To share the gender or not?

[Tranquilitybaby]

We've known the gender of our baby since 12 weeks, but still can't decide whether to share it with friends and family (only our children and my parents currently know).

I'm bot sure I'm ready to share yet, but I also don't want to have to think before I speak all the time (have nearly slipped up a couple of times since) , look over my shoulder when buying baby things etc.

What did you do?

Your Inlaws sound hard work egog. Definitely not telling mine we know that's for sure.

The more replies I read, the more I'm glad we haven't said anything. Think we'll just keep it to ourselves.

This thread has answered why people sometimes choose to keep it secret as I could never understand why, to me it seemed smug and as if people thought it was massively important to others when in reality it is only us parents who are really interested in whether its a boy or girl.

I do however still think it's smug and a bit self important if people say "yes we know but we aren't telling", if you find out and don't want to share or be pestered then simply say you didn't find out.

Regarding people buying presents aimed towards a specific gender you'll probably find you still get these things as most people wait until the baby is born before they shop.

I don't think it's selfish at all not to tell people.
I couldn't careless if other people find it annoying or not.
I had to reveal that I was pregnant to my nutter mil much sooner than I wanted. I've had to endure her blabbing even though I told her I had a history of complications and wanted to wait till the 12 week scan.
So I'll be keeping this information to between me and dh if we decide to find out.