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How old are the fathers?

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12yeargap · 04/10/2006 14:16

My OH is 49, and convinced that everyone will think he is baby's grandfather. Anyone got/knows of similarly ancient fathers/fathers to be, so I can tell him he's not the only one? (I'm 33 BTW. What can I say, I like older men )

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southeastastralplain · 04/10/2006 14:20

i've got a 10 year gap and my dp was 43 when we had our second son (dp is now 47) there are loads of older dads around!

justamum · 04/10/2006 14:23

i'm 32 and my dad is 71, so he was a bit younger than your OH but not much. My Dad has the mental age of a wayward teenager though so it has never mattered. There are loads of older dads out there and haven't studies shown that older men make better fathers anyway

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QuootieSpookypie · 04/10/2006 14:24

my dad was 45 when mum had me

geordiemacminx · 04/10/2006 14:24

My dp is 43, I'm 24. He has a dd 15 and ds 11 from a previous marriage. I dont worry so much about people mistaking him for the baby's granddad but do worry about him smoking too much and not being around as long as I would like him to be. Having said that there are no guarentees in this world, you can die at 21.

I think its more and more common for both older men and woman to have children.. especially in "professionals" that chose to start a family later.

As long as you are happy, and he has plenty love to give yout little one it doesnt matter!!!

gigglinggoblin · 04/10/2006 14:25

dp is 45, he was 43 when ds3 (his 1st) was born, next is due in feb. i am 18 years younger but no one has ever commented on age gap (at least not to my face)

KoshkaTheFriendlyGhost · 04/10/2006 14:30

my dad is somewhere in the region of 55-60 and his other kids are 12 and 8. but that was his 3rd marriage!

expatinscotland · 04/10/2006 14:36

DH was 25 when DD1 was born and 28 when DD2 came along.

expatinscotland · 04/10/2006 14:37

As for people thinking your OH is the grandfather, tell them to mind their own business.

Who cares what they think, anyhow, so long as you are happy?

TarkaTheHeadlessOtter · 04/10/2006 14:38

dp was 24 at first child and will hopefully be 39-40 for the last

CurrantBun · 04/10/2006 16:51

There was a 10-year age gap between my parents; I was born when my mum was 27 and my dad 37.

I honestly never noticed or cared as I was growing up that my dad was "older". He was really quite immature at times, mucking around with us and encouraging us to take risks that my mum would never have approved of - climbing into the highest boughs of trees, leaping across rivers, riding our bikes without holding the handlebars ...

I'll never have that situation myself as I'm 5 years older than DH. Figured as women tend to live longer than men it made sense to opt for a younger model!

Neena28 · 04/10/2006 16:56

Mine is more than 10 years older and less than 15. Has been thought a couple of times but haven't really bothered about it. Waht's done is done and it isn't anyone else's problem so if they have an opinion I'm not really that interested!!!

WigWamBam · 04/10/2006 17:03

When dd was born I was 38 and dh was 44. Dd is now 5, and we're 43 and 49. We've only been mistaken for her grandparents once ... and it was funny, not embarrassing (although it was pretty embarrassing for the person who made the mistake!).

Once the baby is here, other people's reactions won't mean anything at all to him.

lubella · 04/10/2006 19:13

I am 29 and DH 49 he is a tad insecure about being an "older" Dad but honestly nowadays it is not so rare and no one really bats an eyelid; only an issue if you/he makes it one.
Tell him not to worry in the slightest, even if some people do think that he is the GF, anyone who judges you negatively for that is not worth the time of day anyway...

Elibean · 04/10/2006 20:09

dh was 43 when dd was born, will be 46 when dd2 is born. And I am the same age as him.

And what is more, there are several clearly older than dh Dads at dd's pre-school (and at least one clearly older than me Mum).

We would'nt have chosen it this way, either of us, but are immensely grateful that its happened. And the only people who have judged or reacted so far have been....us

HTH

eidsvold · 05/10/2006 09:24

dd was 40 when dd1 was born, 42 when dd2 was born and turning 45 when baby no 3 arrives.

CheesyFeetcomingtoGETyou · 05/10/2006 11:14

My Mum was 42 when my sister was born, people would assume that I was her mum and that Mum was her gran. We just used to laugh it off and now it's something of a family joke.

aDAdOnMumsnet · 05/10/2006 11:22

I'm 35 this month, and my dad will be 81. Didn''t really know that he was an older dad until I was maybe 10 when I saw his date of birth in his passport.

bumperlicious · 15/10/2006 10:44

I'm 25 and DH is 41 and about to become a dad for the first time. Conversely, my dad is only 45, but I have brothers who are 9 and 10 and the other day in a shop a shop assistant called him my partner and must have though I was my bro's mum - ewwwwww! That's much worse!

Mum2FunkyDude · 15/10/2006 10:47

OH yes, FunkyDude is 10.5 months and Dad2FunkyDude is 46! I'm 33. Friends jokingly said, one day when FunkyDude is on the football pitch his friends would say, "oh, I see your grandad came to watch"!

Mum2FunkyDude · 15/10/2006 10:48

My mum was 37 when I was born and dad was 39.

MerlinsBeard · 15/10/2006 10:53

My parents were 22 when i was born (i am the oldest). DP is now 30 and we have a 3 year old and an 18 month old. I am 24

desperate2bmum · 15/10/2006 11:24

i am 20 and my dp is 41, we are still trying for our first but the age thing doesnt bother me at all.he is as fit as a fidddle (thinks he looks 30 but i beg to differ) he can run circles around all the younger lads he works with. age is just a number at the end of the day and as long as your partner can provide and show love and support for your family..what more can a woman ask for.

notagrannyyet · 15/10/2006 11:26

DH was 50 when our youngest was born. There is a dad who collects is DD from our school who was in his mid 60s when she was born, and a friend of DH was born to a dad of 71!

Lact8HisLiverWithANiceChianti · 15/10/2006 11:27

Well, i'm the other way around. I'm 30, DP is 23. I worry that he'll be asked is his mum in when he answers the door

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