Telling difficult neighbour re. baby

[pepperfish]

Did anyone else notify their neighbours of their noisy new addition?

Our neighbour is, and has always been, 'difficult' about sound. We live in an old victorian terrace.

According our neighbour, we are loud and inconsiderate. We've never really got an explanation on how we are noisy exactly, we just get ranted at occasionally 'about the noise'. We don't have a TV, or any kind of music player, and we are both softly spoken people who work until 8pm and go to bed around 11. All a bit confusing but we've done what we can to be considerate.

Anyway, baby no.1 on the way - do we tell the cranky old bat out of courtesy or do we let her work it out for herself?

Congrats. Ignore her. I work in housing and there are some people who'll always perceive unreasonable noise and a many of them time it's their own issue. No-one could reasonably object to a newborn baby crying now and then. Ignore her and enjoy.

Ignore. There's a difference between a baby crying -which can't be helped- and antisocial behaviour like an extremely loud TV or music. One can't be helped and is acceptable, the other two are rude and imposing.

Congrats too btw.

Oh yes please have a home birth, hilarious!

But seriously don't mention it, you mustn't be worrying about what she thinks at all.