Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

travelling and advice

39 replies

Luc1820 · 23/11/2014 23:37

To start off I have two questions but kinda rela
related.

  1. I'm 19 and me and my fiance tried for a baby but I had Trouble conceiving leaving me having tests to c if I can concieve. Anyway my mum knew bout us trying and was OK about it. Now because I'm waiting for my results and because I go on holiday less than 10 months away my mum wants us to wait until the holiday is over before we try for a baby...I don't know if I can.coz I have real baby blues and all my friends r having babies which is making me jealous specially seen as I don't know if I can have children yet. What do you suggest.

  2. if I do wait till nearer the holiday I want to know from pregnant women out there. Have you ever been abroad pregnant and not known you were pregnant and if you did know how much hassle was it. Thanks.

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
GingerbreadPudding · 14/12/2014 18:45

I'm 33 weeks pregnant and have been more or less immobile with spd and dislocated ribs since 20 weeks. There is no way I could do any travelling, I can't even walk to the corner shop. I'd do you'd holiday and then start ttc. Use the time to go to Pilates and build your core muscles up. I wish I had!

TheScenicRoute · 14/12/2014 18:53

I agree not to book, but I also don't think you should put your plans on hold either. My only concern is that you should not TTC the month before going to Disney, if you are pregnant you can't go on any of the rides, and if you're in that in between bit where you are not sure if you're pregnant or not, it'll ruin the holiday for you and potentially leave you feeling guilty if you find out you were pregnant and on the rides. You'd waste a lot of money going there if you are pregnant and can't use the rides as well, you'll just be the coat and bag holder! Good luck. X

Pico2 · 14/12/2014 19:35

I think you are over involved because most adults don't discuss their plan to conceive with their parents or go on holiday with them. I think you need to fully separate and live as adults before having your own children. But that is based on my experience and the people I know.

Misty414 · 14/12/2014 19:46

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Luc1820 · 14/12/2014 19:52

I'm going on my last family holiday .... My brother who is 24 is going. It's mainly coz we r getting older my parents wanted to have the last trip wid us before we fly the nest.

OP posts:
Luc1820 · 14/12/2014 19:54

Thank u for all ur advice

OP posts:
Cullercoats88 · 14/12/2014 21:27

I would suggest that you carry on with your TTC plans but don't bother booking your holiday. I say this for a couple of reasons; if you are pregnant and know about it, then the rides are a no no and depending on where you are in your pregnancy you may still be sick/tired/loss of appetite. None of these things make for a fun holiday. Secondly, if you are pregnant and don't know you will forever feel guilty if you eat/drink/go on rides/basically do anything you shouldn't really be doing.
Thirdly, if you aren't pregnant at that point and are still trying, you may want to keep all your resources, I.e money, so that you and your fiancé can either look to have private treatment or even just have a mini holiday yourselves away from the family.
Best of luck

LittleBearPad · 14/12/2014 21:38

If you're in your first trimester you are likely to feel like shit
If you're in your third trimester you won't be able to fly.
You won't be able to go on any rides whilst pregnant.
Disney World with a newborn would be hell on earth.
If you want to TTC then don't book the holiday or alternatively wait until you are back. You are very young, time is very much on your side.

Gillian1980 · 15/12/2014 02:22

I think you need to choose one or the other and stick to a plan. So I guess prioritising which you want to focus on at this stage.

If you want one last family holiday with your parents before you move on and start your own family then I think you should wait and TTC afterwards.

But if you don't want to wait then I would advise not booking the holiday.

Having experienced the humidity and chaos there, I can't imagine a worse place to be while pregnant. And I doubt you'd really be up to it with a newborn either.

On a side note, my DH was hospitalised in USA this year and even though it was all covered by insurance we had to pay everything upfront then claim it back once we returned home. It was many thousands. So bear this in mind if you do need treatment.

peasandlove · 15/12/2014 02:44

I agree with the posters above. You need to choose. If you get pregnant you will not be able to go. I'd go and revisit trying to have a baby once you get back. Or maybe you'll get a thirst for seeing some other stuff and go and live a bit more life before becoming a parent Wink

Babiecakes11 · 15/12/2014 02:59

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

peasandlove · 15/12/2014 05:15

I travelled to New York when I was 4 mths pregnant. I was tired. I didnt have as good a time as I had the first time I went. I went to Greece at 5mths and this wasnt so bad, other than watching what I ate etc.
But I'd rather go to Disney when I could fully enjoy it or what's the point

ChatEnOeuf · 15/12/2014 09:25

Firstly I'm very surprised a UK doctor would be investigating or offering medication for fertility after just four months of TTC - most women who are able to conceive will do so within a year, so it is pertinent to wait that long until investigating and treating.

WRT to the holiday - how important is it to you that you go? If it pales into insignificance when compared with having a baby, then don't book. If you're not pregnant come April, you can always book then, safe in the knowledge you can still go and be safe to fly even if you were to conceive that day. If however, it's the holiday of a lifetime that you desperately want to be a part of, I would hold off TTC until April or so, so you're sure you won't book and then be stuffed.

I've flown short haul a few times while pregnant - all European destinations, mostly as I live on the continent but I also skied when in very early pregnancy with DD. I have a long haul flight booked in Feb (law of sod thoroughly invoked there!), for a family holiday to the caribbean. I have the insurance, I will get the 'fit to fly' note and will only be 22 weeks on holiday. I booked because I knew I'd be safe even if I did get pregnant (which I did, after a year of miscarriages and trying), and I know it is a relaxing holiday with family to help look after DD, food is high quality, water clean and healthcare good standard should I run into difficulties.

Luc1820 · 15/12/2014 17:22

I didn't say anything bwt fertility....they investigated it coz I had this problem before and I have a medical condition which they r trying to find out if it's affecting my period.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page