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Pregnant again after two miscarraiges....and scared witless

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Daisybump · 09/10/2006 13:09

Just found out I'm pregnant again (EDD 18 June) after ttc for just one month. Had mc in November last year at 11 weeks (probably a missed mc as hadn't been feeling well for weeks) PG again in April (again after only one month) and had second mc at six weeks. Debated trying again for ages (37 now and DH 39) as feeling our age, but decided last month to go ahead and try and bam....BFP this morning.
Excited scared nervous and worried in equal measure....oh and feeling sick sick sick. Fingers crossed for third time lucky!
Oh, have DS who is 4 and desperate for a brother or sister.

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3andnomore · 09/10/2006 13:22

Awwwww, I hope this pg will go all well!
I had a m/c before and after es, and was so scared in all my pg's to miscarry, you just feel so on edge!
With my 2 younger sons I took a higher dose of Folic acid and with those 2 pg's I had no bleeding or anything...with es I still had bleeding in pg, etc....!I took the higher dose because I myself have a cleft lip and palate and there is a theory that a higher dose of Folic acid can reduce the risk of Birthdefects like that!
I also read many years ago, that lack of Folic acid can cause M/c...but really don't know if that is true or not!
Also, some woman have a certian bloodcondition, and unless they take a low dose aspirin they can't stay pg!

bogwobbit · 09/10/2006 13:24

Hi Daisybump,

many congratulations to you, and fingers (and toes etc) crossed that this is third time lucky for you.
Sorry you're feeling sick, but I've heard that actually feeling like this can be a sign that a pregnancy is going well.
lots of luck to you.

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Daisybump · 09/10/2006 13:35

Thanks for the support. I was dignosed two years ago with coeliac disease (gluten intolerance) but have been told by GP that provided I'm managing it successfully there should be no problems as the main issues for coeliacs are iron and calcium deficiency, and I take supplements of those. I didn't know whether or not it was safe to increase the recommended dose of folic acid, but I may give that a go

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3andnomore · 09/10/2006 13:49

Daisybump, may talk it through with your gp, as it would have to be perscribed anyway....my gp was supportive of this...I did print some Info out about it, a the time...but never neede to show him it, as he had already heard the same
I took, if I remember correctly, 5mg, instead of the 0.4 mg that are usually suggested...

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Daisybump · 09/10/2006 14:00

3andnomore
I've handid in my smaple tomy GP so will prob see him next week. I'll chat it over with him then. I'll also get a referral to the early pregnancy unit at our local hospital so that should be some additional re-assurance. for now it's just fingers (and legs ) crossed.

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shhhh · 09/10/2006 14:26

Congrats..!! I had x2 mc's before I fell pregnant with dd and now dd is 16 months we are expecting ds2b in Jan07.

The sickness is a good sign imo. Put your feet up and rest as much as you can, you are at a vital point in "babys" life atm.

Be prepared for lots of worries and stresses over the next 9 months and indeed the next 30+ years..!!! Due to our mc's dh & I stressed about everything with dd and are the same with ds2b. I think its especially worse when you have experienced a mc BUT lots of mer's are here to help you. xx

twocatsonthebed · 09/10/2006 14:29

Congratulations, Daisybump! Hope this one does go well.

Given your history both in terms of coeliac disease and miscarriage, I think you should ask your GP about being referred to a consultant. I was, just on the basis of previous miscarriages, and it was a reassurance (and I'm 40, and currently 37 weeks if that is also reassuring!).

And you can always come and chat to us on the pregnancy after miscarriage thread - there are people on there at all stages of pregnancy, and everyone understands the scared/nervous/worried/happy merrygoround that you find yourself on.

foundintranslation · 09/10/2006 14:35

Congratulations daisybump! I mc once before ds and over the last 3 months have mc twice in consecutive cycles (the last one was most probably a blighted ovum and probably, thankfully, not related to the other). I will be trying again once I have had a period, but if and when I get pg again I expect I shall feel much the same as you are now. It's awful the way mc casts a shadow over future pregnancies, but with every week that passes you know you are closer to your 'goal'. The odds are very much on your side, despite your history, that everything will be OK this time. Thinking of you!

shhhh · 09/10/2006 14:53

good luck fit. I agree..the best time when trying for a baby was the 1st time we got pregnant. Everything seemed so nice and happy and perfect. I never for one moment thought I would loose my baby. In fact I had never heard of a mc.. But it did happen. Then when we started trying it seemed not as special iykwim and when we got pregnant we worried about what had happened before..again we mc. Then we tried for the 3rd time and tbh it did seem a chore. "I'm ovulating NOW" etc.We had a honeymoon baby and obviously dd was meant to be.

I get so "jealous" of people who stop the pill, are pregnant within months and all goes well with the pregnancy and baby..But in a good way iykwim..They seem to be care free...sadly I think a mc is with you with each and every baby you decide to conceive.Thats the sad part of it...

trace2 · 09/10/2006 14:59

congrats Daisybump, ive just posted on june 07 thread, where i am there, i hope its sticky one

3andnomore · 09/10/2006 16:27

ssshhh...it will always stay with you, won't it....the first Baby I miscarried would have been due on the 29th February 1996, as it was a leap year....when it came round the first time, I was not that upset, as I was pg with es and due in June, so, had that to look forward....but every anniversary that does come, I do wonder if it was a boy or a girl, and what was wrong,etc....!
It's weird sometimes how unsupportive people around you can sometimes be....people that never have miscarried seem to find it difficult to imagine why after a m/c you would worry yourself so much about it, stating things like, well, whats to be is to be, etc...which of course is true, but that doesn't stop us get upset, etc...!

stretchmarks · 09/10/2006 16:36

Congratulations daisybump, fingers crossed for this one.

I know what you mena baout people being unsupportive 3andnomore. A friend of mine told me she was pregnant on the weekend and although I ma pleased for them it also intensified my loss again and I was rather Peeved that she never asked how I was doing. It's only been 6 wks since the MC which seems like nothing to me but other people seem to assume it's all done and over.

rahrah1 · 09/10/2006 23:07

Congrats Daisybump, All the very best on your PG. My doctor has suggested deap breathing excerises - Yoga to help with anxiety. But totally agree, push your GP or midwife to refer you to a consultant. This will give you reassurance and assistance if you require specialist advise. Good Luck with the Sickness!!

rahrah1 · 09/10/2006 23:08

Sorry - my spelling seems be affected... Deep breathing!!! (Instead of deap haha)

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