'Any sign of baby yet?'

[ACardiganForCat]

I'm 39 weeks tomorrow and received a fb message along these lines from sil today!
Grrrr! I think she will know when it's out!

reply with 'oh yes, it came three weeks ago. Did we forget to tell you?'

Or maybe the baby will text me to let me know when it's coming?

Don't be grumpy, she's being nice and expressing an interest. I don't suppose she actually gives more than one and a half hoots about your baby but she knows you're circling the delivery room and she wants to express support.

I know she's just being nice but it's frustrating when people ask this when all I want is the baby out but it reminds me that so far there are NO signs of baby.

Say, why yes there is, there's an arm in my pants, I'm sure the rest will follow shortly.

It such a stupid question, like the baby might be making an appearance but you in your pregnancy addled state just might have failed to notice, unless some helpful person issues a timely reminder.

Agree with Bluestocking she's just being nice and taking an interest. Not really a stupid question either is it? There are 'signs' that babies are on there way!

However at 39weeks pregnant you're allowed to be annoyed by most things I think!

And there are "signs" - I fondly remember the massive attack of diarrhoea followed by a classic Bloody Show! Not sure your SIL needs those sort of details though.

I had diarrhoea last week! Was not a sign! Also you can have cramps for weeks before the baby turns up. I will only take crowning as a sign.

"Oh yes, I saw baby the other day, bumped into her in the shops."

"No, how about you?" (to someone who isn't pregnant)

It's so infuriating. My cousin posted the same on my FB wall when I was two weeks over, so I had the joy of everyone else chiming in too. I really don't think it's 'just nice' - I think it's insensitive and often more about nosiness/wanting to be the first to know. Annoying. Being overdue is hard.

Just realised you're not even due yet, well that's doubly silly then...

Ooo you have the same due date as me

Everyones started asking me too, ive had to really stop myself from snapping. So my thoughts are with you x

Biscuits, any signs yet????

Text her back a long and detailed reply about mucus, including colour and texture. She won't ask again.

ACardiganForCat DS is in there for the long run i think! I'll race you to see who goes first though!

www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com

I love that link. Update: nothing has happened. I ate some porridge so maybe that will help.

Just tell her that your bump is a pretty good sign of a baby and when the baby is born you will make an announcement to family and friends. I wouldn't discuss signs that can last for weeks when you're not even due yet!

If it's the first time someone asks I honestly don't mind. Assume they're asking if you're having BH or similar.

However last time one of my friends insisted on texting every few days to ask. To which I just replied 'no' with nothing else.

Yes, god those awful people who insist on contacting you with messages expressing they are supporting you and excited for you during a very important time in your life.

Those utter, utter bastards.

She's just showing a polite interest, it's a way of asking how you are. Yes, it gets slightly repetitive to have to keep saying no to these kind of questions (I'm 41 weeks and have had a LOT of them) but I appreciate people taking an interest and asking. I would be upset if no one was contacting me to ask.

I have a friend who is updating us via FB on her progress. (Induced yesterday, no baby yet) and I am surprised she is being so public.

Don't be angry with Sil but tell her that you will let her know privately and not on social media.

I went to a Ball at 36 weeks and couldn't find a bag to match beautiful maternity ball gown so left phone behind. When I got back to hotel 6 hours later my Facebook was full of messages as people hadn't been able to get hold of me. I was annoyed but at least people cared!!