and have small print if the results are wrong."

A lot of the time the private sonographers are also NHS sonographers, and they are allowed to tell you more at a private scan. In some areas the NHS outsource their scans to private companies as well.

PenguinsandtheTantrumofDoom · 11/01/2015 20:04

Do you plan on more than one child? If you're so horrified at putting a boy in a pink pram or car seat, is pink a good plan?

But yes, Harmony will be accurate. Scans not necessarily.

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Zahrah5 · 11/01/2015 23:58

We are not planning to have more children so I do not see point of putting my baby in gender neutral stuff just to save maybe potentially in future.

I had hard decision deciding about the pram color, between fuchsia pink and turquiose blue but it is only color pack fabrics. I might buy the blue anyway just to switch. The oink car seat was misunderstanding with my husband, i told him green and he brought home fuchsia pink, but he did so much effort and the seat was beaufiful so I said nothing.

As many of you have always wished for yellow/ green baby stuff. She only has 2 pink sleepsuits, and 2 dresses and one newborn set most of her clothes we bought so far are actually different colors, many greens ( love green) but they have girly details.
I find really hard to find something in yellow or green, teal or turquoise or at least peach what I like. Im planning to ourchase all yellow pieces from Next new collection, amazing yellow, but you would in no way put that on boy.
Im really liking also Mothercare new stuff for boys-baby blue with turquoise and was gonna get her some pieces.

My baby is in no means all pink at all, i meant girly clothes. I just buy what I see and like. I love bright colors.

Thanks for reassurance regarding Harmony.

Regarding my cousin, they live in different country so Im not sure how they were informed about the gender, but I know in their system they have much much more scans so more opportunities to see.

What is concerning to me is the fact that if the sonographers can mistake boys and girls genital how are we to trust their other findings, such as NT measurement, heart checks, ductus venosus and tricuspid flow, etc which require much more precision and baby is much smaller. Just makes me doubt in the entire thing right now.

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Gautami · 12/01/2015 00:08

CHristelle Your sonographer flashed his willy at you

Observer78 · 12/01/2015 00:25

EssexMummy123 Thank you! Private sonographer is not tied by NHS guidelines and will help you a lot more. Ours effectively saved our baby's life, by giving info that NHS won't (due to strict guidelines; have a chat about that with any reputable specialist. Best port of call for that would be Fetal Medicine Centre, they'll know to recommend someone in your area).

OP - Harmony test is very accurate.

WD41 · 12/01/2015 00:33

This happened to somebody I know. The Harmony testing turned out to be wrong and their girl turned out to be a boy. He had to go in a pink pushchair and wear dresses and when he grew up he was gay. Terrible business

Observer78 · 12/01/2015 01:26

WD41 sleep deprived and nursing ?

Gautami · 12/01/2015 10:35

WD41

notasleep · 12/01/2015 11:28

Zahrah scans always come with the caveat that they won't necessarily pick up problems. But with the other measurements/ checks I think that there are more standard measurements which sonographers use for each part of the baby's anatomy, so it's easier to spot when something falls outside these frames of reference.

With spotting boy/girl I think it's more a case of spot the willy or lack of! So much room for human error here. Plus in nhs scans stress that the scan is to check for anomalies and so they don't allocate much time for finding out sex.

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